But, I can't stand night clubs! My friends all say this is the only place I will meet girls. I would try a dating agency, but I have no idea whether they work or not. The fact is I believe it will just happen and we will meet one day. Does anyone have any advice to give? I would appreciate non derogatory advice, thanks!
2007-01-26 04:13:59 · 45 answers · asked by Mr Sarcastic 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A bar or nightclub is not the ideal place to meet someone if you are looking for a long term relationship. Usually people are drunk and aren't being themselves when you meet them or they are just looking for a fling. I TOTALLY think that when you are least expecting it and you aren't out there trying to find someone that they will just somehow pop in to your life. That's what happened to me. I met my sweetie at work one day.
I don't recommend dating websites cause you never know what you're getting in to. They could totally be lying and you'd not know until you have already invested a lot of time in to that person over the internet. You will meet a nice girl one day. Just be honest and up front with her and be yourself and hopefully you'll find the person that deserves to have such a gentleman in her life!
2007-01-26 04:23:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anywhere! It's not the place, it's how you start "breaking the ice". I've gone out with women I've met in malls, hairdressers, clubs and pubs, work, the bus...you get the idea.
My favourite is one-off social events, such as weddings or birthday parties. Generally (and it is a generalisation), the majority of women you meet in clubs are not stable creatures for a relationship - the nice ones are usually doing something other than getting off their rocks on a Saturday. However, weddings and parties bring out the nice girls, therefore is a prime location for meeting someone with quality.
Finally, never under-estimate the power of the Girl Network! If you have a girlfriend that you're pretty close to, you can use her natural gossiping skills to spread the word that you're interested in dating.
P.S. Online, I have had mixed success with FaceParty - relatively easy to find members of the opposite sex, but it really is bizarre meeting someone through t'internet.
2007-01-26 04:46:04 · answer #2 · answered by mrWerd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not true at all. You need to just go to places with people with similar interests, try joining a club or an evening class, because you will have something in common with anyone you meet there. You are right that one day it will just happen.....i know that from experience, and it will probably happen when you least expect it. Hope this helps and good luck with finding the one for you.
2007-01-26 07:30:22 · answer #3 · answered by Leggy_Babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Metting girls at a nightclub is usually not a good idea. A lot of them just want free drinks and a good time. Go to a library, or get involved in a community activity, like the YMCA or a helath club or maybe some co-ed sports if that's your thing. If your young enough to go back to college, take a few classes, that's a great wya to meet decent girls.
2007-01-26 04:20:26 · answer #4 · answered by Tanzy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would never recommend the type of girl you could pull in a night club anyway!! If you can pull her there then every time she goes out you will be paranoid she will pull someone else.
So where to go...
There is much written at the moment about the Internet. Its an OK world (try free dating sites to start with like Flirtbox, Kissndate, matchmeup, plentyoffish), but remember that the girls on there get 100's of messages and you have to be a bit lucky to get a relationship woth one - persevere though.
Then of course there is your social life. I assume you go out the house sometimes and do social things? Some of these might be mixed sex activities? Keep going, you never know what might happen. If you meet someone there you will have simular interests and know if you like each other before you start going out.
Sit in the pub and talk to the table of girls next to you. Maybe nothing happens but it will be a laugh.
What about workl / School - are there no women there? Talk to them in a friendly way, not in a I want to go out with you way, and then go for the next step when you are friends
And finally, other friends, girls you are friendly with know you and know their friends. can they fix you up.
2007-01-26 04:23:16 · answer #5 · answered by whycantigetagoodnickname 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say try a mall or something of that sort. Clubs to me r for 1 night stands and u don't want that. And sometimes when u meet them at the club they may always want to party and u don't want a party girl either. I would definetly try a mall or church or any type of outing like that but not a club.
2007-01-26 04:19:51 · answer #6 · answered by wet t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad to hear the club thing is not what you're looking for. I think a singles club type agency might be exciting and who knows it could work...it's worth a try, nothing to lose. But I think you're right, when you meet someone it will just happen. I met my husband on my lunch hour, best darn happy meal I ever had..Good luck to you.
2007-01-26 04:20:03 · answer #7 · answered by S T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are in the right track. Night cllubs is the worst place to find the right girl. There are great places where you can meet wonderful people, you just need to look harder.
Don't dispair too much about it. Take your time, I don't know how old you are, but time is a good counselor, especially if you are serious about relationships. God has a plan for you if you just seek Him, and I don't want to sound "churchie", but rather to let you know that it is a great possibility. Be wise in your choosing, I beleive you want a girl for life, and not just a "hobby".
God Bless.
2007-01-26 04:23:44 · answer #8 · answered by skydiver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are your hobbies and interests? Join clubs or organizations that interest you and see if there are any single young ladies in the groups. Start a friendship based on common interests and see if it goes somewhere.
For instance, maybe take tennis lessons as part of a group. Or joing a volleybally league and ask to be placed on an existing team. Or join a photography club.
2007-01-26 04:18:51 · answer #9 · answered by BAM 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
night clubs arent the only place to find girls. I'm a girl so i should know. You don't neccessarily need to go out there and look for one. There's a girl out there that was made especially for you and when the times comes she will come to you. or you will find her without looking for her. But other places to find girls include church, malls, the nail salon lol, and etc. there are millions of girls and i don't think the best place is a night club. well it depends on what kind of girl you are looking for. personally I don't think there are many decent girls at a night club i think you'd have better luck at a church. but don't make that a reason y you go to church cause thats just wrong feel me? Good luck and don't kill your self.
2007-01-26 04:21:42 · answer #10 · answered by boricuaangel196 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋