Do you stay at home or are you a working mom?

Question

What do you think are the pro's and con's of both?

Answer 1

I work and my son is taken care of by my sister who stays home with her two children.

WORKING MOMS
*Pros:
-more financially secure
-more independence
-adult contact throughout the day
-kids have contact with other children and adults thus learning to be indepent from parents

*Cons:
-only a few hours with your kids at the end of the day
-possibility of missing thier "firsts"
-hard to find time to spend with husband because you feel like you NEED to be with your kid when not at work

STAYING HOME
*Pros:
-get to spend all day playing and learning with your children
-don't have to worry about them all day
-kids have less sick time
-more time to get housework done

*Cons:
-feeling of "losing one's identity"
-little or no adult contact or interaction
-it's hard work!
-don't get paid unfortunately

I would like to stay home with my son and I plan to as soon as my husband gets established with his new business. But I love my job and I worked HARD to get where I am in my career. That is important to me. Of course my son is most important to me - but I REFUSE to feel guilty for the hard work and dedication I put into my education and career.

Answer 2

I'm a stay at home mom, all though I don't stay at home too often! Some of the pros can be getting to really know your kids and their friends, getting involved at their schools helps tremendously, obviously if they are sick you don't have to worry about missing work. The cons...it's a never ending 24 hour a day job. Sometimes I wish I could leave for 8 hours and not have to do all the house stuff, but I wouldn't trade it for anything! Plus, it would be really nice to have more money!

Answer 3

I've done it both ways.

With my first child, who is now 7, he was so social and outgoing that he was bored with me and since we were always at playgroups and stuff to keep him happy, the transition to daycare was natural for him and me. I went back to work part time, then full time. The hardest part was coordinating work schedules with his school schedules. My husband and I were both retail managers so it was super expensive to have child care on weekends and evenings on the weeks where we couldn't get our schedules to mesh well.
The perks were being able to afford more stuuf, go on great vacations and buy pretty much whatever we all desired.

I left work to Stay home when my son started Kindergarten and I became pregnant again. AS much as I miss the extra income and its benefits (as well as the validation that comes from working) I love being there for my daughter and son. I may be half crazy some days when my hubby comes home from work but my kids know I'm there.

I do miss the feeling of being a working woman. I thrive on recognition and sometimes its hard to be a SAHM. We've been raised that we can do it all and its humbling to admit we can't or don't want to have the career, marriage and children. So I'm going back to school. I don't really plan on returning to work ever, but it can't hurt to have an education and pursue what i'm interested in. Many schools have online courses and you can get govt financial aid as long as you take at least 6 credit hours a semester. I start in june so I'll see where that takes me!

Answer 4

I'm a Stay at home mom,The pros are i get to spend alot of time with my children, I get the relief of not having to worry about weather the person who is watching my children are harming them , I don't have to reschedule Doctor Appointment's around my work schedule, Or having to worry about loosing my job when my child is ill and i have to be home to care for them.I used to be a working mom ,I don't think there is anything wrong with it ,It is whatever suits the family the best ,I just felt guilty from being away so much and felt it would better benefit them to be around more

Answer 5

I was a stay at home mom for 6 years and now I work part time.

Pros to stay at home Cons


Get to see them grow no time for yourself

One on one time Less money

Monitor their diet Eat more yourself

You get to play anytime you want!!!

You can take naps (sometimes)



Pros to going to work

Extra income


see the other you


Interact with adults



Cons

Less time for what is really important

Someone else raises your angels

Come home to tired to even spend time enjoying your little angels

Your house gets neglected and so does your family!!!







I work 3 days a week for only 6 hours so I can still spend time with my 3 and 6 year old.

Answer 6

I am a full time momy and there was a time where I wanted to get back to work!! but for me there is nothing more important than been able to raise my child myself!! I have nothing against the working moms out there and I think they make an awesome job, I would do it if I have to, but If Thanks God I have the chance to give my time and the best of y efforts to raise my child and be the best mom I can be, I rather do that, I like to be the one that cooks for her, witness first hand her development, plays, reads, discipline her, etc!! I was taking her to a preschool for a while and it was good on one hand because she was able to interact with other children but the picked up on a lot of nasty things!! that is when I decided nobody was going to take as good care to my daughter as I do, cause nobody will care about her as us her parents!!! so not working for me for a while, since I have another one on the way!! Times flies and they grow so fast, that this years I would spend been a stay at home mom!! I would never regret them!!! They need and deserve the best of me and that includes all my time!!

Answer 7

im a at home mom pros would be being around your child to watch them grow up and being there when they need you but the cons is social life goes away when you no longer work or go out but to me thats part of being a mother but theres nothing wrong with the working moms either

Answer 8

I am a stay at home mom. I think the pros are getting to be with my son all day. Seeing every moment of his life. I feel it has also gave us a special bond. And i know he is be taught the things i want him to be taught and if somthing goes wrong i have no one to blame but myself. I think (or would think) the pro of being a working mom would be contact with the adult human race, sometimes i really miss that.

Answer 9

I'm a stay-at-home mom

Pros:
as a stay-at-home parent you'll know that your child is being cared for by someone who's going to be around for a long time — not a caregiver who might take another job next month. And you'll be directly supervising your child's care, making sure it's in a relaxed, nurturing environment.

And you'll be there to see all those "firsts," which can be incredibly satisfying

You're irreplaceable to your child, and you're making an ongoing personal investment that will outlive you."

For some families, it's actually less expensive for one parent to stay home than it would be to pay for childcare

Cons:
loneliness
self-esteem may suffer
no timefor yourself

Answer 10

Technically, I'm both. When I'm at work in the morning (3 1/2 hours) after I drop my children off for school, my husband is at home with our youngest and then he picks her up at 11:00. When I come home (12:30) we make lunch for our two younger children while our oldest is at school all day. My hubby leaves for work at 2 and I stay home and pick up our son, make dinner, clean, etc.

I wouldn't have it any other way. I still get out to make some money for our family, but yet I still get to stay home most of the day with my children.

Answer 11

Im a stay at home mom.
The pros~ with my kids all the time. The cons~ with my kids all the time. :)