I have been bestmates with this lad for 10 years sins we were kids, now im 19 and he is 18 and i have watched him grow up and now i find myself realy atracted to him i was going out with his best m8 but its my friend i want how can i let him no this with out distroying what we have already, i dont know if he feels the same or not, but we spend alot of time alone and even do sum sexual stuff but i dont know if this is just because we trust each other what can i do?
2007-01-26 04:19:55 · 18 answers · asked by Charlene G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him how you feel.
2007-01-26 04:23:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not great on questions liek thsi but there is no reason that a girl loving a boy is any different to a boy loving a boy so I will give you my advice from my personal experiance. If you have already had the confidence to do sexual stuff together then you should have the confidence to ask him out. If you have always been best friends you trust each other and already know each other well. The next time you are alone with him, take this oppurtunity and ask him out! Good luck.
2007-01-26 04:25:51 · answer #2 · answered by samara c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you already do some sexual interaction, then you have already crossed the line between friendship and romantic partners. Ask him and talk it out to reach an agreement, if you want to date exclusively, with the understanding that the minute you feel uncomfortable you can both go back to being friends only. Don't cross that line, where you risk going beyond the point that you worry you might regret it. If you sense one person is uncomfortable, or having doubts or second thoughts, ask and stop right there and go back to being just friends.
I don't think this is much different than what you have been doing, if you have already experimented casually with sexual contact. Just talk it out and see. Note: If you and he don't want to date exclusively, then I highly suggest no more romantic or sexual contact or interaction, so you can focus on other people instead.
That way it is always clear what the expectations are, and everything you do is decided by mutual understanding and agreement.
2007-01-26 04:35:53 · answer #3 · answered by emilynghiem 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinon definite terrific acquaintances could be grew to become into enthusiasts via fact u have already got stepped forward that buddy relationship with one yet another so there's no longer something left yet to fulfill each and each others needs and desires and that i think of that thats the terrific love ever. the way u can tell that ur love is for a boyfriend as a exchange of bestfriend is that if u experience that specific intimacy while ur around him as a exchange of what u used to experience while ever u did "buddy issues"
2016-09-28 00:34:40 · answer #4 · answered by emilios 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems more to be like a lover. If your doing sexual stuff with him he's way more than a friend. I have a best friend who i caught feelings for but i always said he was just a friend but we did the same thing u guys did except he had feelings for me also. you should just tell him. because you can't do sexual things with friends then there not considered friends anymore. But becareful because these things ruin friendships. me and my friend will probably never be the same together again and it sucks so much because i miss being just friends.
2007-01-26 04:27:04 · answer #5 · answered by boricuaangel196 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would see if he comes around, maybe play hard to get. If you really like this person then I say Go for it. Don't do anything stupid like bad/stupid sexual stuff but if you ask him, the worst you can say is "No" but even though, you guys will still be friends and maybe he'll come back to you wanting to date you. Good Luck!
2007-01-26 04:32:32 · answer #6 · answered by iSweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you just ask him if anything he'll respect you for you having the courage to ask. he may feel the same way as you but be afraid to let you know also. believe me it won't hurt. even if he doesn't like you as anything other than a friend it won't hurt telling him how you feel. it actually might help. because he knows you trust him and he might actaully like you back like i already said but just be scared to tell you.so GO FOR IT GIRL! i do and i have had soe of the best boyfriends i could hope for.
2007-01-26 04:26:38 · answer #7 · answered by foose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the next time you're just doing some "sexual stuff" go all the rest of the way. That should break the ice...
Then you can talk about it & find out.
2007-01-26 04:23:54 · answer #8 · answered by Well, said Alberto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.........come straight out and ask him how he feels bout you in a relationship other than just being friends since you were younger and now experimenting with some "sexual stuff"....Don't be giving yourself to him..just because you've known him for 10yrs...GoodLuck*.
2007-01-26 04:26:00 · answer #9 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax and enjoy the ride...soon enough it will stop
2007-01-26 04:38:24 · answer #10 · answered by toasty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm instead of having this talk with us why don't u ask him!
2007-01-26 04:25:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋