My ex-friend and I have been friends with benefits for the past 4 months but lately his closed me off because he dont feel comfortable dating someone and we're really good close friends. He feels like its unfair to her and all I dont know what I should because its not the first time that his closed me off as his friend and all he can offer me right now is a few nights a week for about 5-10 minutes. When we use to talk almost everynight for hours about things. I'm just not sure if I want to put myself in a situtation where I can get hurt again. He knows that I would like for us to get back together someday but for now I'm ok with good close friends I just want that chance to see if things can work. We dated for 11 months and were exemetly close and had a deep connection but things ended badly and I just want to see if things could work if we matured some more. I just dont know how to handle the position he has put me in.
2007-01-26 02:14:40 · 10 answers · asked by softball_badgirl_169 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh please, spare me, don't blame him you allowed yourself to be put in this situation. don't give him the right time of day. move on with your life and don't waste it. Their are so many neat guys out there, and life is too short and precious. Before you know it you'll be in your 50's and you'll wonder what happened, . Time has a way of flying by. Only you can make yourself happy. Start right now....
2007-01-26 02:24:59 · answer #1 · answered by brown eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in this situation before and it's hard especially when you have feelings for eachother. You should of ended it when you two broke up as messing around, and just continued to be friends then things would be so much easier. He is right though, he shouldn't mess with you while he's dating another girl. How would you feel if he would of been messing around with his ex while you two were dating? If you're a true friend you'll realize his new girlfriend is his life right now and he still calls you so he hasn't cut you out completely and you should be thankful for that because in my situation I got cut out completely, no calls, anything. Just keep your head up and remember things always pan out.
Everyone always says ignore them and act like they are the last thing on your mind and they'll come back and at first I thought that was BS, but it works, because I started going out more, being with my friends more, not answering all his calls, and he came back. If it's ment to be it will happen if it's not don't push it, it's not right for you. I'd go ahead and start the ignoring now and it will help you heal and maybe help him realize what he had.
Good luck!
2007-01-26 10:22:16 · answer #2 · answered by aliciamarie88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay it sounds like at one time you dated seriously decided to be friends and then later became friends with "benefits". I am not by any means judging I was previously in a similar situation the problem is that the feeling you had for him that went beyond friendship are still there. It sounds to me like your friend has found someone he wants to be serious with and he feels that spending time with you when you have "been" together isn't fair and he might even feel it's to much temptation. I hate to say it but he's right if he wants to make it work with her he can't be putting himself into a situation that could turn into more with you.
This is the draw back to havin a friend with benefits cause the friendship will tend to fall by the wayside when the man or woman meet someone they want to be with.
However it also sounds like you never really stopped loving him and that's not right or wrong but you can't tell him how you feel while he's with her because it isn't fair to either of them and doesn't honor what you once had.
My advice wait until they are broken up and see how you feel cause it might just be that you want what you can't have and once you can it doesn't look so good.
2007-01-26 10:28:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let go and start living your life. In case you haven't noticed, he's not trying to reconcile with you, he is dating other people. It's time you faced the truth and realize your relationship is over. He may come back to you to get him through to the next girlfriend, but is that what you want to be for him, someone to get him through until he finds the one he really wants. Stop cutting yourself short and move on.
2007-01-26 10:22:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think u should move on with your life and find somebody else. If he doesn't feel comfortable dating u because yall are close friends just forget about him and find somebody else. Look i'm not trying to tell u what to do or anything it's just that if he doesn't like u because yall are close friends just forget about him.
write back
2007-01-26 10:26:49 · answer #5 · answered by tony k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go!! Give the new girl a chance. You are not the one and you need to realize that before you get him all mixed up in the head.
2007-01-26 10:23:44 · answer #6 · answered by Ana M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get over him. Hes just using as a back up.
2007-01-26 10:24:32 · answer #7 · answered by MJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You take back your power and stop sitting around waiting for him to fit you into his life.
He's found someone else and he must care for her so it's your turn to move on.
Repect the fact that he's trying to respect you and not use you.
It's way past time for both of you.
2007-01-26 10:20:11 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Free Free set them Free
"sting"
2007-01-26 10:26:35 · answer #9 · answered by mmmkay_us 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it you psycho. He doesn't want you anymore!
2007-01-26 10:18:39 · answer #10 · answered by Gostenhauser5 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋