I'm 20, she's 19. We've been talking for a month, gone out once (she had to cancel twice because of her son). I have never been in a relationship and want to know where we are with one another. How do I ask this?
2007-01-26 04:52:58 · 7 answers · asked by Wocka wocka 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just talk to her like you did here, casual but blunt. Guys dont like women to beat around the bush or hint..well women dont like it either. Just tell her how you feel and ask her as if you were asking a question of less importance. Besides with a kid involved...there isnt really time for bs if you know what I mean.
2007-01-26 04:59:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a touchy situation especially because she has a son and you don't want to put too much pressure on her...I'm sure she has a lot going on. I would say since you are still talking, but have only gone out once, that your prolly not exactly an item, but I wouldn't say you're totally out of the picture either...
If you like this girl, I wouldn't ask her directly where you guys stand...at least not yet...but try to make a valid effort to show that you are still interested...offer to help find her a sitter or do something sweet (like send her some flowers) if plans fall through...let her know that her being a little distracted isn't pushing you away. And most importantly be patient.
If you haven't gone on at least 3 dates in another month or month and a half...I may say hey...I like you, and I would like this to develop more but you seem to have a lot going on, I wouldn't mind waiting, but I want to know how you feel ...and see what she thinks...
And remember, no matter how much you like, it's important to be fair to yourself too.
2007-01-26 05:20:53 · answer #2 · answered by Melis~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I want to say how amazing you must be to date a young girl with a kid. I am young and have a daughter and guys my age run for the hills when they hear that I have a kid. That says alot for your character and what kind of person you are. Good for you.
Anyway just be honest with her. Say that you just want to know if she wants a relationship or if she would like to still see other people while dating you. Don't be super serious when you ask just try to be casual. So she doesn't get the impression that you're putting pressure on her. Good luck.
2007-01-26 05:00:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls with kids are bad news. But if you insist, just take her out to a nice dinner, or make her dinner, and ask her so how do you think this is going. Or if you are the shy type, ask her by text message. Just be original. Ask her how she feels about you. However just be vague about it. Too much persistance makes you look desparate. If she doesn't give you an answer right away, wait a day. Still no answer, she's not that into you.
2007-01-26 04:58:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Asking right now is slightly pre-mature. It doesn't sound like there is a situation to ask about. Just keep your options open, continue to spend time with her, and if she needs a babysitter...offer to pay for one.
Enjoy talking with her. Have fun going out with her. Don't ask anything, as there is no foundation for you to ask. Your question will seem silly right now as you've only been out once.
2007-01-26 06:20:23 · answer #5 · answered by Keep It Sane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont ever ask that question man, just let things happen. You ask questions like that and it will show you lack in confidence which will kill your chances. Just keep dating her, offer to pay for a babysitter and stuff keep at it. Dont ask, just be yourself and do.
2007-01-26 04:56:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
take her to a nice resturant and ask her where ur relationship is going
2007-01-26 05:01:46 · answer #7 · answered by teemah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋