i have come to a conclusion that my friend mite be gay/curious. he acts gay sometimes. are there any ways/tell tale signs that he might be gay without asking him? ...thanks. p.s. i am gay-curious and i would really like to find out.
2007-01-26 02:48:41 · 25 answers · asked by yOYo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Bring around some cute guy friends you have around your other friend to see how he reacts to your cute guy friends.
Is he seems all interested in conversation and even touches them when they are talking, then he's gay/curious.
but if he shrugs it off like its just another guy, then hes not.
2007-01-26 02:57:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How have you come to that conclusion? Signs like any feminine gestures are not reliable. I have met 100% straight men who are very effeminate in their gestures, voice and behaviour. The opposite has been true also.
I'm a person who favours honesty above anything sneaky. If you are that interested, find a way to ask him outright. In private, and in a way that doesn't put pressure on him. You don't need to tell him your own feelings, unless you genuinely feel it's appropriate.
You don't mention your age, which would affect some answers that you get btw. Teenagers are often considered experimenting and still finding out, whereas 20+ folks are seen as more or less decided. This is a generalisation, not an absolute :-).
2007-01-26 11:14:36 · answer #2 · answered by karnautrahl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are good friends...good enough friends that you know enough about this person to make these assumptions...you might just want to ask. I mean, if you are in the same boat as you think he is in, then I don't think he would be offended by the question.
I would think, since you are going through a similar experience, you already know there is really no tell tale sign to figure this out.
Maybe since he is acting openly in such a way to make you think this, he might actually want someone to confront him because he might be afraid to begin the discussion.
2007-01-26 11:00:01 · answer #3 · answered by Melis~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Body language, they way he speaks.. I worked with a guy for over a year and didnt know it but he was gay.. I kinda thought he was, but never brought up the subject.. until one night we were talking about how to spice up my love life, and he said had some movies, but he didnt think that they were my type of movies to watch.. thats how i found out he was gay.. and to be honest with you, ive had a few gay (guy friends) and they are the best to have.. I can have a good time with them, and not worry about them hitting on me, or wanting to sleep with me, and we both have the same interests.. MeN.. Where I work at now is a guy who is gay and is very open about it, tho he really dont act like it, we joke about it all the time and he says he is the only diva or queen in the work place.. lol hes funny and aggrivative at the same time, but I get along with him bc i know im not his type and he wont try to get me into bed or hit one me.. lol
2007-01-26 10:59:54 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys are good friends he'll tell you his sexual preference eventually. Or if you'd like your relationship be more than "just friends" try and hold his hand. See what his reaction is. If he's not gay trying to hold his hand wouldn't be as big a deal compared to trying kiss him or something. Or you could do the easiest thing to find out if he's gay. Go to the club, get wasted...you know the rest.
2007-01-26 10:57:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not ask directly ever, some times they need to do it themselves. We all knew from even when my friend was little that he was gay, but never cared becuase I was good friends with him and still friends today. When he told me, it was no surprise to me and I said to him, "I dont care if you are gay, I still like you the way you are."
If you want to kind of push the issue, bring up stuff related to the issue in a very indirect way like gay marriage and other things. See what his opinions are. Shoot the breeze, but guide the convo in the direction towards homosexuality in a laughing and cheerful way. See how he responds. Good luck!
2007-01-26 10:58:17 · answer #6 · answered by bluestar_dreamsx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all gays have obvious or even observable traits that are easily identifiable as gay. This stereotypical and will more likely lead to wrong assumption more ofter than not. He could just feminine without being gay. Talk with him about it and make certain to let him know that you are not being judgmental. The best way I can think of is to let him know that you are curious about your sexuality (with out coming on to him). This would open the door to the conversation and allow him to decide if he wants to trust you with that information about himself. If he has not come to terms with his curiosity, he is not comfortable with you knowing about it or if he is not curious, he may deny any curiosity. Do not accuse him of gay tendencies if he says he is not curious or Gay. If he laters comes to you and comes out to you then be compassionate and understanding of his need to wait to trust you with the information.
2007-01-26 10:54:07 · answer #7 · answered by rcbricker33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Asking if he would go on a Double date with you....Are you out of the closet....You ask someone and he's asks someone. Are you interested in him? Then that may not be the answer for you. Maybe just outright ask him. Thats always the best. Maybe you should just talk about how you feel (about being gay/courious)and then maybe he will open up. Truth is always the best.
2007-01-26 10:58:53 · answer #8 · answered by bandaidgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if you can give him a BJ. If he says yes, then there is your answer. If you actually give him one, which I am sure you will(why kid yourself otherwise), it will confirm the fact that you are not "gay-curious", but a full blown ButtRanger in your own right.
Then he can slam you in the pooter at least three times per week for the next month. Hope this was helpful!
2007-01-26 22:27:14 · answer #9 · answered by tom c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How to know if a man is gay without asking:
Does he put 'product' in his hair?
Does he use moisterizer?
Does he notice your clothes or haircut?
Does he cry at the movies?
Is he sensitive and care about other people's feelings?
Does he avoid sports, but love Judy Garland?
Does he watch American Idol after the initial judging round?
Does he prefer the half time show to the superbowl?
Does he enjoy dancing?
Can he name 3 fashion designers?
Has he attended an art gallery without a female date?
Has he ever been to see musical theatre without a relative in the show?
Does he like cats or own a small dog?
These are all good signs.
2007-01-26 10:58:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋