...she invited me to her house and it was my first time at her house because we always hung out and did it at my house, and I immediately saw these pictures on the wall of her and another guy in a military uniform, and then I noticed in her closet be all these mens cloths and the next morning she told me we wouldnt be able to see each other and that she is married and he is coming back from Iraq in 4 days...what should I do? This man is going to hunt me down and kill me
2007-01-26 03:12:36 · 15 answers · asked by Chad 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I dont' doubt its my baby, this guy has been in iraq for over 6 months and she is 4 months prego. She said that she hasnt been with any one else and I believe her because she was coming to my place almost every night
2007-01-26 04:24:37 · update #1
i think your getting yourself all worked up way too early, i mean you havent even checked with Yahoo Answers to confirm her pregnancy. i suggest "health-general" category, more informative than singles & dating, and far less judgemental than the "parenting-pregnancy" category.
2007-01-26 14:01:00 · answer #1 · answered by nodumgys 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
lol I hope he pushes her down the stairs. What a slut. Anyone that cheats on their significant other while they're in Iraq deserves it. The next time you see a car with dry cleaning in the back and she's nearby, make a remark like "Look! It's a mobile abortion clinic!" Just kidding. Don't do that. Or do it if you want to.
First thing you need to do is chill. Take a deep breath. Exhale. Tell yourself these words "The chances are, I'm not the only one she was screwing in like a light bulb." You're both men. Talk to the guy as soon as you can. She's going to slant this in her favor. Be honest with the guy, I really don't think it's your *** he's going to kick. Demand a paternity test after the baby is born. Do not agree to anything that puts you in a father position until that paternity test shows conclusively that the baby is yours.
LOL Ouch, do your toes taste good? I just saw a reply of yours on some other woman's thread
"what the hell is up with saying prego, its not cute,its ghetto, ITS PREGNANT and yes you most likely are since your going around having sex...time to land a sugar daddio"
Looks like someone's gonna be a sugar daddio~
2007-01-26 11:35:33 · answer #2 · answered by sovereign_carrie 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to hear, however, there's really nothing you can do. He's not going to hunt you down and kill you, though. She is more at fault than you, for she witheld the fact she was married. However, if I were you, I'd distance myself as much as possible in the romance and relationship department. Not only is she probably going to lose her husband, but do you truly want to be with a deceitful woman such as she? Once a cheater, always a cheater.
As for the baby, be responsible and an active parent, but make it clear to her your feelings about the situation she has forced you into. It's not fair to you, and it now is not fair to the unborn child.
Some people just shouldn't be permitted to reproduce:
Cheaters, Addicts, and Politicians.
2007-01-26 11:23:38 · answer #3 · answered by daynee86 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have just learned a lesson in life hopefully. I would consult an attorney & find out if the child she has is actually yours or not. Obviously she has been unfaithful to her husband at least on one occasion. If the child is yours you should take responsibility & do the right thing as it's not the childs fault. I don't think a soldier in the US military will hunt you down & kill you. Stranger things have happened though. We live in a crazy world so be careful. This may haunt you for the next 20 years. Hopefully before you have sex with a woman again you will take the time to get to know her & not just jump in the sack. It's hard for me to understand as I always get to know someone to the fullest before we have sex. In this day & age you have to! Your carelessness could cost you your life if you contracted an STD such as AIDS. Hopefully you will think long & hard before you have an intimate relationship with anyone else. Good luck, you are going to need it. I'll say a prayer today for you in the hopes that everything works out in everyone's best interest. If the child is yours I hope you have a relationship with them because the child is going to need to know who their father is & their life will be incomplete without you. We all make mistakes but what is important is that we learn from them & strive not to do it again. Are you even positive she is pregnant? If you don't know for sure you need to find out. You need to be looking out for #1 all the time & that is you! No one else is going to do it for you.
2007-01-26 11:50:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your story gives a whole new meaning to "Safe Sex"....sorry buddy that she didn't give you all the facts. Unfortunately she is going to most likely tell him a different story, I don't know if you should go to him or not! Be on the look out, I would call her and say that you are happy her hubbys coming home and ask her if the baby is yours or what? You really didn't give enough details for me to give you more of my opinion! Best of luck to you, you are going to need it!
2007-01-26 12:05:40 · answer #5 · answered by GabrielleC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't wait until he comes and finds you, I would seek him out and confront him. Tell him that you had no idea she was married until you saw her house. Tell him that you broke it off, when you found out the truth. If there is a possibility the baby is yours, you need to tell him so. I would also get a lawyer and demand a DNA test. Good luck.
2007-01-26 11:29:29 · answer #6 · answered by Aumatra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa! Are you saying YOU got her pregnant? If you did this guy NEEDS to know. And, if she claims it's yours I would get a DNA test done just to be sure. If she was catting around with you, you may not be the only one.
Be upfront with the guy. Be honest and tell him that you had no clue and that it has now ended.
On a side note, what a sleeze bag she is! Her husband is out risking his life and she repays him by THIS?
2007-01-26 11:21:48 · answer #7 · answered by zinntwinnies 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I agree with 'Proud Single Mom'
If you are freaking out, seek out the guy and tell him and tell him stright up that you are sorry and you never would have if you had of known.
You had no way to know that she has a militairy man, as she never invited you to her house, and there were no rings on her finger - right?
Good Luck!
2007-01-26 11:23:27 · answer #8 · answered by Samantha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't sound so wonderful to me! She's the one in a committed relationship. She should be worried about his return and chances are she's not going to tell him about it. If I were you, I would run from this deceitful person.
2007-01-26 11:28:40 · answer #9 · answered by ♪ ♫Jin_Jur♫ ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So wait, she's pregnant with your baby, or what?? If that's the case, it's her problem dealing with her husband. You need to make it very clear that she made the choice to withhold that information and you aren't to blame for it.
2007-01-26 11:24:31 · answer #10 · answered by BB Gun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋