Sexual Immorality??????

Question

What is defined under that statement? I know that having sex before marriage, while on your cycle, prostitution, and adultry are listed under sexual immorality. I am a parent I want to be able to explain in detail what God means to my children. Can anyone help me?

I am a christian, but I am also a realist. I have a teenage son who is still a virgin and I am trying to show him what the Bible says about sex before marriage. I am trying to teach him that being a virgin is not a bad thing and that he will receive blessings if waits for the right woman to come along.

He is very intelligent and he wants straight forward answers. My husband and I have told him that he can come to us with anything. He's involved in church and our church makes sure that they have activities specifically for our youth.

I don't want to get into a debate about doing what you feel and God has more important things to worry about. He hears and sees everything. He's God. If you are his child and have accepted Jesus as your personal savior, then he is going to be concerned with everything you do.

Answer 1

Good & brave question!--You might be getting some vulgar answers, but that is not important as you indeed are concerned in providing the most palatable answers.

--Bible principles are a must to instill in our teenagers, but indeed such have to be discussed with skill. From what you said , you are indeed having some success with the need your asking about.

--I am sending you a preface from a reference entitled "QUESTIONS YOUNG PEOPLE ASK-ANSWERS THAT WORK" it has been printed in over 75 languages, and has helped millions in the raising of their children. It deals with issues of morality of all kinds, rather than Bible or religious dogma or doctrine.
--Please note the preface:
*** yp pp. 5-9 Foreword-Answers That Work **

'WHY DON'T my parents understand me?' 'Should I give drugs and alcohol a try?' 'What about sex before marriage?' 'How do I know if it's real love?' 'What does the future hold for me?'

You are neither the first-nor the last-youth to ask such questions. However, when young people raise these basic issues, they are often barraged with conflicting answers. For example, drinking alcoholic beverages. Parents may discourage it-though indulging in it themselves. Magazines and TV shows glorify it. Peers encourage you to try it. No wonder, then, that many youths are genuinely perplexed as to just what they should do.

Recognizing the need for honest, workable answers to the questions of today's youth, Awake! magazine inaugurated a feature entitled "Young People Ask . . . " in January 1982. The series immediately drew a favorable reader response. "The series is evidence of your continued interest in the plight of young people today," wrote one appreciative reader. "I hope and pray that these articles never end," wrote another.

Yet another young reader put it this way: 'I am 14 years old and I never knew growing up could be so hard. There is so much pressure on young kids today. That is why I am very grateful for the articles. Every night I thank God for having them published.' The articles, however, were not childish, nor was any attempt made to "write down" to our readers. "Young People Ask . . . " thus found an appreciative audience among adults. "I am 40 years of age," wrote one parent. "These articles are truly godsends to us parents." Christian elders found them particularly useful in understanding young ones in congregations of Jehovah's Witnesses and in dealing with them.

Why has "Young People Ask . . . " triggered such enthusiastic response? The answers given really work! Each article is the product of extensive research. Furthermore, in order to determine just how young people really think and feel, Awake! reporters have spoken to hundreds of young people all over the world! Their candid expressions have been of great help in making the articles realistic and practical.

However, the real secret to the success of "Young People Ask . . . " lies in the fact that the answers given have been based, not upon theory or personal opinion, but upon the eternal truths found in God's Word, the Bible. 'The Bible?' you may ask. Yes, it has much to say to young people. (See Proverbs, chapters 1-7; Ephesians 6:1-3.) It was inspired by our Creator, who is keenly aware of "the desires incidental to youth." (2 Timothy 2:20-22; 3:16) And while human society has changed much since Bible times, youthful desires have changed little. The Bible is thus as current as ever. We have endeavored, though, to present the Bible's counsel in such a way that youths do not feel preached to, but, rather, reasoned with. And while the material has been written primarily with youths among Jehovah's Witnesses in mind, it can be read and enjoyed by anyone who has respect for the practical wisdom contained in the Bible.

In response to the requests of many readers, we have compiled a number of "Young People Ask . . . " articles in book form. The 39 chapters herein represent, in condensed form, information from over 100 of the nearly 200 articles that appeared in Awake! between 1982 and 1989. Some fresh material has been added. Furthermore, it is richly illustrated with photographs of youths of different lands and races.

Feel free to scan the table of contents and go right to the questions that concern you the most. We recommend, though, that you later take the time to read the book through in its entirety, looking up the scriptures in your own copy of the Bible.

In some families, parent-child communication is lacking or awkward at best. We have thus added a feature called Questions for Discussion, which appears at the end of each chapter. The questions are not designed for paragraph-by-paragraph analysis. Nor are they a vehicle for parents to quiz their children. They are designed to stimulate discussions between youths and parents. Many of the questions allow you to give your own point of view or to apply the material under discussion to your own situation.

Many families may therefore want to use this book at times as a basis for family study. Family members might do so by taking turns reading paragraphs, looking up any scriptures cited. The Questions for Discussion can be asked intermittently, as appropriate subheadings are completed or after the whole chapter has been completed. All can be encouraged to express their feelings openly and honestly. Young people may enjoy discussing the book among themselves.

These are "critical times hard to deal with," even for young people. (2 Timothy 3:1) With a knowledge of God's Word, however, you can successfully pass through that difficult time of life. (Psalm 119:9) It is our pleasure, therefore, to provide this collection of practical, Bible-based answers to questions that may perplex you.

The Publishers

Published semimonthly by the Watchtower Bible and Tract Society of New York, Inc.

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--Other article sited that might be helpful:

*** w88 4/15 pp. 5-6 The Bible and Teenage Morality ***
Giving Youths Moral Guidance

At Proverbs 4:1-4, King Solomon urges youths: "Listen, O sons, to the discipline of a father . . . For I proved to be a real son to my father, tender and the only one before my mother. And he would instruct me and say to me: 'May your heart keep fast hold of my words.'" It is evident that Solomon was able to discuss even intimate things with his father; Solomon himself goes on to discuss sexual immorality in a very frank manner.-Proverbs 5:1-19.

Among Jehovah's Witnesses, many families are maintaining a similarly open dialogue with their children-and with great success! They do more than simply tell their children "No!" regarding sexual relations. The Bible helps them give their children sound reasons for avoiding promiscuity. Consider, again, Solomon's words. At Proverbs 5:3, 4, he encourages young men to avoid sexual relations with a prostitute. "As a honeycomb the lips of a strange woman [prostitute] keep dripping, and her palate is smoother than oil." Yes, the prospect of immorality may seem quite enticing. However, warns Solomon: "The aftereffect from her is as bitter as wormwood; it is as sharp as a two-edged sword."

Like Solomon, parents can reason with their children on the aftereffects of sexual relations. A troubled conscience, unwanted pregnancies, sexually transmitted diseases such as AIDS-these are bitter returns for a few moments of enticing pleasure. Solomon further exhorts youths not to "give to others [their] dignity." (Proverbs 5:9) Does it not show a lack of self-respect for a youth to give of himself or herself to someone who is not interested in marriage? Is it not humiliating to serve merely as a means of satisfying one's own or someone else's selfish passions? Parents can help their children to appreciate these facts.

Solomon gave further advice about dealing with an immoral person: "Keep your way far off from alongside her, and do not get near to the entrance of her house." (Proverbs 5:8) Similarly, parents can give youths practical advice in avoiding compromising circumstances. They can urge them not to date unprincipled individuals. And when they reach the point of being qualified to pursue courtship, they can be encouraged to take practical steps to avoid sinful conduct. For example, the courting couple might arrange for someone always to accompany them on dates. Old-fashioned? Perhaps. But it is better to take reasonable precautions than to "have to groan in your future when your flesh and your organism come to an end. And you will have to say: 'How I have hated discipline . . . And I have not listened to the voice of my instructors.'"-Proverbs 5:11-13.

--This information I have supplied is of great practical value. My efforts are to supply answers and methods that work to help all of us know the wisdom of the Almighties morality, as his Son , Christ practiced.--These principles in the publications I have sited fall in line completely with his marvelous instruction & sterling example.
--Hopefully the source will not predjudice you.

Sincerely

Answer 2

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Answer 3

The phrase "sexual immorality" in Greek is a basic reference to adultery. That is someone sleeping with another person besides their spouse.

However, there is a principle that reaches further than this limitation. A couple of the clearest passages I will list below.

My personal favorite:
"But amoung you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people." Ephesians 5:3

So teach them to ask the question, is there a HINT?

Also check out 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8. My wife and I used this passage when we started dating as a bases for a Purity Covenant that we would maintain while we were dating.

It is possible to get married a virgin. I am 23, I was married at the age of 20. My wife and I were both virgins when we married.

Answer 4

From where do you get you information.

I think 1 Corinthians 7:36 addressed this by stating premarital sex is not a sin so long as the man marries you.

Also Exodus 22:16,17
Deuteronomy 22:25-27
Deuteronomy 22:28,29

Mention situations where pre marital is not a sin, they all have the same thing in common that the man and woman must become husband and wife. Also it gives no indication as to how long after sex they must marry only that they must.

There are many other examples of sex in the bible that contradict the things you stated as fact. Whatever preacher has been teaching you has been molesting the word of God and he will burn in the lake for that.

Answer 5

What a wonderful mother you are!! Explain to your son that God loves everyone and that the prohibition about pre-marital or extra-marital sex is to protect both the man and the woman from a bad conscience and sexual diseases. It promotes self-control, one of the fruitages of holy spirit which is one reason why masturbation would also be considered as outside the marriage arrangement for sex. Explain to him also that when a couple engages in sex, a small amount of blood is exchanged. This unites a married couple more and more as the years go by but is also one reason prostitutes have one of the highest instances of schizophrenia of any other profession.

Answer 6

not really sure how to answer this question. Sexual immorality I guess would be anything that is "lustful". We are all quilty of it. I battle with it everyday. I am married with 4 kids. ages 7-2 yrs. What kinds of stuff are you trying to explain to you kids. God in general or Sexual immortality. If they are old enough to be sexually active I would explain what God thinks of it. I would also tell them what the cause and effect of the choices they make will be. Example: All sin is pleasureful. That is why we keep falling in to it. The "world" likes to show us how fun drugs are and how fun sex is. it looks glamorous but they never show you the addict who looses their family , job, house, and life. Or the sexual transmitted diseases, pregnancy, and dead beat dads who leave the girl they knocked up all alone.Did you know you can still get genital herpes even if they use a condom? Nothing is fool proof. I think it is so hard for children because they want to live up to the standards of the world. They are to engrossed in MTV and other shows that are sexual risque. As parents we need to filter out all the junk that our kids are watching and start living a healthy lifestyle in frot of them

Answer 7

I am a religious person who believes that sex is a very sacred act. I believe that society has greatly degraded the concept of sex over time and have become selfish with it. Sex should occur only between husband and wife. It isn't something that should be experimented with, or used lightly. We live in a world where instant gratification is so important, and it makes me so sad to see how immoral a world we live in. I am sad that my children will have to deal with these things. God wants what is best for us. Sexual immorality is the root cause of so many deep problems in our world. If sex was contained to just one man and one woman united in marriage, there wouldn't be affairs, babies born into unfit situations, the spread of sexually transmitted diseases would slow. I think God is saddened by the state of our society. The only thing we can do it teach our children the right ways. Good luck teaching your children how to be strong in this very immoral world!!! We need as many strong and wise ones as we can get!

Answer 8

When one starts to build upon a false premise, as you have done here, one forms all kinds of false beliefs out of that false premise. The false premise you are beginning with is that God intended sex only for procreation. That is a false teaching which has sprung up out of some religions, or even some individuals. But, because an indivisual, or even a religion, says something is so does not necessarily make it so. In the things of God, only what is in the Bible is what God directs.. Yes, God intended sex for procreation, but not ONLY for that reason. There is no place in Scripture which states that sex is ONLY for procreation. God stated (I'm paraphrasing) that when a man and a woman become married, they become one flesh. Think about it. The only way a man and a woman can become one is in the sexual union. God DID intend for sex to be one of the rewards for a man and a woman leaving the homes they were reared in, and beginning a new home of their own through the marriage covenant. But, in no place doesGod state that they cannot continue to enjoy the joys of sex when one or the other becomes too old, or too weak, or too ill, or too handicapped, or for whatever reason, unable to produce offspring. So, the teaching that sex isONLY for procreation is a false teaching. However, the teaching that God intends sex ONLY for a married man and woman is a correct Biblical teaching. So, don't form any teachings about food based upon yhe teaching that sex is ONLY for procreation, because that is a false teaching which cannot be found in Scripture. The Bible does teach that we should be moderate in all things, and that includes food, but there are no prohibitions against "junk food." Moderation is the key word, and that is NOT based upon sex being used only for procreation. It is based upon us being able to exercise self control. I hope this helps you. Go in peace. And always remember: -- Jesus loves you!! Sincerely, Uncle Floyd

Answer 9

Sexual immorality, like morality, is highly subjective. You will get a different answer depending on who you talk to.

In my opinion as long as all the parties involved are consenting adults I don't have a problem with what you do in the bedroom.

However Catholics would say that any sex without the express purpose of having a child is immoral. That they consider any sex that includes birth control is immoral.

Basically you have to decide it for yourself.

Answer 10

There are a number of practices that come under that umbrella term.
You mentioned a few: sex before mariage, prostitution and adultry.
From a Biblical standpoint, you may wish to add:
Homosexuality, beastiality, pedophilia.
Matthew 5:28 puts the spotlight on the source.
It says:
". . .everyone that keeps on looking at a woman so as to have a passion for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. "
It would seem we must safeguard our heart.
We must watch what we dwell upon.
That's where it begins.

Answer 11

Having multiple sexual partners fall under sexual immorality and perhaps manner of dress, like wearing low cut jeans with skimpy halter tops to church, and things like lewdness, and picking out careers in exotic dance, the porn industry are just a few additional things I mentioned to my kids. Engaging in sexual talk with jokes an innuendos also.
God bless you.