that I can't stand up for myself??? I always get picked on and I always talk about standing up for myself but when the time comes I guess I chicken out Because I don't want to hurt anyones feelings. I don't know what to do. I am tired of being picked on but I am scared to stand up for myself in fear of hurting someone!!! What should I do???
A Senior In High School
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Bookworm
2007-01-26
02:38:28
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Fighting Irish Lass
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And I Can Stand Up for Other People But I Can't Stand Up For Myself!!!!!
2007-01-26
02:52:27 ·
update #1
I AM A FEMALE NOT A MALE!!!!!
2007-01-26
02:54:39 ·
update #2
u have to have confidene in u.try to be more extrovert...have lots of friends...help out other people!u'll grow enough confidence in u when u know someone depends on u.Be brave and know that u have to speak up...it's not the end of the world if someone doesn't like u for what u say.I stood up for my friend today and had a fight with a security guard because he was misbehaving with my male friend.I was the only girl there...yet i stood up for him..and for our dignity.good luck:)
2007-01-26 02:48:57
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answered by Beautiful 3
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If you are being picked on then you should have no worries about hurting others feelings by standing up for yourself. These bullies (because that's what they are) have no regard for your feelings.You have the right to an education in a safe respectful environment as anyone els and maybe next time people are picking on you, you could say this to them in a loud voice in a very public area then after this report the incident to a tutor. Be brave be strong take a deep breath and muster all your courage and put these bullies in there place. power to you.
2007-01-26 10:57:24
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answered by Brownsuger 2
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You are too nice. You need to set up a code of personal ethics with limitations, borders, and standards. It has to deal with what you will put up with and what you won't. It will create an edge on you and for you. It will tell or show people not to mess with you. People you know or meet will no longer trespass your borders and cross the line with what they say or do in relation to you. It is not business as usual. It will alienate people you are not interested in and garner the respect of others. You must follow it religiously.
Also, as a Senior in High School I would venture to say that you have some interest in girls. Look up from your books and you will see quite a number who might be interested in you because you have a sense of you are and are sensitive as well.
You can't live your life in order to please everyone else. Otherwise you will lose yourself and spend your life trying to find yourself at the lost and found of souls. A very lonely place to be. I know that you don't want to hurt any ones feelings, but they are going to have to learn to live with disappointment if they try and mess with you.
2007-01-26 11:12:11
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answered by Monsieur Rick 7
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There is nothing wrong with being concerned about other peoples feelings. But you can find a way of telling people what you want in a way that will spare hurting anyone. Whatever message you want to get across, state in a positive manner. You don't have to be an a** to get along in this world. Being concerned about other people is a positive trait.
2007-01-26 10:56:00
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answered by convoiceofreason 4
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Life is WAY too short to be run over by anyone. I used to be the same way, but if people are running over you and by you standing up for yourself hurts them, they are not worth keeping. As you get older, this will help you weed through the wrong people. The right people will never run over you. As I have gotten older, I've had less need to stand up for myself cuz I pretty much confine my environment with people who respect me. If they don't........there IS a curb!! You have your own feelings to consider. You have to stand your ground to gain the respect of others. START TODAY!!
2007-01-26 10:48:18
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answered by georgiarose_01 4
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Wrong category for this rant. Maybe the reason why you get picked on is because you're always in the wrong place at the right time...as you are here. You teach people how to treat you. If you allow people to run over you, some will gladly take that step. It's up to you.
2007-01-26 10:43:44
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answered by Anonymous
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First of all, this will only last so long. Once you get to college, you can redefine yourself as how YOU want to be. Also, those jerks that are messing with you will be begging you to help them with their calculus homework.
For the here and now, remember that these people are hurting you by picking on you. Let loose on them. They deserve whatever they get. You aren't hurting their feelings...they will get over it.
2007-01-26 10:44:59
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answered by Morty 3
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You can stand up for yourself without hurting people's feelings. You just need to word what you are saying in such a way that it doesn't sound like you mean any offence or insults.
2007-01-26 10:44:53
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answered by Anonymous
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You have to stop caring if you hurt someone. I know that sounds horrible and it certainly isn't easy to do, but people will run all over you for the rest of your life if you don't learn to stop it now. The next time you start to back down, force yourself not to; it's not easy, but you can do it.
2007-01-26 10:42:02
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answered by Creampoof737 3
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Stop worrying if you will hurt anyone. Apparently they don't care if they hurt you, or this abuse wouldn't continue. I know it's hard but you will find out how strong you really are if you stand-up for yourself. Good Luck, Be Strong, you will respect yourself if you can stick-up for yourself.
2007-01-26 10:48:40
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answered by froggi6106 4
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