ive asked b4- im 17 and i cant seem to get girls- im not even such a bad lookin guy.. ive never had a gf, im still a virgin, i never even had my first kiss yet and ill b in college soon enuf.. i have a nice amount of friends but im not rlly popular...any advice on how to get the ladies...and wats rong with me!!!?
2007-01-26 04:52:24 · 24 answers · asked by NYRNYM38 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Man, just continue being yourself. When it comes to chicks...just be honest with them.
You seem like a reasonable enough guy...just not a person that's a real go-getter. When you're in college, you'll meet plenty of women, and they'll appreciate honesty, and kindness. I mean, if that's the way you roll. You just have to learn to put yourself out there. If you see a girl you're interested in...go spit your game, son. If she's not interested, big deal, there are plenty more women you'll be attracted to.
It's all about bravado and confidence. But there's a balance between that and arrogance. You definitely don't seem to have a problem of being arrogant...just keep on keepin' on, friend....if you just stay true to yourself, and put yourself out there...
Good luck, mang!
2007-01-26 05:09:55 · answer #1 · answered by allthree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, there is nothing wrong with you. Some of us just need to relax a little and realize that two things can happen when we want to ask a girl out. 1, she can say no 2. she can say yes. But before you ge to that point I suggest you start working on your confidence and ability to talk to women. One thing that I have learned in my years of dating is that not all women are looking for a good looking man and attraction isn't always based on looks. It's all based on attitude. A women hears many times that she is good looking, so if you tell her that she isn't being told something she hasn't already heard. Be funny and make a girl laugh, she will begin to see you in a different light. Start off with intenet chatting, find you a room with a lot of girls and start chatting away, it will help your confidence when you are ready to do it in real life. Be somewhat mysterious, women like a man that is not an open book and when you do get a girl don't smoother her with your presence, absence makes the heart grow fonder. Go somewhere with a friend that is good a picking up women and start to mimic what he does, if he is good at it, he is doing something right.
Good luck and I wish you well.
2007-01-26 05:04:32 · answer #2 · answered by drknowitall 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's important to make friends first. get to know girls as pals and the rest will come in it's own good time.
When you go off to school your world will open up wider and the possibility for a dating relationship will be much more available.
Don't worry if you are getting a slow start. And don't be too quick to give up your virgin status. I still believe in holding on to it for marriage. You will find plenty of girls to date who feel the same way.
What ever you do, don't get desperate or in a hurry. Feelings like that put you at risk to hook up with the first (and probably wrong) girl you meet. Be selective with whom you spend your time and energy on and you will never have to look back in shame.
My thoughts are with you and young people like you who are so ready to share themselves and can't find the right person to share with. Things will happen in their own good time. Keep your head about you and concentrate on becoming a whole person with a bright future. This will make you most attractive to others and make your life what you want it to be.
2007-01-26 05:04:10 · answer #3 · answered by Ande 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound just like me 26 years ago and nothing is wrong with you.First of all don't worry about sex believe me it will happen when it is right and just try to be completly natural around girls, they can tell most of the time when you are being insincere and never think of ANY girl as being too good for you.Find someone nice that you would like to be friends with, ask her out and just have fun.This is a long road you are begining don't be in any hurry to learn all the lessons too soon. Good luck.
2007-01-26 05:14:28 · answer #4 · answered by frogenstien 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is more to life than having a gf in high school .. life is so short .. live life for you .. succeed in your schooling, sports, FRIENDS. Once college comes you'll be on that path for YOU. Choosing the right degree and career path.
If you're a great guy .. the girls will find you but trust me .. girls in high school tend to go for the "bad boy".
Hang in there .. come college you'll be surprised with the amount of girls that notice you.
Friends are with you forever .. girlfriends usually become Xes :)
2007-01-26 04:58:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing is wrong with you. there's so much pressur eon kids to get laid early and hook up with people all the time and from a really early age. It's not healthy and not realistic. Relax about it - your stress is probably showing and stressing the ladies out! The end of high school and college is a time to reinvent yourself and meet new people, have new experiences. hang out with your friends, have fun, do what makes you happy and the girls will work themselves out. Also, dressing nicely and smelling great are two good ways to attract the ladies.
2007-01-26 04:57:44 · answer #6 · answered by imnotachickenyoureaturkey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing!!! You just need to exude self confidence.You can do this in your body language.....your posture...your walk(don't look down) and smile, eye contact is important too.There is nothing wrong with being a virgin.
My son is a senior in HS, he is not popular, he has friends aplenty.He has a GF, but it is on and off.The one thing he has going for him is that he is a positive self confident guy that doesn't care about what anyone thinks of him.He is gentleman with a good carefree attitude. he holds his head up high but keeps his ego in check most of the time.Plus, he is still a virgin.
2007-01-26 05:10:09 · answer #7 · answered by miss-snoopy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol, Hey kid relax, you just say your going to be in college soon.
in college you'll get all the girls you want, because a lot them are single and looking to have fun. So dont rush it, make sure to always dress nice and be outgoing with the girls. Always try to be confident, invite them out, take a chance for once.
2007-01-26 05:00:14 · answer #8 · answered by J . B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about girls right now. They will just ruin your life. Continue to go to school. Get your education, and get a good job. Make your money, and if one comes before then, that's good, but after your done with all that, they will come like mexicans across the rio grande.
2007-01-26 04:56:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you dress, first girls like guys who dress nice have nice shoes and smell nice, and do their hair, you need to have self confidence and if you want to get popular with the ladies make eye contact with them when your walking in the halls at school, smile at them, and if you are comfortable talking to girls say nice things to them, they look nice today or you like something about them.
2007-01-26 05:00:16 · answer #10 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋