Do you believe in spanking your child, explain?

Answer 1

Yes but only as a last resort. It did work for me a few times, I have only needed to do this maybe twice in a year.

Answer 2

I believe in spanking as a last resort.
I think sitting a child down and trying to explain what they did wrong should be the first thing tried.

If the child does it again.. ground em.

If there is a third time than a spanking is in order.

Answer 3

I totally believe in it. Up to a certain age, it is the only thing that really works and gets their attention. It is also embedded in them that if they do something wrong, there are consequences and they have to own up them. There are way to many kids out there that don't respect their parents or other people, and maybe if they had been given a whack once or twice to straighten them out they might treat their parents and others with respect. I was spanked, and taught to respect others and follow the rules, because if I didn't I got a spanking. Right or wrong, that is what I believe.

On the flip side of this topic, I also beleive that there is really no right or wrong parenting tactics. You should know your child and what really works. And just because spanking (not beating) will work for some, and it may not work for others, it depends on the child and parent, and not the government.

Answer 4

Only sometimes is it ok. I was threatened liberally with spanking as a child, but never forced my mom to do that except once, and be danged if I could tell you what it was, but I did know then that I deserved it,and I have matured very well knowing I couldnt get away with doing wrong. My sister on the other hand got it more often than once and still doesnt seem to be better for it. So it just depends on the child, if you find it doesnt work for yours dont make it "harder or longer" just make up a different punishment that works for your kid. If the child does something that would be that severe it could be acceptable in moderation. Like if they purosefully talk back to you, or dont listen to them when you specifically told them not to do something and they know what they are doing was wrong. That is the key is if you feel they know what they did was wrong (not something accidental) and they did it with intention to be wrong, then by all rights spank them, but not when your pi$$ed, and then maybe combine it with a time out too.

Answer 5

I agree with the others. Spanking yes, beating no. I was spanked frequently as a child and I was beat one time as child so I know the difference. With my own children I use time out frequently but there are times when they know at their ages that what they are doing is wrong. In those instances they get a spanking or for blatantly disregarding what I am saying or disrespecting me. The Bible says spare the rod spoil the child. If I spank my children I explain to them why they are getting a spanking, I use a paddle (my hands are for loving) then I immediately tell them I love them but don't like the way that they are acting. I don't spank them hard, just enough for it to hit home that what they are doing or how they are acting is wrong. They are just like me when I was little just them knowing I am upset enough to spank them is enough to make them cry and feel bad.

Answer 6

Yes - but on serious occasions with repeat offences and warning. Used too often spanknig becomes ineffective. Also, most appropriate for young children say 2+ to 8. Probally most effective at 3 to 5 years old.

The spanking dosent have to be hard, the thought of it is the worst part. Most of the time the little ones just get a tap.

Every child is different. Every child responds differently.

Answer 7

Spanking, yes. Beating, no. The difference is in the location, the method of application and the strength applied. Appropriate spankings would be:

1) On the butt with an open hand and if your hand stings afterwards, you did it too hard (this is assuming the child has their clothes (including diaper, training pants, etc) on. If the child has a bear bottom, if you leave a red mark, you did it too hard.

2) On the hand with an open hand with very little strength. If you leave a red mark or your hand stings, you did it too hard.

Why? Because you can tell a child over and over again that fire is hot, but until the child gets a hand in the flame, they will not learn.

Answer 8

i agree with what c.s said.

spanking yes, beating, no. i think that its really a good correctional tool, and i think that far too many people think of it the wrong way. i will only spank my child for 3 reasons. if what they are doing is going to end up getting them hurt (or worse, killed - running out in the middle of the street without me). if they are in danger of hurting someone else. or, if they continue to do things they know that they arent supposed to.

i do believe this has already been said, but i agree with it also. i believe in spanking MY children. i would never dream of spanking someone elses, not even if i was told i could.

i'll be quite honest and tell you that i got my but whoped until i was 17 years old (i'll be only 20 in may) and thinking back on it, i deserved most of what i got.
i dont believe its the right answer for all children, but like the Bible says 'spare the rod, spoil the child'.

Answer 9

I believe in spanking MY children. If others have children that will listen using different parenting skills than more power to them. I also use different parenting techniques but they don't always work. I don't spank out of anger. I don't spank to hurt my children. I spank to get their attention and believe me, it doesn't hurt them one bit. They are shocked when I do it and it gives me time to explain to them why they are being punished. It is not child abuse as some may like you to believe. People really need to wise up about the methods of spanking used by most parents.

Answer 10

I guess I was lucky in that my 2 daughters were pretty good although one is a teenager and seems to need it now because she has an attitude issue...

I always felt bad hitting my kids. I feel that when you hit them it's out of anger. They break something and you spank them because it made you mad. You can't hit a person in the street for making you mad so why hit your child?

I think a timeout is a good thing but then again it probably depends on the kid. I had a sister that was really out of control and got more spankings than anyone and my mother says to this day she didn't get enough.

Answer 11

I believe in a parent disciplining their child the way they choose. (within reason of course). I don't believe a parent should raise their child the way the GOVERNMENT and other NOSEY PEOPLE see fit.

If I want to spank my child (and for the record I have spanked and I may spank again), then I will and I will be damned if I let what others think stop me. I know my children and what they respond to best....no one else does.