My ex broke up with me relatively suddenly just less than two months ago. The split was amicable, I respected his choice, although I disagreed and didn't understand it.
We still speak every day, meet up to watch films and have dinner. The last time we met up we dozed off for an hour in each other's arms - although this could've been subconscious comfort.
After waking, I dropped him off at the pub where he was watching a footy match and he kissed me goodbye. Do I put this down to him being half-asleep?
He has openly told me that I made his life better, and that he still cares for me. I love him and am in love with him. I won't push him into anything, and I am living my life - but I still want to do more with him. There is still more to life that I want to share with him.
I'm in a quandry. If I push, I may push him away. If I stay back, he may see it as indifference and move on.
Where do I/we go from here?
2007-01-26 02:42:01 · 21 answers · asked by Nikky H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, of course there is. Ask yourself what do you really want. Do you want to be in a romantic relationship with him or just pure friendship? You stlll love him, how about him? Does he loves you or is he just looking for a shoulder to lean on (a close friend)? Then make the decision you think is right.
2007-01-26 02:50:41 · answer #1 · answered by satinne_hui 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to be careful now. You're in a relatively difficult spot.
As far as I can tell, you are still dating...just without the label. You're doing everything that a couple does, just not the physical stuff. If you progress to more physical stuff without a label you are then considered the "other girl" or a "booty call". This you want to avoid.
Just ask him straight up if something is still going on between you. No sense trying to figure something out that can be clarified with a quick question. If there is truly nothing left for him, then you need to stop hanging around him because as it stands, nothing will change for the better.
2007-01-26 02:53:00 · answer #2 · answered by Morty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's still chance for a reconciliation.But pls.
set the record straight with him.You know he cannot have the cake and eat it too!He cannot enjoy your companionship when he wants it and at the same time if he finds someone else as a girlfriend he will just leave you without guilt.That's not fair.I hope you realize that now before it happens.Look not only at one side of the coin,if there is a chance for a reconciliation,
there is also a chance you might end-up more broken-hearted than you are now.
2007-01-26 03:14:02 · answer #3 · answered by ranya j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are still very comfortable with each other and that is hard to lose.You don't give the reason why you broke up, but i would guess that he told you that it wasn't your fault but his and he needed some space.(Am i right? ) That seems to be a standard break up excuse! I would try to move on and find someone who doesn't need his space and who wants to spend quality time with you making memories and having fun with you, not someone who has you drop him off at the pub so he can be with his mates.Sorry for being so brutal,but sometimes it takes a stranger to read between the lines.Good luck .
2007-01-29 09:44:28 · answer #4 · answered by bevalou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There no desire for a reconcilliation. Your boyfriend's ideas is made up and he would not desire to be with you. so as to have a solid courting, there could be solid verbal exchange and that's what became into lacking right here. it fairly is totally problematic while somebody would not refer to you and you do not understand why and that they gained't inform you why. This guy has taken you decrease back interior the previous and it did not help concerns any. the comparable ingredient stored taking place. i don't think of he has a grudge against you. He needs out of a courting it is going no the place. we are able to lose thoughts for a guy or woman while there is not any bonding, nurturing, and trusting in a courting. we gained't assume a guy or woman's love keeping us of their existence. there is different factors that ought to be seen additionally. no one's blaming you for what has occurred yet, please learn from this so which you will not carry this into your next courting. No volume of begging and pleading is going to make this guy take you decrease back. It won't help not now or later. You admitted you're able to alter so, initiate engaged on your self and on an identical time as doing so which you will meet somebody else. you would be new and better and characteristic extra to grant. For now, settle for a platonic friendship alongside with your ex boyfriend.
2016-12-12 20:42:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that some time apart would be good for the two of you, because if you are supposed to be together, after that time apart, there shouldn't be any issue in you two getting back together. If you're not supposed to be together, then you have to accept that. But being around each other, still behaving like you're a couple when you aren't, is not good for either of you.
2007-01-26 02:54:24 · answer #6 · answered by Licia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is always hope for reconciliation. You need to talk to him. Maybe you two need some time living apart while still seeing each other often. But you need to know where you stand, for instance: are you together in other words not dating anyone else? Is he?
Because frankly he might just be coming around because he has no other outlet for his sex drive.
2007-01-26 02:51:46 · answer #7 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like he wants his cake and eat it. Dosent want the commitment but wants you. But speaking from someone who has had a few relationships this is my advice. If you are happy with the current situation leave it as it is talking to him might change things, you will probably find that he returns to you no problem.
Sometimes it is peer pressure and men get scared of the whole commitment thing so they back off. This dosent mean that he dosent want to be with you.
You could talk to him but he will probably say that you are just very good friends etc etc and back off a little.
Carry on with your life and enjoy yourself. Go out when you want with whom you want. If you are busy when he wants to meet dont cancel plans to see him. If he sees that you are getting on with things this might make him think again and ask to come back!!!
Good luck with whatever you decide to do. Men are funny and unpredictable but we still love them
2007-01-26 03:10:35 · answer #8 · answered by entertainer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is giving you mixed signals, sit him down and explain how you feel and find out how he feels and what you both want. You may find he feels the same, if he doesn't then you can move on with your life and stop hanging around for something that's not going to happen.
Good luck
2007-01-26 02:48:51 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, looks like there is a light at the end of tunnel. Try to pull back a bit, show little bit coldness, and wait for the reaction. then you decide later what to do from there on.
2007-01-26 02:55:01 · answer #10 · answered by Iqbal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋