my evil step mother has three kids living with my dad and she spoils them and don't spoil my sister and i
2007-01-26 02:10:49 · 49 answers · asked by jackie b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
tell her to stop spoiling anybody and treat everybody equally
2007-01-26 02:14:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You're not the evil step mother. I totally agree with you. HOWEVER, it is not your job to discipline your step son. That is his father and mother's job. If they are not doing a good job, then all you can do is stick to your guns about your involvement in the situation. If you feel like giving him more money, more phones, etc. is superfluous, and you feel like he has everything he needs, then you can tell your husband that you will not participate in giving him any more money, and you have just an equal right to decide how your combined income is spent as he does. It is unfair that you are going without a cell phone because of presumably tough times financially (which everyone is going through right now), and your step son should not be needlessly eating up all of your income without contributing in some way. I say to have your husband tell his ex-wife that you guys will only give him money for extra things if he contributes by doing chores around the house. And all this talk about giving him a car means he is at least 16 years old, and for heaven's sake he should have a job!
2016-05-24 01:47:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a little older now but still young and I was spoiled my whole life by my grandparents because I was always the youngest and being spoiled isn't all the greatest thing. You also have to figure that eventhough you are part of her family, you two aren't her blood children and of course she's going to spoil them. You two are her kids though and she should realize that. If you don't want to confront her, I'd go to your dad and ask him why she treats them differently then you two. If that doesn't help, just suck it up and show her that you don't need her to spoil you to make you happy that you can do things on your own. Being spoiled didn't help me out at all now because I don't have any job experience or what not, I'm in college trying to do on my own but it's hard because once you're spoiled things get hard to have responsibility by yourself. Good luck though!
2007-01-26 02:16:49 · answer #3 · answered by aliciamarie88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! You got a lot of HORRIBLE answers! Please don't listen to the wacky people! The ones who told you to talk to your dad are right.
I kind of remember feeling that about a girl staying with my family when I was in high school---my parents treated her like a queen and she had all the privileges but no chores or anything! Totally unfair! What can you do about it?
Well, the best thing would be if you could talk to your dad about how you feel, and let him know that you and your sister need some spoiling, too. But I don't know your dad or how much time and attention he could give to you...but that's what you need, and hopefully he would realize that and spend extra special time and attention on you and your sister.
If that doesn't happen, then the best thing for you to do is to realize that even though your stepmother is WRONG and insensitive, you aren't going to be like that. You can decide to be better, to be strong for yourself and your sister. Try to help your sister and fill the space that's in her life. If your own mom isn't there to care for you and your sister, and since your stepmother is "evil", maybe you can be the one who makes a difference in the family. A LOT of people's lives are messed up....no fault of their own, but circumstances change and things happen, and all of a sudden a wonderful life turns sour...in just some of those lives, there are people who rise up and make a difference and do WHAT THEY CAN with what they've got. If you feel that you and your sister aren't getting what you deserve, you're right--but look at what you DO have...and make what you can of it.
I'm sorry I can't give you a pat answer, because your situation isn't easy....just don't lower yourself to acting out, being hateful to your stepmother, or taking out your anger on your dad. Because that won't help anything, and it WON'T help you feel better.
Just be there for your sister, and hopefully things will get better. Life will make you a strong person, and you'll be able to use your strength later on in your life. Good luck!
2007-01-26 02:33:07 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well take it from someone who is a step mother. She is not responsible for you or your sister. You arent her children. That doesnt make her evil if she spoils her own kids and not you. I hope you dont call her evil to her face because chances are thats the reason she doesnt do anything for you.
If your father is giving preferable treatment to your step sisters then talk to him about it; but there really is nothing you can do
Mothers spoil there kids more some then others and you really cant do anything about it.
2007-01-26 02:16:19 · answer #5 · answered by Tbay56 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
As a biological mother and a custodial stepmom I admit that I treat my kids differently than my stepdaughter. They are treated differently because of age, and also because my stepdaughter disrespects me. I am the closest thing she has to a mother since her biological mom abandoned her 4 years ago. I don't expect anything out of my stepdaughter that I won't expect with my own children. If you feel like you and sister are being treated unfairly, try sitting down with your dad and stepmom and talk to them about it. Try to be calm, and don't refer to the way your stepsibs are treated as spoiled. Nothing will trigger war more than that word. I know your stepmom would appreciate it...if not then she needs to do some growing up.
2007-01-26 02:31:07 · answer #6 · answered by Carol S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you realize that it is only natural that your step mother is going to love her own kids more than she does you and your sister. Doesn't your dad love you more than he loves his step children. As a step mom myself, it is really hard to be a good step parent because the step kids don't see us as "mom or dad" and usually object to our "meddling" in their lives by trying to discipline. But at the same time, it is our home too and we can't be expected to tolerate bad behavior regardless. It's just easier with our own kids even if we love the step kids to pieces. My only suggestion is that you try to be respectful and hopefully she will respect you also. If it becomes a really serious problem (like fighting all the time etc.) talk to your Dad. Not complain, but talk to him about how he thinks things could be made better. I know I am not being much help but its all I have. Good luck to you. Its not easy being a step kid either (I've also been that).
2007-01-26 02:22:24 · answer #7 · answered by Poohcat1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show her that you are better then that. You dont need to be spoiled. Revenge is a good way.. do everything better then her and her kids.. be real picky about things.. get under her skin, in a good way that irritates her.. show her that you and your sister. Like for example, be picky about your clothes and how they are folded and hung up, be picky about how your bed in made.. just irritate the crap out of her.. that might work.. talk to your dad too and tell him whats going on.. in all honesty he should choose you and be on your side versus hers, blood is thicker then water and your needs and concerns come before hers and her kids.. I myself have never had step parents, but my kids have my husband as a step father and I couldnt ask for a better step dad for my kids then him. hes laid back, dosnt yell, or scream, dosnt hit them, he laughs with them and goofs off with them, they all sit and watch tv together, they get along so perfect..
2007-01-26 02:21:57 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay here is a question back to you? How do YOU TREAT HER? Has she always been like that or is it recent? Do you treat her with respect or do you treat her like dirt?????? I am a step mom with my own kids living with me and my bf. His kids used to come to see us all the time. They loved being here...I taught them how to bake, cook, needlepoint, how to be independent when they got older. Things that a mom she teach her kids. Well, then bad stuff started to happen to his kids and everything changed. First his oldest didnt like me and dint want to be around and now his youngest hates me and i have no idea what i did to her. Sounds like you and her have alot in common. I try to do what i can for all the kids ; and mine do not get spoiled; unless you think that being on punishment is being spoiled. Since my kids are here all the time they have more rules to follow and more chores to do than his kids. But what the hey...why don't you try to get along with your stepmom instead of trying to be her enemy??????? Did you always hate her?????/
2007-01-26 06:38:52 · answer #9 · answered by leo07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohhh. poor baby. the evil step mother cliche is a lil too Cinderella. it sucks that you have to learn this so early in life, but here ya go. when your parents got divorced, they made a conscious decision to stop putting you and your sister first. you are no longer their priority. this is the sad truth that nobody will tell you because it is not PC. Your dad's priority is his new wife. Toughen up-you won't be a kid for long. if you try to talk to your dad about it, it will only makes things worse for you. this is the sad truth about divorce.
2007-01-26 02:18:43 · answer #10 · answered by mystery_me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not think that you and your sister are unlucky. You have each other and a father. You do not need any other person, just spoil each other. But be careful about your behaviors towards your step mom and her children, no one wants problems at home?
2007-01-26 02:17:32 · answer #11 · answered by mirage 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋