i want to have children?

Question

but im kind of worried that i wont be a good mum, and im also worried about the pain you go through when the baby is ready to come into the world, i love kids so much, but im scared, and people tell me bad stories which have happened to them or to people they no, so how can i get through this, any advice would be greatfull, thank you

Answer 1

If your not ready then it's ok. It's a really painful process because i had to help my mother when my baby sister arrived. If you don't want to go through all the pain i would suggest addopting a child, it also helps them too.

Answer 2

Well, only you know the real answers to this, but rest assured that most all of us worry that we won't be good mothers and worry about the pain. I still worry that I'm not doing the right things and he's three! My friend reminds me that I must be doing something right if he's as happy as he is.

I suppose that you can look at the rest of your life. I, for instance, was a teacher almost until I got pregnant. I've corresponded with many former students and they all tell me I was a good teacher and, as much as I worried about that, too, I know I am. How successful are you in the rest of your life? I'm sure you struggled with how well you did some things, if you were going to make it, you were frustrated but persevered...it's the same sort of thing.

As for the pain, I was scared of that, too. Every now and again it would come up when I was pregnant but I just decided to ignore it. Some say read up on it and know what's coming, but I knew what was coming and I knew it would hurt some way. I also knew there was no way of escaping it and that I'd gotten through other painful illnesses and such in my life and I'd get through this. It was no picnic, but I got through it. You will to. We all do and, though I thought I wouldn't be able to forget the intensity like they say, I must say I have. That's how we end up having more.

You're welcome to contact me if you'd like with other questions or whatever.

Answer 3

Nobody gives a birth to her child, because she is ready to be a good mom. You learn as you raise your child. That's one of the most wonderful experiences, people often say, to learn how to be good parents. At least, it means you care about being a good mother. I'm pretty sure that you will make a wonderful mother.
I'm not going to deny that it'll be the most severe pain you'll ever have in your life... But the time you'll be suffering is really nothing compared to the long time of happiness you'll be enjoying with your child after that. You need a courage. Let me talk to your husband, I will tell him to give you a plenty of courage everyday. ;)

Answer 4

First off you should talk w/ your partner and see how he feels about this then decide where to go from there. But the pregnacy thing, everything happens for a reason talk to your doctor and see if your healthy enough to have a baby and if there will be any complications if not go through with it b/c not everything everyone else experiences will happen to you

Answer 5

if youre a goodhearted and loving person and patient you are ready to be a mum lottsa live and attention youll be perfect at it. it is painful when you go inot labor but nothing to be afraid about, they will give you iv pain meds or an epidural if you ask for one than it will barely hurt but let me tell you what after that lil one is born nd youre holding them in youre arms you forget bout all the pain its worth it all ive got 4 children i just had my fourth one last month its wonderful. if you need any more help or concerns feel free to email me at [e-mail] id love to help...

Answer 6

your concerns are normal. i had the same thing. however here's my story-

-found out i was 4 mths preggie (pill story- i'm not dumb, just the luck).
-not sick a day in the nine months
-no cravings except sweet after meals (normal)
-small tummy
-everyone told me i was in labour all day but it was so slight i did not believe until water broke.
-got to hospital 8.30pm, started getting hard pains 10.30pm had son 1.02am (that's about 2-1/2 hrs severe pain.
- released after 24 hrs, bouncing baby boy- 6.6 lbs.
- proud mother of almost 5 mth old.
- best thing to happen to me even though he was unexpected.
- the joy of my life and reason for living.

All pergnancies are not the same don't let them get you down.

Answer 7

judging by your question. if you are asking these question and you arent even pregnant, you arent ready.