i've bin off relationships 4 like a year and three to four months, but dis past week, on monday, i met someone

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very special, d very first person to make me really laff in a long time, and den, she was giving me her history, which had put her off men and relationships 4 a long time {she was raped like a couple of times}. I accepted all dis info and tried 2 let her know dat dere r certain thingz dat happen 2 us and God wants 2 use dem 2 help us meet someone special 2 wipe away our tears and make us stronger, u know, someone special dat we might not have met if not 4 d mitigating circumstances. @ d end of all d talks,{ we actaully talked about all our past relationships, d hurts and d healing processes and tried 2 comfort each other}, I asked her out and she was like no stress, mind u, she's too friendly & trusting. We get along so famously, dat it shows in my evry behaviour, evrybody in my house has commented on my new found happiness. on monday my ([{friendz}]), went 2 her place @ about 11 pm & tried forcing her 2 go along with dem 2 a club, she refused & was threatened 2 stay clear of me &

& asked her 2 break off d relationship with me. she got so dat she refused seeing me since dat monday, not up until yesterday, she was telling me and was rying, now dese r peepz dat i've done a lot of s**t 4, u know peepz u call ur friendz? But d issue now is dat she is telling me dat 4 her good health, and peace of mind, she wants us to break up, u know as in until she decides on wat 2 do, infact she returned all ma property dat were with her and asked me 2 do likewise but i've refused 2 do so. Meanwhile, I have a very good mind 2 go after them and wreck some havoc but my friend {she's a female} was like I should 4give & 4get, right about now, I'm so muddled up, I don't kno wat 2 do, cos on d one hand, I'm thinking of how 2 patch thingz with her and on d other hand, d normal male pride won't allow me to allow dem harrass my woman and go free. NOTE: I REALLY DO LOVE HER AND A BREAK-UP WILL AFFECT ME BADLY.

Answer 1

I think you should confront your friends, but not in the violent manner you want to. That would just put you on the same level as your friends: "thugs". You need to tell them nicely, politely but firmly that you dont want them checking in on her without your knowledge. MEanwhile she has been through a lot, you ought to give her ALOT of time to adjust, help her to get out of the life she used to live, and be extra nice to her (without any crazy or similar demands either!) because she deserves it. If you have been out of relationships for a year, you should be patient enough to give her all the time she needs to make her decision. You could check in on her occassionally and when she needs you. But make her give you when she would make up her mind and then when she gives you her decision to stay or leave, take it in the best of graces. Good luck, you seem to really like her but its all up to her now. Take care, and you know, I gat yo' back too!

Answer 2

properly, there is a few thing else lacking on your difficulty, and your case is the finished opposite of mine, that's organic loving and compassion for the guy i appreciate. i am going to recommend that your boyfriend really needs reassurance from you so as that he can experience his love for you, and that isn't any difficulty. that's in user-friendly words widely used for adult males to have the want of a few reassurance from the lady in order that as that they could experience how a lot they love someone. To improve the communicate, merely search for suggestion from him about being being concerned and loving, as in there are a form of strategies of showing care and expressing love except merely sex. share presents that both one among you want with one yet another, eat at a spectacular eating position that you 2 like, bypass further with what you 2 are doing now, and also you'd be merely advantageous. - Anthony

Answer 3

you ran out of room with this story?

Well tell her she has a choice of giving you a chance, or letting other people decide her future for her.

Answer 4

don`t take things too fast with her. she is probably nervous and think tht she might get hurt.