im happy but i feel like i should be mad at him and i don't like that feeling.
2007-01-26 01:57:16 · 26 answers · asked by sntgulyn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're not mad, you're not mad - that's great! That's a great attitude to have. Perhaps you are not mad because you had so many other people around you that loved and nurtured you and you didn't necessarily need him. I'm happy for you that you are not mad - and I'm happy that you are happy (especially on your b-day)!
I turn 30 next week too (2-1)! Happy Birthday to us!!!
2007-01-26 02:05:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay with being happy that you finally knew who your real father was. It's better than not knowing him at all. If you were a little bit older than now and you still haven't know who he is, I'm sure you'll feel worse than this, right?
You should be lucky you could actually meet him at all. If you don't want to be mad, it's okay sice you don't like that feeling. You don't feel mad probably because you are happy that you know your real father now.
It's very normal for any kind of feeling that comes up in someone. Not everyone is the same. Some can be happy and some can be really angry. But if you're happy, it's even better. It's best to not start anything bad.
I would say it's normal for you to feel that way.
2007-01-26 02:12:05 · answer #2 · answered by IdOlIsTiC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps I missed something, why are you supposed to be mad at him? What did he do to you?
Were you put up for adoption? Or did he abandon you as a baby or small child leaving you and your mom without a dime?
If you were put up for adoption then there must have been a good reason... If you were left by him, then maybe you should feel differently towards him.
If I were you, I'd cut the guy a break, I'm sure this is not easy for him either.
Enjoy the fact that you have him back in your life, and let the past go, it will only drag you down.
2007-01-26 02:06:06 · answer #3 · answered by Aunt Henny Penny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your father had a reason to wait so long to meet to you. you should be mad that he hasn't made contact but also understanding because there is a reason and probably a legitamate one. talk with him, ask him all kinds of questions about
why now, why not when you were younger, why did he miss all the important stuff in your life. when you have all the answers, you will more than likely be upset but relieved that you have the answers. good luck, but don't feel like you should be mad until you know the whole story.
2007-01-26 02:03:47 · answer #4 · answered by deeshair 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the condom didn't break (and if you followed the directions carefully), there is only a small chance you are pregnant. At 16, an irregular period is not that unusual. Consider this very carefully, part of becoming an adult is also learning to take responsibility for your actions. You should seriously talk to your boyfriend about what you two would do if you became pregnant unintentionally. Remember that no birth control is 100%.
2016-05-24 01:45:33 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your circumstances. Why would you be mad? Did he give you up so you could have a better life? If that is the case, then you have no reason to be mad. Its not good to hold grudges, it is unhealthy. Being mad about something you can't change, something that happened in the past is a waste of time and energy. Its good to focus on the positive and move forward, no matter what your past experiences were.
2007-01-26 02:05:33 · answer #6 · answered by hello 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kudos for gathering the courage to meet him.
I don't think it's a bad thing you aren't mad at him. You may have already delt with those feelings of loss or regret. It shows how mature you are. be happy and willing to have a relationship with him. Be aware that the feelings of anger or hurt may come up but while you can build a foundation so you two can work together when that times comes.
I don't know if I'd ever have that kind of courage so again kudos to you keep up the lines of communication it can only get better if you work at it
2007-01-26 02:05:14 · answer #7 · answered by mcdonald624 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, you just met him. If you find that you like him then their is no need to be mad. Circumstances are different for everyone. It is just that you have not known him enough to form an opinion. Deep down inside you've always wanted to know him and who he is. Now is your chance and I commend you on your open mindedness to not harbor feelings of anger or resentment. Now you can start a whole new part of your life, which includes knowing your father.
2007-01-26 02:08:27 · answer #8 · answered by Daniel R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand that probably you feel very confused, if you have only just met your father - part of you is mad with him, but another part of you is saying you can't be mad with him because it is very difficult to be mad at someone who to all intents and purposes did not exist in your life. Good luck and hope you can build up a normal relationship (if one is possible!) with him.
2007-01-26 02:02:47 · answer #9 · answered by bovie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's perfectly normal that you're not mad at him. I also think it's normal that you're feeling some sort of guilt or uneasiness about not being mad at him. You may think you should be mad because you've been so heavily influenced and affected by society's perception of deadbeat dads (not saying your dad was one), parents who put their children up for adoption or those who just weren't around for whateve reason. There's usually a lot of negativity surrounding parents who were not there for their children growing up, without taking into consideration the circumstances regarding why they were not there.
Everyone's situation is different. Just because so and so over there is pissed at her dad for not being around while she was growing up, that doesn't mean you're not normal because you're happy you got to meet yours. If you're not mad, go with it. That's great. It takes a lot of energy to be angry at someone.
2007-01-26 02:05:16 · answer #10 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋