with a good job and nice home and all that he isn't interested in you and won't even give you a chance even though you have many practical things in common but when you come across a guy who is not too attractive, a little overweight, twice divorced, in a financial mess, lives with family, has low paying job, and children to support, you can't get rid of him? It just seems the good ones are unattainable and those with all the baggage are too anxious.
2007-01-26 03:56:44 · 4 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's because the second option has nothing to offer, thus leaving him with not a lot of demand so he can't be picky and will cling to the first thing that looks in his general direction (this is most commonly known as desperation and it's a stinky cologne). the first guy, is probably going to have a much larger pool of women to draw from so he can pick and choose who he interacts with.
2007-01-26 04:09:01 · answer #1 · answered by sweetangle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To some people, a person who appears to 'have it all' may be somewhat intimidating. Everyone has problems, but some are better at hiding them than others. In some cases, perhaps, someone who obviously has 'baggage' may seem more approachable--particularly if the other person is dealing with similar issues. On some level, a person who is coping well with an issue openly and straightforwardly, could come across as being human, honest and capable.
That said, I don't go out of my way to get involved with someone who has serious problems (i.e. anger, alcohol, drugs, financial or legal), but I have found that EVERYONE has issues--even 'hot' guys who seem to 'have it all'. I think it's best to get to know a person provided you at least have a common interest to share; for me there has to be some substance. Then if you take things slowly, it's less likely that you'll rush into anything for which you are not ready. I think it is likely a person will encounter more than one potential partner in life, but it's a matter of timing. The two of you have to be at the same place at the same time, so to speak.
2007-01-26 04:18:23 · answer #2 · answered by °ĠיִяĿỵ° 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have to agree with that. Its a sad thing.
2007-01-26 04:02:33 · answer #3 · answered by Mille_D-Gurl08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But it's fun looking, but I hear you.
2007-01-26 04:02:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋