why are there such negative feelings towards single parenthood....?

Question

and what are your feelings about it?

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my answer is either the last one, or one of the last ones.

i was a single mom for about a year, am now engaged to a wonderful man. But honestly, miss single parenthood quite a bit.

Answer 1

Those guys statistics are from 1991. HA!
I don't know either honey. I am a single mom, my child is an honor roll student-in fact she is in the talented program in school, involved in sports, etc. She has never been in trouble, all her teacher through the years have complimented me on what a great job I do with her.
I know so mnay two parent households whose children are bad-in fact 98% of the kids who get suspended/trouble in my daughter's school are from two parent households and all my married friends are miserable.
Love makes a family not numbers.

Answer 2

I am a single parent of a four year old and I am getting ready to have my second child, I am currently in a long term relationship I still don't have a ring on my finger. So I will be a single mom again. There are advantages and disadvantages of being a single parent. One good thing is that no one can tell me how to raise my child, that I can discipline how I see fit. A disadvantage that I experienced, is not having someonethere to share all of the responsibilites of parenting for example. I was the only person that got up to get my baby a bottle at night. I was the one that had to change all the diapers. I had to give up a lot of myslef for the first two years and I am sure that would have been a lot easier if I would have had someone there to do half the work with me. I am single parent more by choice than by force.

Answer 3

I see nothing wrong with a single parent. My dad died when i was 8 and my mom has been a single mother ever since. Both my sister and i have great lives. My sister is on the honor role and so was i. My mother is the definition of a Strong woman, we never wanted or needed for anything she took care of that. While it's wonderful to have two parents and what have love to have my father still here, my mom is a soldier and she did it all by her self and did a great job at it. That is possible.

Answer 4

There are some real loons who are obcessed with this question and post constantly about it in "Women's Studies". They won't post here (this is the correct forum) because they are cranks with an axe to grind. As such they know full well that they are more apt to find like-minded cranks posting on "Women's Studies" (which they have hijacked). It is transparently clear that they don't give a toss about the welfare of children: their sole purpose is to scream from their "hijacked" soapbox. Every one of these nuts appears to be male, I might add. They are loud, stupid and obnoxious. Your guess is as good as mine regarding "why are there such negative feelings towards single parenthood". These morons are dismissing a host of intervening variables; their SOLE purpose in whining, moaning, wingeing, complaining, blaming, projecting... is to target their anger onto women in the hopes of destroying them. In short, it has been made abundantly clear that this bunch simply HATES WOMEN. Personally, I know of very few women who deliberately chose to be single moms. Raising a child is hard work and expensive. Nevertheless, since the dawn of time women have often had to do this difficult job alone. There is absolutely nothing new here. Not even the laments of the nuts predicting the end of the world are new!

Answer 5

I think that single parenting to a lot of people is seen as wrong because there should be a balance for the children.

As far as my opinion, I don't have one. I have friends who are single parents, they would like to have a spouse but don't for one reason are another, who am I to say whether it is right or wrong. I don't know their whole situation and I could not begin to understand what they are dealing with and why.

I have watched my best friend raise her two children alone and her son desperately needs a father figure, but then I have seen children turn out just fine with only one parent.

Answer 6

I think that sometimes there is negative feelings towards people that are single parents. B/C some people have seen that those parents go out and party more and do not take good care of their child.

I also think that, some people are old fashioned and think that if anyone is a single parent that they should be married. ultimately, it is easier and recommended to have a partner in whom can help you. But, for some people, this just cannot be the case and it is better off for them to be a single parent.

those that are single parents and really do their jobs as parents. I give you mad props!!

Answer 7

Because (at least how I have seen it)

Many people who are single parents are TERRIBLE parents and raise kids with problems.
The problems the parents have, (anger problems, drug problems, abusive, etc.) are what made them be single in the first place.

BUT, I have met so many single parents, some that are single parents by choice, and they are WONDERFUL.
They don't have those problems that chased off the other person. They wanted the child and are good parents, and because they are good parents the kids grow up with NO problems.

People just see the bad ones. Its the few bad apple that spoiled the bunch really.

Answer 8

I don't have a problem with it - as long as you taking good care of your kids, GOOD FOR YOU! If you are neglectful (which many two-parent families are), then I think you are rotten!
That being said - I do think it must be SO DIFFICULT! I have a GREAT husband who helps out so much with our baby and housework and I have a hard time getting it all together. And on top of that, there is a huge social stigmatism.

Answer 9

Because children do better in a household with a father and a mother. That said, they do better with a single good parent (male or female) than in a household with two people, either of whom is a bad parent.

I think anyone who sets out to be a single parent is either shortsighted, ignorant, or very selfish.

Answer 10

I don't have a problem with it, but I believe that children need to have balance and having two parents in their life, whether they live together or not, is better for the child. A lot, not all, girls that have no father figure in their life often grow up to be promiscuous because they are seeking male acceptance.