ever felt asif there is more in life than what you have?

Question

how do you get most out of life when youve committed yourself to something and now you have to let that go so that you can be happy, whithout hurting all other people involved. why spend the better part of your life doing something you dont enjoy to come to the conclusion that you are waisting/spending your life doing something you dont enjoy and that makes you unhappy. but you know that changing it would absolutely rip the involved peoples harts to pieces.......what would be the nicest possible way to fix this....??????

Answer 1

ask the Lord
he will help you

Answer 2

Well, you don't want to say too much, but it's difficult in those circumstances to help you and give the best possible advice.
I know for example that when I decided to get separated from my husband that it was going to hurt everybody deeply; First of all my two young children, oldest aged 5.
And it did.
But I just couldn't stay in the marriage any more.
I had suffered too much; And could just see my life slipping away. I felt like a zombie.
It was the best decision ever. But it was very hard.
I had to take my children to counselling; Had to survive the guilt. But I know I did that for the right reasons, so, I'm happier for it.
Think about what you want first.
could that be an age crisis. Like trying to recapture something you should let go.
Obviously if you are in an abusive relation, keep going.
You just want to make sure that you're leaving for the right reasons, as coming back might not be an option, when you're not feeling excited by the unknown anymore.
Good luck.
Ps: I do understand how you feel, that's why i advise you to think carefully before acting.
Sometimes, some time apart can do the trick.xx

Answer 3

Difficult to answer not knowing what you are on about. Yes you should be thruthful but can appreciate circumstances don't make it easy if perhaps for example children are involved and just would not understand your going or say you are a Roman Catholic priest/nun and want out. Also probably got to ask yourself how you felt when you made this committment, did you know if your heart your were doing the wrong thing? Were you absolutely sure at he time? If so could this be a phase you are going through? Are you down and maybe need to seek help? I maybe barking up the wrong tree entirely and sadly don't think anyone will be able to give you the right answer, only you can decide. Doesn't sound there is a nice way to fix it and others will be hurt but if you can't go on you can't go on and although not easy as simple as that. Also ask yourself how doing this is going to effect you, can you get on with your life or will there be deep scars?

Answer 4

Lately I've been feeling like that every minute of the day.And even at night I must say.I'm not committed with anybody but I cannot figure out how I could get what I want because actually at present I feel I'm wasting my time and am upset.
In your case I would just be honest and talk to those involved in it and see what happens.Maybe they can even steer you toward something you didn't think of.
In any case I would say you must do what you reckon is best for you.

Answer 5

You need to expand... what have you committed to that will hurt other people when you leave? Marriage perhaps? Your kids will forgive you - mine did! You really cant waste your life if you are unhappy. Sit down and write down how you feel and all the possibles. Talk to some neutral people and see what they say. I changed my life four years ago for the better and am now MUCH HAPPIER!

Answer 6

Not enough information, but are you sure you aren't one of those people looking for solutions that aren't there? You know, thinking once I do this, I'll be happy, or once I get that, I'll be happy, or once I get rid of this, then I'll be happy, when all along, you just need to BE HAPPY. There are people who think things/circumstances will make them happy, and they never do, they are never satisfied because all along they were looking at the wrong things/ways to be happy. I'm sorry to say, but life is not all about making yourself happy, and when you say you are going to rip apart other people's lives, how could you possibly be happy doing that? Like I said, need more info.

Answer 7

Bubbles, even if you decided to go with what you think may make you happy, can you be 100% sure that you will be happy? I dont think any of us cansay that to make that choice would make us happy - it may for a while, but as many of the other people have said, you dont explain your situation very well, so these comments are purely hypothetical.
Speak to whoever you feel you will be hurting. It may even surprise you and find out that they feel the same.

Good luck hun
Flower xx

Answer 8

It depends how old you are.
Are you suffering from depression and this is a symptom?
Do you know what would make you happy or are you looking to stop doing something that makes you sad?
Do you just feel like you have an itch you cannot scratch?
The only thing we can rely on is that we are not here for very long. Try to understand your problem and work it out.

I spent years trying to understand what would make me happy, until somebody pointed out that I was.
Good luck

Answer 9

If you stay where you are unhappy for the sake of not hurting people eventually you will end up hurting them.
If you are unhappy then all the people will eventually "catch on" and become unhappy themselves.
I feel that the inevitable is just being delayed.

Answer 10

Yes

Answer 11

Why would people be upset with you for doing what makes you happy? Just weigh the pros against the cons and see which one comes out on top.