My nephew is a very intelligent young man. He gets all A's in school and is very well mannered. His mother loves him very much and spoils him to death. She has him so spoiled that she still allows him to sleep in the bed with her. He is 16 and in the 10th grade. He also still drinks out of the same sippy cup that he had when he was 2 years old. I was shocked at this. He came to my house one day and when I offered him a soda, he pulled out the sippy cup and poured it in their to drink out of it.
I tried talking to his mother and letting her know that I don't think that this behavior is normal. She got offended and felt that I was calling her a bad mother. I don't think that she is a bad mother but I don't think that a 16 year old should still be sleeping in his mother's bed or drinking out of a sippy cup. What do you think? Advice please!
2007-01-26 04:59:36 · 45 answers · asked by mamabag06 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
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2007-01-26 08:05:10 · answer #1 · answered by HIDY 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I actually had to read it twice, thinking this was a joke. The mother has a big problem and there's something not right in her and her son's behaviour. She needs to see a shrink and he does too.
I would be really scared that she's doing sonething with this boy that a mother shouldn't do, if you get my drift. I earnestly would have to think about reporting it to a childs aid service. Any 16 year old drinking out of sippy cup is disturbing, let alone sleeping in the same bed as his mother.
However I do think this is a joke, but for further references I leave my answer maybe you will need it later in life.
2007-01-26 05:12:24 · answer #2 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! No, that is not acceptable. I, being 16 myself, have been sleeping by myself for close to 11 years now, and I skipped the sippy cup phase all together. It is very important (especially for speech) that this behavior is stopped. Sippy cups are harmful over extended periods of time (16 years being extremely harmful), and sleeping in the same bed as a parent, while not as bad as a sippy cup, is bad for a teen. It might be best to tell his mother that this behavior is unhealthy.
2007-01-26 05:09:34 · answer #3 · answered by Titainsrule 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would want to know first does he have a dissability of some sort like Autism, Or Mentally challenged in any way. If that is the case, you need to let the mother worry about him. I have a brother in law who is 29 and he still plays with legos and he still has his blanky from when he was a baby. He is still only two in his brain but has some highly inteligent ways about him.
Now, if that is not the case, this family needs help that you cannot give them. I think you would do best to call CPS because he is still a child, or to suggest counseling. Talking to a parent about a child is not easy, if the child has mental issues to be delt with the mother probably knows about it but is in denial.
I do beleive what you are saying because these things do happen, it is just rare.
2007-01-26 07:23:29 · answer #4 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is very strange for a 16 year old to sleep in the same bed as his mother and to still drink from a sippy cup. I would say he needs to start being around people his own age more often.
2007-01-26 05:05:24 · answer #5 · answered by chris l 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sounds a little hard to believe that a 16 year old would take a sippy cup out in public, a little strange. Unless the child has mental problems. If this is really going on, maybe you should contact Child Protective Services and get him help.
2007-01-26 05:09:53 · answer #6 · answered by Proud Mother 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What she doesn't know is that she ie an ENABLER. She is enabling her son to fail in his adult life. Everything she is showing him he will take to his dult life. Like work. Can you imagine him expecting naps, or using the sippy cup on the job. Or not being able to do anything without MOMMIE cosnent. What will it do to his social life, and with women. He will never get a girl to respect him sleeping in moms bed. THis is ridiculous, and is boderline bad parenting. Im glad you had the nerve to say something most people wouldnt
2007-01-26 05:07:38 · answer #7 · answered by surfinnorcal77 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is definitely not normal mother and son behavior. They both need some sort of counseling. He takes the sippy cup with him when he goes places wow. A therapist would have a field day with this.
2007-01-26 05:17:12 · answer #8 · answered by gigischildcare 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not just strange, it isn't healthy. Sounds very much like a co-dependent relationship to me. Both the mother and the son need some serious help. This guy will (or should) be out on his own in two years. He isn't going to fare well out in the "real world" if he is still as attached to his mother as he was at the age of 2.
2007-01-26 05:10:48 · answer #9 · answered by Scottie 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think the mother needs to find someone her own age and mentallity to share her love with. Don't get me wrong I love my kids but I think I would much rather sleep in bed with some I am In Love With, like a boyfriend or husband. I think the mother needs some help as well as the boy
2007-01-26 05:13:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Uh..this mother has issues. My concern is the potential there for an incestuous relationship to occur. Let's not forget the emotional scars he'll suffer when he gets out in the real world.
A male subjected to such behavior will end up insecure and reliant on "mommy". He's setting himself up for a lifetime of relationships where "mom" will carry alot of weight in his choices.
2007-01-26 05:21:25 · answer #11 · answered by shaulbrook72 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋