The woman is not a close friend...more like a friend of a friend. Do I send a card or small gift of just decline and forget about sending anything?
2007-01-26 02:54:38 · 16 answers · asked by melanie 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I honestly don't think she's just looking for more gifts. She's a nice girl. I would probably go if it was not a couple hours away.
2007-01-26 03:18:47 · update #1
If you are not going just because of the distance, send a gift. Always make it a rule that if you would go if you could send a gift anyway.
2007-01-26 07:33:29 · answer #1 · answered by onefootnaked 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that etiquette rules say you should still send a gift... but I think that's ridiculous. If someone invites you to a shower and you hardly know them you can send them a gift if you want to but I don't think you should have to. If it's a relative or a closer friend/acquaintance than you still should, but you'd probably want to for them anyway. Some people send out a million invitations, even to people who they know won't or can't come just to get the gifts... I think that's rude.
2007-01-26 03:06:50 · answer #2 · answered by starsmoak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's just a friend of a friend I would say no gift is necessary.
Some people like to invite everyone the know just to get gifts. Since you don't think she's doing it just for gifts you could always see if you could just give your other friend a few bucks and put your name on the card also.
2007-01-26 02:58:58 · answer #3 · answered by love2shop 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother and I always go in on a gift, or send a gift along when we can not make it to baby showers or wedding showers with other members of the family that are going. And they make sure to put our names on the card if we go in on a gift.
You could ask your friend to go in on a gift, and just sign both your names on the card.
But its all up to you if you want to send a gift....you don't really know her that well.
2007-01-26 03:32:43 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decline, and forget about sending anything since she is just a friend of a friend.
2007-01-26 03:01:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't planning to go to the shower, you are not obligated to give a gift. But if you want to send one that's nice.
2007-01-26 07:18:44 · answer #6 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would send a gift with a little note congratulating her and apologizing for not being able to be there.
2007-01-26 04:27:22 · answer #7 · answered by Hamish 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel obligated to send a gift. But you should RSVP no, so they can get a head count for refreshments.
2007-01-26 02:59:54 · answer #8 · answered by grshoppers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Abby would say if you were invited, but can't attend, you should still send a gift.
2007-01-26 02:58:32 · answer #9 · answered by mth83vt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mail her a card with a gift certificate, and a short apology that you can't attend.
2007-01-26 06:45:03 · answer #10 · answered by Angela C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋