He's older than me and very intelligent. When I'm on the phone to him, I get really nervous, my mother was listening to my conversation with him just now, and she said, you sound like you wanna get off the phone to him cuz you're nervous of something. I think it's cuz I'm scared to say the wrong thing or that we might run out of conversation. I'm 22 and have had numerous boyfriends whom I've spoken on the phone for hours....what can I do to overcome this?! I hate it.
2007-01-26 04:55:27 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we've spoken for an hour on the phone before and things were ok cuz I knew what to say, it's just going from one convo to another. I think I'm intimidated by him, yes, he is very much older than me
2007-01-26 05:01:51 · update #1
Maybe you should think about your relationship a little bit more and think about what it is you wan tout of the relationship if you feel you and your boyfriend are going to run out of things to say then maybe you have nothing in common and if your afraid to say what it is that's on your mind to him than maybe you should really think about what type of relationship your in if he loved you than you wouldn't be worried about things like convo with him you wouldn't be worried at all think about yourself and like I said what it is you want out of your relationship.
2007-01-26 05:12:52 · answer #1 · answered by Spacious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the same way, ive had numerous bf that i take on the phone for hour. But its like this is differnt, sometimes i feel like when we do talk. he intimidates b/c he think since he's older he knos everything, so like no if were every on the phone i am so quit, and i get so fustrated. cause i wana talk to him, but when we do talk its very, very small talk like "how your day been" and stuff. I really dont kno to be honest, sometime i make up stuff just to spark an conversation. Sorry if this doesnt help, but GOOD LUCK.
2007-01-26 05:04:16 · answer #2 · answered by tiffany_da_finest 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm 32 and I can tell you that there is no reason that you should be in that relationship. You can't possibly be happy or enjoy yourself if you feel scared or intimidated when you see or speak to him. Your best bet is to end it and find someone you are comfortable with and can be yourself around. Life is too short to be hung up like this on a guy that you can't feel comfortable around. Jessica, you're better than you think you are... be proud of who you are and what you have to offer.
2007-01-26 05:06:38 · answer #3 · answered by Paleface 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is truly intelligent then you have a problem, intelligent people can see through you, they can anticipate your problems and manipulate the way you feel twords issues or do things in your daily life with ease.
Chances are your way out of your league, id run if I was you, nothing good can come from someone who is intelligent.
But if you dont heed my warning and stay with him get some confidence with pills, talk to a doctor about anxiety medication.
2007-01-26 05:01:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, talk to him and tell him how you feel towards him while you're on the phone. Maybe that will get him to lower his intellect so you won't feel that way. If that doesn't do it, you're gonna need to break it off with him cause a relationship is no place for one to be scared of the other and you know it.
2007-01-26 05:49:56 · answer #5 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Y would u be intemidated by ur bf? come on if he's ur bf relax a lil and have some fun u kno talk about anything that comes to mind n if ur mom listens in jus tell her to stay out of your private conversations maybe thats whats makeing you nervous.
2007-01-26 05:05:11 · answer #6 · answered by Baby girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break-up is the word. What are you doing in a relationship that is scary? You're not even married to him yet and you are already afraid of him. What do you think is the logical thing to do under that situation? You deserve someone who will love you and treat you as an equal, regardless of whether he is older and wiser than you.
2007-01-26 05:02:36 · answer #7 · answered by Belen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over yourself and be confident. he should like you for who and what you are, whether your a genius or an idiot. why is it necessary to talk on the phone for hours anyway? are you sure you're 22? talk to him in person - it's much easier to keep the flow of conversation going, and it's more quality time. talking for any length of time is boring and necessary only in long-distance relationships.
2007-01-26 05:01:28 · answer #8 · answered by spankypants 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting. Do you guys not have that much in common to talk or do you have to find things to talk about? The nervousness doesn't make sense either, unless there's just no chemistry between you guys; I'd be nervous to talk to someone if there wasn't chemistry; you know?
2007-01-26 05:03:13 · answer #9 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself. If you say the "wrong thing" or run out of conversation than he is not right for you and you are scared because you are not being yourself. if he doesn't like you for who you are, he is not the right person for you and he may even be intimidating you with his integence without you realizing it.
2007-01-26 05:05:28 · answer #10 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋