Well, you know my bf of 3 months who I wondered about whether he loves me? Well, last night he calls me and tells me he's been talking to his ex, still has feelings for her and says he needs to sort out his feelings, and says it's not fair to see me, too. So now we're broken up. Who saw that coming?
2007-01-26 02:45:50 · 19 answers · asked by pink lady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just let it be and move on don't go looking for a new guy today, take it as a learning experience****
2007-01-26 02:52:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is always unexpected. I would really be strong and leave him alone for sure. If it was meant to be, he will come back, if not than you know. Do NOT wait for him for too long. Give it about 2 weeks and if you don't hear from him. DROP the issue right away and find some one else. You dont need a man who is wishy washy and unsure about how they feel. Trust me...its the worse feeling you could ever have. If he needs time to sort his feelings, give the man some breathing room. Dont call him, or contact him in ANY way. Personally he might be doing you a favor instead of wasting your time, knowing you dont deserve that.
Move on if he doesn't contact you ever again...it will be his lose when you find some one better and he wants you back. Learn to heal from this issue and go back out into the dating world again.
2007-01-26 10:53:55 · answer #2 · answered by bluestar_dreamsx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. You know I think the problem with men and women in general is that they never take time to be alone, really alone to process a prior relationship before moving forward. Unfortunately you got caught in the cross fire...You know the type. The break up with a BF or GF can't stand for one minute to deal with their feelings and they jump on Match.com or something else proclaiming they are available and then unwittingly you go out with them, fall for them, and the next thing you know they are back with their ex.
But let me tell you this. You can wait, or you can move on. I would move on personally but this is your choice. The chances are virtually 100% that the stuff that caused them to break up in the first place will resurface, and they will probably break up again. But then they may be a "drama"couple and pull this little trick about 4-5 times before they tire of it. I don't think you or anyone else has the emotional fortitude to go through this frankly speaking.
Of course you are shocked and hurt and it is painful to be rejected...but you know you were a "rebound" and that is the problem in a nutshell, and he should have sorted out his feelings prior to dating anyone.
2007-01-26 11:02:23 · answer #3 · answered by Suzanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least he respected u enough to at least tell u. But whose to say that he really did leave her in the 1st place. Better for you leave the loser and if he did that 2 u he will do that to the ex gf too. It is his lost not urs and u'll find someone that is for u. Remember everything happens for a reason and b/c u were with him ur night and shining armour couldn't come now that ur ex is outta the way looks like a horse is on his way too u. Cheer up something better is instored for u.
2007-01-26 12:11:15 · answer #4 · answered by wet t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His ex most likely. What is she doing? Knowing that her presence between two of you may cause problems. Your guy is indecisive, how can he still have feelings for her these months and in a relationship with another girl? It's NOT fair to you. Forgot him, look for someone who loves you truly with all his heart. Good luck.
2007-01-26 10:57:17 · answer #5 · answered by satinne_hui 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I saw it coming and I don't even know you. Say Good riddens. He'll probably go back to the ex, bang her for a few months and come back to you. What will you do then? That's the real 64k question I want to hear the answer to.
2007-01-26 10:53:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No big deal. YOu can't control someones feelings. If he still is into the ex. Move on! Why would you want to be with someone who blatantly stated that he loves his ex still. No it's not fair to see you too! Think about it......
2007-01-26 10:50:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you can be very intimate with a person in a short amount of time, just be glad you only wasted 3 months with him instead of 8 months to a year.
2007-01-26 10:58:26 · answer #8 · answered by ronce_1118 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry girl u went out with someone on the rebound he hadnt quite recovered from the last one but then look on the bright side u wont go out with a guy who doesnt have his feelings in order and also he hadnt discovered what he had when he had u let him go someone else who deserves u will find u
2007-01-26 10:51:50 · answer #9 · answered by ladyluck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well now you dont have to wonder any more if he loves you or not, talking to and going back to his ex is his answer.. and from what i can see.. its no..
2007-01-26 10:52:14 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its better to break the relationship with such guy. be cautious, don't fall an easy prey again. keep distance frm guys and stay safe. look for the right guy and get married.
2007-01-26 11:06:11 · answer #11 · answered by vijay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋