I am just curious. I used to like this girl that was 21 when I was 18. she seemed very nice. always wanting to talk to me. she would even laugh at things that anyone else would not find to be funny. but at the time, I always saw any girl older than i was as a big sister. so I sort of ignored some of the signs she gave me bcos i thought she was just being nice. I am not sure if I still like her bcos I haven't seen her in a while.
my question is: would you have gone for it if you liked someone with a similar age difference.
2007-01-26 03:34:47 · 50 answers · asked by bababa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Heck yeah! 3 years is not a very big age difference, but we all have our preferences. In a million years I never dreamed I would be married to someone twelve and a half years younger than me, but I am! (((((hoooray!for me))))) It kinda sounds to me by the way you speak, that you have a lot of respect for women, and that is an admirable, and likeable trait in any man, and one we don't see or hear very often.
At any rate though, I am a woman, not a man, and besides my husband, I had only dated one other person in my entire life who was younger than me, by two years....if I were you though, I would have gone for it!
2007-01-26 03:43:33 · answer #1 · answered by Little Jeannie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You call three years an age difference? If she was 15 and you were 12, maybe that might be an issue, but once you become 18 and of legal age I think you are mature enough to realize that a three year difference or more is no big deal.
At 18, I was as mature and responsible as most 25yr old guys I knew. Meanwhile, the 21yr old women I knew were acting more like 15yr old girls.
I think you have to look at each relationship and see if it feels right. If you at 18 saw older girls as big sisters, then I guess you were not ready for the relationship. If you are asking the question now, I guess you are more mature and may be ready now.
Perhaps think of it this way, when you are 74 and she is 77, do you think that will still be too big an age gap? ;-)
2007-01-26 03:45:33 · answer #2 · answered by SteveN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding? I'm 46 and dating a 30 year old man. Age has nothing to do with it. There will be some things that arise but if you have feelings you can get thru them. 18 and 21 just isn't a problem in my book and the older you get the less difference there is.
2007-01-26 03:44:02 · answer #3 · answered by Ande 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are 18..21 seems like a huge age difference, but it really isn't in the scheme of things. The only difficulty it really provides around that age is that one person just became of age and can get into bars..and is probably wanting to explore that new freedom...and the other cannot.
2007-01-26 03:47:38 · answer #4 · answered by BAM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes as long as you are mature it doesnt matter my girlfriend was born a year and a half ahead of me so for a few months it looks like were 2 years apart but you know what she doesnt notice the difference and nor do I I so glad I went for it y age and hers is 16-18 yet im seventeen soon so yea worked for me yet it was a whole lot harder getting the courage to tell her my feelings
2007-01-26 03:41:43 · answer #5 · answered by tobosahge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! You're both legal so no worries there...and if she's flirting she needs to expect a turn around :)
I am married to someone who just turned 21 and I'm 22. We are 13 months apart.
I think an older girl is actually a good idea because women outlive men...so you'll even out ;)
2007-01-26 03:39:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. Then again I'm 26 with a 33 year old woman. I base it more off maturity than the age.
If she befriended you knowing your age than she probably already knew you'd start to have feelings for her. If it was to try to make her feel better about herself or if it was the real deal (I give it a 50/50 change.) eather way she showed some form of intrest in you.
2007-01-26 03:47:35 · answer #7 · answered by matthew l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just had this experience a few months ago. A guy that is now 18 was interested in me, and I almost went for it because he was nice. Glad I didn't, because he turned out to be very immature. In your case, you were the younger party involved. It really depends on the two people involved in the situation.
2007-01-26 03:41:39 · answer #8 · answered by Licia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is nothing but a number...I'm 24 and the guy I'm with is 20 and we have a great time together...wouldn't trade what we got going for anyone any age...ultimately what matters is the maturity level of the individuals involved..
2007-01-26 03:40:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
going by your logic, anyone younger than you could be viewed as a little sister. so then you would have to find someone that is the same age as you in order to date them. that doesn't make any sense. as long as you like each other, age shouldn't matter. be careful though because you are 18 you could get in trouble for dating someone who is too young. you might want to check the laws in your state.
2007-01-26 03:44:50 · answer #10 · answered by fungirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋