My sister in law put photos of my kids on my space....?

Question

My sister in law put photos of my husband and our 2 yr old on her My Space page. She is in her 20's and I'm not quite sure who visits her page. I do not participate in my space neither does my hubby. I politely asked her to take down the photos of my family from her page as I do not feel it is a place for my kids (or husbands) pics. She thinks I'm crazy, am I?

Answer 1

Yeah, there's nothing to worry about. A lot of people have a myspace account, and people post their pictures of their family and friends. Take it as a compliment that she put up those pictures. Perhaps, it's her way of showing how much she adores them. Relax, it's fine.

However, if you still don't feel comfortable having your pictures posted there, she should remove them.*

Answer 2

contrary to what all people believe, not everyone on her my space who will see the pics of your kids are not all her friends. for example, a person on my space will ask her if she wants to be her friend and she can say no or yes even if she does not know that person just so she could have more friends on myspace than her real personal friends. i believe that myspace is not only where you can share photos, ideas, etc, but also a competition of how many friends can you have. i think a lot of the people that viewed your family's photos were strangers to your sister in law. you should politely ask her again to take them down, if she doesn't comply, ask your husband, that's her sister. if nothing else, talk to your parent's in law. keep asking politely and explain to her why you don't want them up on my space. tell her that until she's got kids, she'll never understand. good luck.

Answer 3

The truth of the matter is that they are your kids. She probably should have asked you if she could place picture of YOUR KIDS on her page before doing it.

She is in a different stage of life than what you are in and the thought probably never occured to her that somebody might try to track the kids down that they see on her myspace.

If you asked nicely and politely as you said you did and explained that you and your husband have some concerns over myspace and jointly decided that you didn't want to have pictures of your kids on the internet, then she should comply. Explain to her what some of your concerns are.

You do say you don't participate in myspace. It might be of value to you to sign up for an account just so that you can gain an understanding of what myspace is and what it is that you fear.

It has downsides, but it has lots of pluses too. It is not evil.

Answer 4

No, you are not crazy for feeling this way!! I am married and have a 9 month old, and my friend who also has a baby has a my space page with her son all over it. She wants to set us up a page with us on it, and me and my husband refuse to have any pictures of our family on the web. You don't know who looks at those pages and it is accessible to people all over the world! I don't like that! So stand up for your decision, because it is your kids and your family's pictures on that page. Good Luck!

Answer 5

No you are not crazy. Myspace is a really great way to stay connected with friends if used properly. I agree with you that your family pics should not be on someone elses site without your permission. I myself have a myspace account and two beautiful boys. I will not post a pic of them nor have I even mentioned I have kids in my profile. My friends know I have kids and they know what they look like, there are too many people out there that linger on those sites for that exact information. Even if the profile is set to private there still could be a way to access it. I understand your sister in-laws pride in her family but she is too young to understand the danger of the web. I would politely explain to her that you are not judging her decision, you are strictly protecting your family. Hopefully she will understand a mother's instinct to protect her cubs at any cost, and that you are not impling she herself is a threat, but the internet is a dangerous place to post any information on a child. I hope this helps and she understands.

Answer 6

I look at myspace just as I would the internet itself. There are good and bad points to it. I use it for finding old friends from school and the Marines which has worked well for that. However there is alot of content that some people will find questionable. I also have some pictures of family members on myspace. I did let them know and asked them if they mind, and they did not. If you feel strongly about it just explain to her it is a privacy issue and that you would rather no photos of your family be available online.

Answer 7

Here is the deal with myspace once an image is uploaded onto an internet site anyone with advanced computer knowledge can obtain it although that doesn't happen that often. Myspace pages are viewed by anyone and everyone who wants to unless she has her profile marked private then only her friends can see her page. But even then there could be people on there that she doesn't know in person that is a little nutty. I have a myspace page and had it marked private and kept pictures of my son on there, i had someone send me a friend request that seemed like she was normal she was saying she was a 23 year old mother of one and what not well later on upon further inspection of the profile i found that it was indeed a fake, it was brought to my attention that someone else was using my son's pictures as well as mine on their page and claiming them as their own. When i went to the site much to my surprise she was indeed doing what people had told me, she had a picture of my son posted and stating that it was her son that had passed away and was using my pictures and information from my myspace page on her own and pretty much stealing my identity. I contacted the girl and let her know that i knew what she was doing and was getting in touch with a computer forensics specialist that could trace the ip address because she had to save the images from my page and then upload them onto her myspace from her computer therefore tagging it with an ip address that can be traced back to her and the original owner of the image. I let her know that what she was doing could be considered identity theft and what not. Well she did take the pictures down but i had later on found a photobucket account ( a place where you can upload pictures and then place them on websites such as myspace) on there she had at least 50 different pictures varying from my son and me to other ridiculous things needless to say i had that account shut down as well. so no you are not being crazy because there are some sick people out there so what you can do if your sister in law doesn't want to remove the images create a temporary myspace account go to your sister in laws page and on the images of your family there is an option to report image it will allow you to message the myspace security center just let them know in the email that you want the images of your family removed and what not. hopefully it doesn't have to go that far, just explain to your sister in law that this does bother you and you don't want images of your child and husband stolen and ask her politely to remove the images. Best of luck to you and don't worry i would be freaking out as well.

Answer 8

No, you should ask her to take them off that site. I would not approve at all. Many like MySpace and it can be used innocently but not all do. There are so many out there that use it as a shield to have fun or pleasure while disguising themselves. As far as I am concerned, it is not worth my time and it is trouble waiting to happen.
What pervert is going to see your kids photos there and think they are cute? They can try to track you down by finding out information about your sister-in-law first then about you and your family. These perverts have sneaky little ways of getting the information that they need. You certainly dont want one of them showing up at your door one day asking to cut your lawn or wash your car. You may never make the connection to MySpace. These con-artists are geniuses and can manipulate others to get to what they want.
And just as bad, I would not have my husbands photo on there either. My sister-in-law had photos of her family on there and my brother who is an adult. He started getting messages from women offering sex and sexual photos of themselfs begging to meet him. They did not care if he was married. They kept bugging to meet him and inticed him anyway they could. There are lose women who would think nothing of trying to steel your man. This incident almost broke up my brothers marriage. All because he got curious and took the next step.

The internet and any site on it is not private. I would never give out too much information about me or my family and certainly not photos. It is just asking for trouble.

Answer 9

No, you are not crazy!
Since you are unsure if she has an open My Space page, you needed to ask her to remove them, if you are uncomfortable with them being posted. If she use her real name and real location etc. then people can sometimes figure out who you and your family are and you never know who may be on that page.
Ask her again for more info. ,if she has not removed them, perhaps her page is set to private and only family is there. Get help from your husband if she does not respect you.

Answer 10

I have a myspace. I have pictures of my children on there. A lot of my friends do too. I am not putting my address or where to find us at. So I don't worry about it. And myspace pages can be set on private as well ... so just not the whole world can view it. Only the friends.

I see your point of view ... and it concerned me at first as well. But I have calmed down about it too. Because like I said I am telling everyone hey come and get us ... here's our address, name and number. It is not as bad as you think. Everything will be OK. Good luck to you and your family.

Answer 11

I completely agree with you. I am 32 years old, and do not have a my space. I think My Space is for teenagers, not young children and definitely not married people. It is more geared toward dating. Even if you make your My Space private, if someone goes into a My Space page of another person and your photo is part of their friends list then that person can click on your picture and it will take them to your page. I know, because I have done this before to get into someone else's page that was private. If your sister in law, respects how you feel, she will delete those photos. I agree with you, if you wanted pictures of your family on My Space, you would have your own page. She should leave that decision up to you. There are many freaks out there who may be looking at your child's picture in a filthy way. Like a child sex offender.