2007-01-26 04:53:36 · 39 answers · asked by x cutie x 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be totally straight with him and tell him that there's no way you're going to get back together with him. You're trying to move on and you're happy, but it's obvious that he's not. Tell him that you want him to be happy too, but it's not going to be with you. Plead for him to leave you alone, so you can continue with your life and if he doesn't, you're afraid you may have to take legal measures. It seems harsh, but if this guy doesn't get it... maybe a threat like that might help.
2007-01-26 05:00:02 · answer #1 · answered by Heidi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him in no uncertain terms. Leave you alone. You don't want to see him. You don't want his car parked in front of your house. You don't want to be seen with him. You will call him if you need to talk with him but stay out of your sight or else.
The only way you can move on is to keep him away from you. People need to get a clear message that you are both finished before your aura is opened to welcome another person into your life and whenever you are around each other any traces of feeling may be illuminated and people will get the impression that there is something still there.
Sometimes to fit something new you have to get rid of the old completely; can't keep a old shoe because its comfortable to wear when a new one is what you want.
Get the message to your EX loud and clear girl.
2007-01-26 05:03:16 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,it depends I think on how serious the situation is or has gotten. If he's always out where you are and causing problems of any kind; that's considered stalking. If he calls you don't answer, leaves a message, don't respond. If he comes over, don't answer the door. If he becomes violent in your presence, call the police. I'm going through this now, but with my boyfrien'ds ex girlfriend. I actually had to order a No Trespassing File on her. She can't call, come over, prank etc; or she goes to jail. Your situation may not be to this degree; let me know how you are!
2007-01-26 05:01:28 · answer #3 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah - ignore him. It will stop you getting another boyfriend (of any quality, anyway) if you have your "baggage" still hanging around.
I think you need to tell him (no shouting or arguing - very calm and composed) that "I am not interested in going out with you. Please leave me alone". Then ignore all calls, chance meetings with him, and most important of all, any arguments - if you do inadvertently start talking to him, remain vague and calm. He'll run out of steam eventually and move on.
I wouldn't go down the road of an injunction until it's really necessary - if he's looking to gain your attention, getting the police involved satisfies his need for this attention. However, if he really does start getting "weird" with calls and stalking, then tell the police; better safe than sorry.
2007-01-26 05:10:07 · answer #4 · answered by mrWerd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this sounds kind of harsh, but do you know something about him that he doesn't want anyone to know ? Next time your ex comes around when you are with another guy casually bring up whatever it is as something an ex used to do,don't use his name,(yet) make sure your ex hears you. I think that will keep him away. Sometimes you have to be mean to people to get them to leave you alone. I told you it was harsh, but it should work.
2007-01-26 05:03:35 · answer #5 · answered by Big_Dog_Spike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, assuming that one of the ways he is bugging you is by trying to call and talk to you to keep you from moving on, you can stop taking his calls.
He is your ex, and while you may have been trying to still be friends - oftentimes this is not possible. If he is actively seeking to prevent you from moving on - you need to break all forms of communication with him.
2007-01-26 04:58:00 · answer #6 · answered by Marvelissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends he may just want to be friends but if he wants you back and your not interested keep telling him to go away or something but ... if you have 2 pull out the big guns and start a scene in public, like you know, yell at him,
guys always hate it when girls make a scene with them in public and if he doesnt leave you alone after that then well get your new BF to beat him up :D
2007-01-26 05:03:53 · answer #7 · answered by The J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A tazer should do the trick. If he bothers you, flash the tazer under his nose and push the button making it electrify. That might just have the effect you want. You don't have to touch him with it, the looks are bad enough and it's great protection.
2007-01-26 06:01:11 · answer #8 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its because he still loves you and Its hard to stop loving someone because when you get to be with someone just so....cool its hard for them to let you go...I had to samething happened to be but my ex ex boyfriend would come over then I was home alone and try to get in and would not left me adn my family alone it could be because we dating for like 3 years and everyone loved him and he loved everyone and then you broke up with some its hard to forget them they just want to be with you all the time because thats what they did then and its hard to stop....You need to be like dude we broke up and Im ttrying to get with someone elsa and you need to do the same thing and move on....maybe one day we will get back together and in till then no I find someone elsa and I like them a lot so yeah.....
2007-01-26 05:02:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bugging you how? By calling you? If he calls...don't answer the phone. Get caller ID or whatever it takes to cut off communication with him. Don't answer his e-mails. Seriously....just ignore any of his attempts to contact you and he'll eventually go away.
2007-01-26 04:57:05 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋