I am on a strict budget for my wedding and have been advised by many not to give out favours because they are a waist of money and people just leave them behind at the end of the night. What do you think? Is it rude?
2007-01-26 02:22:17 · 62 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No actually I don't think its rude people don't do to weddings because they want your wedding favors. They go to see you get married. So don't worry about the favors and just plan for what you can afford. Good luck, and Congratulations ♥
2007-01-26 02:27:33 · answer #1 · answered by Heather 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I'm getting married in june and also have a very tight budget. Part of you wants to have the fairytale wedding with all the extras whilst the other half is trying to stick to budget.
What i'm doing instead is not bothering with favors for everyone. I've gone to a normal shop and spent about £15 on loads of tubes of love hearts and i'm tying ribbon around every tube and putting them in a bowl on the tables. I got wrapping ribbon. it looks really affective actually. If people want to take them they will.
I find with favours you have to get the boxs to put them in which costs and then you have to buy the favours too. I'd avoid buying from wedding stores as they charge more.
Also top tip when ever you are buying or booking something like a dj never mention the word wedding just say party as the price doubles.
Good luck for the wedding wish you both the best x
2007-01-29 06:11:08 · answer #2 · answered by pink_wings84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your wedding and no one elses, if you are on a strict budget do exactly what you want, if you don't want to give favours then don't at the end of the day anyone that is bothered by the lack of favours is not a friend and you won't have lost anything.
What you need to remember is that it is your day, your true friends and your family will only want you to be happy nothing more nothing less. Only do what you can sensibly afford but also what YOU want not what you think you should do.
Also anyone that thinks you should thank people for coming to your wedding, you get a nice meal, some drinks and thanked in the speech it is not the guests day it is the bride and grooms day!
2007-01-26 02:52:14 · answer #3 · answered by suzi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No not rude it is up to yourself. Some weddding favours can be treasured but I agree with you often they are left at end of evening. Realistically most people do not want things wrapped in bits of tulle etc gathering dust around their house. Certainly something edible wrapped this way could be eaten.....just a thought. It shouldn't worry you what people think but if it does why not give a donation to your favourite charity, just as much as you can afford, that is your business. On each table something nice could be printed off from a computer stating it was your decision not to give favours and instead you decided to donate in this way. It would be indeed be a horrible person who wasn't happy with that. I am willing to provide favours for my daughter's forthcoming wedding so not on a strict budget but to be honest I would be happy if she didn't want favours and go down this road. I really only thought about doing this the other evening so haven't put it to her yet..
2007-01-26 02:32:33 · answer #4 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would forgo favours if you don't have enough money. It isn't rude at all. If you do something candy or somehting edible would be they way to go to not have it just go in the trash. Check out www.m-m.com. I don't know how expensive they are but you could get customized m&m's in your wedding colors and put your names on them or something. If you ordered those and then wrapped a small handful in some cheap tulle from a craft store and tied it with a small ribbon that would be really cute and probably cheaper then a lot of the norm weding favours.
2007-01-26 02:58:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I would even notice if there were no favours at a wedding. It's not rude, and why waste money you don't have? I doubt that your friends and family would think it rude if you did not give them out. One friend of mine was on a really tight budget and she just bought a big box of wrapped chocolate mints and put them in a basket, she then walked around the room and handed them out to everyone, it also meant she got to circulate the room and chat to every person there.
2007-01-28 20:16:29 · answer #6 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wedding favours are outdated and in this day and age not many people can afford them anymore. I don't think anyone even really expects them, do they?? With the cost of a wedding and all the things that go with it, no one will think that its rude. You're already throwing them a party, providing a meal and letting them share in your happiness... The last one is the only one that really counts anyway.
2007-01-29 03:52:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rude? Hardly! I am in the same boat, my fiance and I are on a VERY TIGHT budget and wedding favors are completely out of the question for us. My personal feeling on the matter is that people should be happy to just come and celebrate with you without expecting some "present" in exchange for their time. Plus like everyone else has said, a lot of them get left behind when your guests leave, don't bother wasting your money.
Good luck and congratulations!
2007-01-26 06:53:04 · answer #8 · answered by the future mrs 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is certainly not rude. First these people are there to support you because they love you, not for gifts. And secondly as mentioned before most of the time they are left behind (even if they're edible) and you feel end up feeling a little offended and then you have to find a home for 60 extra "Best-of-our-love" CDs.
Bottom line, this wedding is about your love and commitment, little gifts that will end up being coasters or spoon rests by then end of the night do not determine a fun wedding.
Bless you and have a wonderful and lasting marriage!
2007-01-26 03:07:28 · answer #9 · answered by robinjoyful 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At our wedding in December we gave handmade chocolates as favours, we found a wholesaler locally and we paid £10 for 1 kilo of chocolates (around 60). We just asked our reception venue to put one on each side plate. A favour really doesn't have to be something expensive, just a small gesture.
2007-01-30 01:03:24 · answer #10 · answered by Little Bo Peep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALthough I do agree that many people leave favours behind, you should have something at the tables at the place settings. How about inexpensive little mints wrapped in a small piece of netting, and tied with a ribbon. It will look nice, and give your guests fresh breath after eating dinner. Netting can be bought for 1.00 (36" or 48" bolts) per yard at fabric stores or even Walmart, and ribbon is very cheap by the spool.
2007-01-26 02:30:32 · answer #11 · answered by Lynny K 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋