my boyfriend and i have been for seven years, since freshman year highschool.. we have never broken up never took a break from each other.. all on.. and now.... i have to move away... to another country. i got offered a full nursing scholarship all the way across the globe... and i'm gonna do it of course.. but what about us? do you think were gonna work out?
-i have to come back like at least once a year (visa purposes)
-i will graduate by march of 2009
-we are 21 years old
-he's willing to wait but..... i'm still skeptical...
-he was my first and only boyfriend...
heeeeelllppp!
2007-01-26 04:03:15 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YES OF COURSE IT WILL WORK.
but both of you have to want it that bad and should be willing to work on it 100 times more now....
seven years is a lot to throw away.. so you have to really want it to work. just think of your future together.. if you are really meant to be it will happen on its own. your future together should be your incentive in kicking a.ss in nursing school. he's gonna need to be supportive and be willing to work on your relationship just as much as you are.
buy phone cards, bring your lap top, buy a webcam... do anything... i know you can do it. and he seems like the perfect guy for you because not many guys would be willing to wait...
best of luck to you both.
its really refreshing to hear that a young couple like you have lasted so long as seven years. thats amazing... i really think you could be a success story. i look up to you even though i'm older.
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2007-01-26 04:38:05 · answer #1 · answered by Aundrea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The biggest issue with long distance relationship is trust...because quite frankly, you won't know if the other person is cheating on you or not. However, if you don't trust the other person, why be in a relationship at all? And if he cheats when he's far away from you, what makes you think he won't cheat when he's close to you? There are some couples who live in the same city as each other but rarely ever see each other at all. It's hard, but it doesn't mean it won’t work. Not a lot of people will be able to handle this pressure, but those who do and still find love despite the distance, then their reward is a lifetime of happiness and true love. One of the most common sayings is that "love has to withstand the test of time and distance"....you have to ask yourself the question: can this person love you 10 years from now when you're not as young and pretty? Or can this person still love you when you're thousands of miles apart and yet he still remain faithful? If you answer yes to these questions, congratulations you are very blessed. But if you answer no to any one of them, then you haven't found true love. How to make it work? Trust and communication! When two people connect on the highest level, nothing can keep them away from each other. So is it that long distance relationships don't work or is it simply because the love isn't there?
2007-01-26 12:26:49 · answer #2 · answered by emma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will work only if both of you believe it will and want it to. However, you say you're skeptical even before you tried - that's not good & does not bode well for the long run. It won't be easy - so are you up for it? 2.5 years can be long or short depending on how often you both keep in touch. Will you or him be too busy to write or send notes or call each other often? You'll fight of course & when you do, do you just give up and attribute it to the 'long distance' thing & it being too hard just 'cos both of you are so far away from each other?
Whether it will work or not ultimately depends on both of you. And how much you really love each other. In trying times, besides love, you'll need to have lots of patience, understanding and always always communicate. Whatever you decide, I wish you both well.
2007-01-26 12:17:39 · answer #3 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is going to break both your hearts.......You are both still young at 21 and alot can change from now till 2009* It's hard to say if it'll work......I'm thinking as you're on the other side of the globe it will be hard hard work in keeping it together. I wouldn't be making any promises or should he as anything can happen that is out of both your control.
GoodLuck*
2007-01-26 12:09:34 · answer #4 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for mental health reasons (only boyfriend comes to mind), please give yourselves some time off. You are really young, the world is at your feet right now, and believe me it's not going to happen again soon. You have to opportunity to go abroad, do new things, and it's not exactly fair to you or him, you not being able to socialize as much as if you weren't in a relationship. If it's meant to be, it's going to happen anyways, so yes, take a break from each other! It might just show you how good you are together-or not. but either way it's going to better than succumbing to temptations and being unfair to each other.
2007-01-26 12:12:18 · answer #5 · answered by dianabarff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have more time invested in this relationship than you spent in highschool. Why do people always think it's ok to throw away relationships for career oppurtunities? If you two love eachother...you will make it work...true love will help you achieve pretty much anything believe it or not. 7 years! You guys should be talking about marriage.
2007-01-26 12:16:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only time a long distance relationship will work is if you are "truly" in love
my frist girlfriend lived simply 300 miles away and we lasted a while but the only reason we broke up was because we couldn't handle the distance.... so if you believe you are truly in love then you have a great chance of making it.... and I congradulate you for having your "first" boyfriend this long and him being your only boyfriend.
2007-01-26 12:09:13 · answer #7 · answered by ¥Captain_Random¥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you trully love each other and your beautiful 7 years need a sparkle anyways. Make him miss you more and he will realize that he needs you so much in his life so he will wait. Plus its not like you going to Iraq where he cant come down and visit you. It will work if you make it work!
2007-01-26 12:09:49 · answer #8 · answered by BK thang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatley I don't think it will work, not only because of the distance but also because you two haven't had any other experiences with other people and I think in time that will show to hurt your relationship.
2007-01-26 12:08:59 · answer #9 · answered by dunleavyblows 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of corse it will work, call each other, send emails, presents, share your problems and good moments and memories. just keep it up! I'm sure it will work!
2007-01-26 12:12:53 · answer #10 · answered by Masha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋