I'm kinda enduring an awkward situation at work. One of my closest guy friends works at the same place as I do and I began to develop feelings for him though he's in a long-distance relationship. I told him I liked him and that it was best that we ignore each other for awhile so I can get over him. Anyway he asked me if I wanted to hook up with him, i said i did, but then he said i should do it with another guy I like. Anyway during all of this, I got mad at him for jerking my feelings around and I ended up calling him a dog, but then I apologized. I said all of this via text. The next day I wrote him a letter saying how sorry I was for how I acted, and that it was better that we treat each other as professionals since he has a gf and I need to move on. The thing is that he ignored me. So far, we've been ignoring each other for the past 4 weeks and now it is awkward and i miss talking to him sometimes. Whenever we pass each other, he'll look away and pretend I don't exist.
2007-01-26 01:50:37 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe this is the way he needs to deal with it. Men can sometimes avoid their feelings and he probably has feelings for you. Since he does have a girlfriend, then you are best to just let it go. When enough time has gone by, then maybe you can go back to being friends, but it may take awhile. In the meantime, just go on knowing you are doing the right thing and it will work out. Good luck!
2007-01-26 01:58:33 · answer #1 · answered by Kitt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sure you liked him alot you had to to actually take your time and write a letter. But the best thing to do now is ignore him harder. Really act like he doesnt exsist. And laugh and joke with other people as much as you can so that you dont seem bitter. Its childish but thats the way guys play. They are very immature as you can obviously see. But honestly you need to really forget about him in the process of ignoring him because i think what hes doing is a little toooooo immature. This is not high school people dont ignore eachother when there is a situation. I think if he even ever decided to speak to you again you should say " you were ignoring me for this long, why dot you keep on doing it cause ive lost interest in speaking to you." the best way to handle guys is to turn things around on them they cant take that. TRUST ME
2007-01-26 02:12:14 · answer #2 · answered by yesindeed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i think he is acting like a child. and really do you want someone like that in your life.
anyways, be strong. i think your only mistake was apologizing to him. why make him feel superior to you. no, no. no. you are woman, a stronger breed. he will eventually start talking to you, and if not, dont talk to him. ingore him also. truth me when i tell you the more you treat them like you dont care, the more they will eventually try to figure out with.
about mind games, they are simply games.
let his gf deal with his immaturely. plus office relationships when they end its weird and odd and nobody likes that feeling afterwards. i honeslty dont know how some couples can work and play together. i need my space. and if you work together, how can you talk about your day if you both were there anyways.
anywho, be strong, find someone else, and dont give him the day.
and i know you feel like you lost a friend, but then again what kind of friend was him to use you this way.
2007-01-26 02:04:50 · answer #3 · answered by lasalle_1986 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if there is much else you can do now. It is really awkward for him right now too. Probably from before he had a thing for you (before his girlfriend) and now it is weird for him since you like him and he doesn't want to fall for you again, even though he may have already started. Now just give him time, since I believe he is trying to get over you.
2007-01-26 01:57:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet is to leave it be. Don't talk to him or have anything to do with him outside of your work. This is a sticky situation. You could get into trouble by starting something with someone you work with. He sounds like a jerk to me. If he has no respect for his relationship or your feelings you don't need him!
2007-01-26 02:02:40 · answer #5 · answered by princessbummer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why u r trying to destroy the lives of 3 persons. the guy,his GF and yourself. control yourself andif u can't get along with yourself catch another guy and ...best wishes.
2007-01-26 02:00:19 · answer #6 · answered by vijay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep on moving forward and refuse to look back as there are better capabalities.
2007-01-26 02:10:57 · answer #7 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋