Ive been going on dating sites, and found everyone I met on there to be disapointments. Met them in person, and I wasnt impressed.
My friends tell me Im too picky, but I just dont want to settle. I have met some very nice guys, who want to date me, but im not attracted to them, theres no chemistry. I did like one guy but he turned out to be a complete ***.
It seems I always fall for the jerks, and not the nice guys. I dont want to date a man, I want to date the man. Am I too picky? I just want the whole package.....someone that is great and wonderful, but also someone I have chemistry with. Am I really asking for too much?
2007-01-26 04:03:36 · 34 answers · asked by confusedbrowngirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, you're not asking too much. Your soul mate is out there, you just haven't find him yet. DO NOT SETTLE for someone less than you want. That would only end up in heartbreak and divorce.
Stick to your guns and when Mr. Right comes into your life, you will KNOW immediately, "That's Him!"
2007-01-26 04:07:52 · answer #1 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Too picky? That is a hard one to answer, as no one here knows who you have turned down.
For those that are considered too picky, they typically are very quick to judge who a person is - easy to reject others. What you are looking for is tough. You want that one someone you meet to "wow" you, woo you, and be all that you are looking for. Picky? Where I would say you go wrong is in your assessment of men. The "jerks" are good at the game. They can spark you up and promise you the moon without hesitation, but it doesn't last because their real personality will eventually surface. It is those guys which may not get you going at the beginning which maybe you can spend a little time to know. You must meet with compromise.
Maybe you don't impress everyone at the beginning either - does that make you a bad catch? Of course not. Haven't you ever met a guy that wasn't into you and you thought, "If he only got to know what I am really like"? Same thing for the guys out there. Take some time and get to know them. Don't expect them to be that perfect image that sits in your mind and knock you off your feet - life isn't a romantic movie.
2007-01-26 04:20:55 · answer #2 · answered by David 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't go out with people that you have no chemistry with. You just lead them on and visa versa.
I think that maybe you are trying a little too hard and need to relax a bit...
I am sure you kow who you are mentally emotionally and physically. I am concerned about your spirituality tho...
If you are comfortable being on your own, you wouldn't be grazing at every dating sight there is.
You need to stop looking so hard and take some time by yourself to get totally grounded, then you might be ready for someone in your life.
I suggest going into a volunteer program and doing some work committing for 6 months.
I think when you take the focus away from yourself and are busy helping others you grow tremendously.
I think you find out what the real important things are in life and the important values.
Once you do this, you will transitionalize into something better, stronger and ready for something real, because you will be able to spot it in an instant.
You will be attracted to a different kind of people than you are now.
Goodness comes from within, we are products of our environments, our parents values and work ethics.
Our self esteem is built in our younger years and we learn how to cope and live amongst each other.
Take the gifts that you personally have and share them unconditionally for a while as a volunteer and watch your life transform. You are needed in places you wouldn't dream of. Give it and yourself a chance to grow into something special.
I think once you reach inner peace and acceptance you will find the mate you have been dreaming of......
2007-01-26 04:22:46 · answer #3 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a picky girl too. I'm trying to not be SO picky right now. You'll never find a Mr. Perfect....there is no such thing. It took me a few years and *** holes and psychos for me to realize that. You will probably never find a person that has ALL the qualities you want. So let up on some of your wants. But your right not to just settle....that's the worst thing people do. Desperation makes them jump the gun and settle.
You seem like you are very strong and independent and know exactly what you want. Just keep trying til you find the closest thing I guess. I had my Prince Charming once....he defenatly wasn't perfect and I had many pet peeves but he was the closest thing to perfect I came to and my love for him was the strongest I've ever felt. And it's my fault he's gone now. But....just trying to find someone that makes me feel close to the same way.
Don't give up.
2007-01-26 04:11:58 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as a perfect man or woman. If you are looking for perfection you will be alone forever. It takes getting to know someone to find out if he right for you or not. Don't just look on the outside, also look on the inside of a person. You could be letting go of some really nice persons by being to choosy. I'm not say just settle for anyone but, get to know someone even if it's not a love match you could make some pretty good friends.
2007-01-26 04:12:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know if you are too picky because there is no pic of u posted on here. Usually people are best suited with partners around their own level of looks, career, religion , excetera.
If a man doesnt make you happy based on his looks , then you can't help that! You must be attracted to him if you are to be in a relationship. There is nothing wrong with having some standards.
Also, the net may not be the best place to look for a date cause there are some really bizarre people on here, try any other social place you may be going like college, church, or other organizations.
2007-01-26 04:10:28 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no need to date people just because your friends think you're being too picky. There's nothing wrong with wanting the best and if there's no chemistry at the beginning, what's it going to be like in a few months time? Enjoy being single and stop looking so hard; I always think that the best things come to those who wait and who aren't looking too hard either!
2007-01-26 04:11:04 · answer #7 · answered by Perversia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all, but you may be looking in the wrong places. I have always felt those who advertise on dating sites are losers or they would find someone among their friends or acquaintances to date. There are some good relationships formed from dating sites but that depends upon the sites. If you are religious, you could check out bigchurch.com and find some decent people there who are also religious but that is really the only dating site I would endorse other than perhaps eharmony and that costs money.
2007-01-26 04:12:41 · answer #8 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're a Virgo Sun sign, then yeah, you might be too picky...but it's your life, your decision, if you don't want to settle for less, then don't.
About dating THE man...well, check out your Astrology Chart, find out your Mars sign...this is the sign you will be most sexually attracted to, if all other factors add up nicely. If you want THE man...date men whose Sun Signs are in the same sign as your Moon Sign, or at least in the same element ie; earth, water, air, fire. Often that ONE connection can overcome many obstacles in a relationship.
That's my suggestion lol...but then I study astrology/synastry. It's not a lot to ask for, at least you KNOW what you want...just maybe its not what you need-right now.
2007-01-26 04:13:40 · answer #9 · answered by Little Jeannie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, dating sites - not really a good idea. Yes, you get to meet people, but of course your not impressed. Most of them embelish on the descriptions - whether it's looks or personality. You build a mental image of who they are - and they turn out to be something else.
No, you're not be picky. You just haven't the right guy yet. When you do, you'll find that chemistry!
2007-01-26 04:08:06 · answer #10 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋