Im extremely close to my older brother who's 19, and I lookup to him because he always gives really good advice. But for the last few months when I've been getting more involved with these guys I know, I cant seem to go to my brother anymore. He has this habit of telling what I say, to my parents, who are overprotective. I want to ask his advice but now its like I have 3 parents, because he always sides with them. I want to tell him everything thats been going on with me lately, but Im afraid that he'll go running straight to my parents who will freak out ever though I havent done anything. (you know how parents can be) So what should I do? Take a chance and ask my brother for advice? Or keep it to myself, and not tell him anything anymore??
2007-01-26 02:42:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No its not a serious problem, but when it comes to guys, and my parents then its always a big deal, even if its just to hang out on a friday night, not even a date, they make it into a huge deal.... its not like I'm trying to hide something from then, its just that they wouldnt understand my situation
2007-01-26 03:01:14 · update #1
Im in highschool btw, and the situation im talking isnt drinking, or doing drugs, its simply hanging out with friends, but when it comes to my brother, and parents, everthing is a big deal....
And i just want to thank everyone for your answers, and advice, I think im starting to get everything into perspective :0)
2007-01-26 03:05:46 · update #2
One last detail...
My parents dont approve of the guys im friends with... but i think that this is because they dont know what theyre really like, and the good things they have done for me.... they just look for the bad in everyone...
and thanks again :0)
2007-01-26 03:12:32 · update #3
I think you should have a heart to heart with your brother, let him know how you feel. Tell him you miss the brotherly bond you guys had and how you feel like you have 3 parents now, be honest with him then see how things go from there. If you feel you got the bond back then you guys can go out and do some catching up and let him know what's been going on with you. Best of luck to you. Take Care
2007-01-26 02:58:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? And what’s the deal with the “guys” you’ve gotten involved with?
I’m going to assume that your brother is still giving you advice. I’m also going to assume that he fears it’s going in one ear and out the other. Your brother’s going to your parents because apparently he has reason to fear that you’re going to do something that may screw up your life.
Here’s a story for you…
I know a woman whose sister died as a teenager in a drunk driving accident. She knew her sister was going out drinking that night. She has lived every day for the last twenty years (and will until the day she dies) with guilt…if she had only told her parents, her sister would still be alive, because they wouldn’t have let her gone.
Your brother is doing this because he loves you.
MAYBE you need to rethink some of the decisions that you’re making.
Just a thought.
Then again, maybe my assumptions are wrong?
2007-01-26 03:00:44 · answer #2 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The older we get, the more we see things from an adult's point of view.
You could try asking him not to repeat things. Tell him you need advice but you don't want him to tell your parents. If he agrees, talk to him. If not, is it a serious problem? What would be the worst thing that could happen if your parents did find out?
You're obviously in some sort of problem - give him a chance.
2007-01-26 02:55:57 · answer #3 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont trust him . My brother is the same he is 16 and i trusted him with the biggest secret of all that my friend told me that happened to her and he told my mom and now i cant even talk to my friend at all . What happened was i tried to go somewhere with her and he told my mom the last place i went they were boys so i snitched his friends out and he snitched all of my friends out of everything they did . Dont ever trust your brother if he is overprotective .
2015-08-10 21:17:17 · answer #4 · answered by carolyn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of times- like it or not, parents are right. they have more experience and are more likely to see the bad before you because they have been there.
Your brother is only concerned about you. go to him. he will be able to help. remember when you need help the family always comes around.
2007-01-26 03:17:54 · answer #5 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your brother about trust and how you feel. You want to trust him, maybe you can make him understand that. You know it is just because he cares for you. Good Luck.
2007-01-26 03:25:58 · answer #6 · answered by plaplant8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing else left to do but find someone that you can trust with your problems.
2007-01-26 03:05:14 · answer #7 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep away from him with ur personal life. Find a good friend. I am at ;Rowell1608@yahoo.com
2007-01-26 02:57:43 · answer #8 · answered by rowell1608 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't tell your brother anything anymore!
2007-01-26 02:56:42 · answer #9 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋