years old and my child's mother is currently pregnant again. I don't want to be with her. I never really did we weren't together when she conceived or when she gave birth I got into a relationship with her because my girlfriend, my true love, was devastatingly hurt by the situation re: my first child. Now shes pregnant again. My baby's mother is an ex stripper and has no money and she was on welfare. I love my ex and I want to talk to her and tell her she's right and that my baby's mother is only a gold digger looking for a way to nab a man. She's calculated, manipulative and mean. She hates my ex because she deep down knows that I truely love her. How do get my ex back.... I am a good guy who's just made some really stupid mistakes. I want my family but I want my ex. I know that my child 's mother will fight me to death because she's vindictive. My ex knows. Eventhough we haven't spoken she knows, she has a weird sixth sense on things like that. I want to be with and my 2 kids.
2007-01-26 04:00:15 · 10 answers · asked by dee dee s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tough situation. if your ex is willing to forgive and be with you that is a start. you can form a family surrounding for them and file in the courts for custody. once you can convince the jusge that the mother is unfit, you will gain full custody and she will have visitation.
if you can't convince the ex still fight for your kids a mother like that will never be a good parent.
my fiance's ex had his daughter just to hold him... it did not work.
2007-01-26 04:34:57 · answer #1 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what a mess. A ness YOU have caused.
Why were you having sex with a woman who is an ex stripper, is on welfare, and is calculating, mean, and manipulative? Why did your sex end up in two babies with her?
I don't know if you can have what you want given the choices you've already made. Actions have consequences and choosing to have children with a horrible partner can truly ruin your life.
Your ability to have your family AND your ex will depend upon your ex's interest in and ability to live with the consequences of your bad decisions. Unless the mother of your children relinquishes all rights and moves away, she will ALWAYS be ap part of your life and able to make you and any future wife miserable. Now, your ex that you hope to entice again -- She might not mind her life being made a living hell by your ex, but she might. That is up to her.
But you definitely need to be honest with her, so as not to drag her into a nightmare without full warning.
2007-01-26 04:10:30 · answer #2 · answered by Karen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely there is the emotions area, and there is the rational area. i do no longer think of I or each and every man or woman is going to be waiting to handle your emotions for you, so i will carry on with answering the rational area. For the relationship to be functional, you have have been given to work out eye to eye on some issues. very own accountability, the thank you to enhance the babies, etc. And funds! only positioned, there are Savers and Spenders. once you're the two Savers you would be happy and do nicely. once you're the two Spenders you will fritter your cash away together and be suffering yet extremely happy. If he's a Spender and you're a Saver, because it sounds, it won't artwork. he will undo each and all the sturdy you do, and the two considered one of you would be scuffling with for the reason which you have been putting in the long hours and skipping the mall journeys and cellular telephone enhancements to get a down charge on a house, together as he traded in his 3 year previous motor vehicle for a sparkling month-to-month charge. be attentive to what I advise? So i might say make certain that area of the compatibility, and if this is there then you definately *purely* ought to make certain the emotional element (if this isn't any longer, by skill of how, i might artwork on looking somebody who does share those values with you ASAP, via fact opposite to each and all the politicians romanticizing single motherhood, it dramatically hurts your opportunities at financial independence, and does a extreme disservice on your babies...their dispositions in direction of falling by the wayside, crime, and poverty skyrocket).
2016-09-28 00:33:23 · answer #3 · answered by emilios 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living a lie will hurt everyone, I say come clean with everything and let the chips fall where they may. You have been obviously having sex with the one you don't want, and the poor children, where do they fit in this sick, twisted scenario. It is okay to screw up your life but innocent children don't deserve that. No matter what this woman that has and is having your child is, sje will be in your life at least until the youngest turns 18 or 23 if he/she stays in school, so just getting out won't happen right away, you are going to have to pay for your actions and believe me, you will pay in more ways than one. God Bless.
2007-01-29 21:31:37 · answer #4 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so your baby's mother is not good enough for a relationship, but she's good enough to have sex with? If you didn't want to be with your baby's mother and loved your ex so much, you would have ended that relationship and pursued your ex. You wouldn't have had sex with the baby's mother and you would have definitely used protection. Give me a break!
2007-01-26 04:07:43 · answer #5 · answered by downinmn 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
these are the situation we have to deal with later not now,,,when u having sex with this stripper not knowing if u want to be with her and then having children knowing how u feel about her....the thing i can tell u is to leave ur kids mother alone so she can find someone to be with......and ur there for ur kids.....life is to short to be with someone that u don't care for anymore.....
2007-01-30 00:19:31 · answer #6 · answered by pam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your going to have to deside who you really want to be with. and if you think it is best to be with your girlfriend than talk to her tell her that you love her but yet you want to have a relationship with your kids. belive me it is the most important thing to be with your kids more than any thing. i would know i didnt really have a dad growing up.my mom and him got devorced when i was little. i always was sad about not haveing a dad. you need to be there for your kids do what you think is best for them.
2007-01-26 04:13:25 · answer #7 · answered by roxi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this but you sound like a selfish jerk! You made those children, you need to be responsible for them, and breaking up their family isnt the best step..grow up.
2007-01-26 04:08:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quit sleeping around and you won't have problems like this one.
2007-01-26 04:19:39 · answer #9 · answered by Farmgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard of a condom?
2007-01-26 04:27:54 · answer #10 · answered by flushing06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋