My BF broke up with me on Monday, for what he said was because he caught me following him & I lied about it. Yesterday, I called & asked if we could make up & he said it wasn't about the lie at all, that he didn't want the relationship. He does this to me at least once a month whenever he wants space & then he calls me a couple of days to a week later & I always take him back. He said all these things that didn't make any sense. He always wants to punish me for the things that I do, I guess to get me to not do them anymore. My question is do you think he'll come back this time, or how do I know if he's really done? What are the signs that this may just be another of his foolish games or is he really done with me? I followed him & caught him with a girl that he said was a friend of a friend but I was still willing to work things out & he left me anyway. I still love him & want to be mature enough to work this thing out. So what do you think...will he be back this time?
2007-01-26 01:37:35 · 16 answers · asked by geminig 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What about the games you are playing? Why are you following him again after he admonished you for following him and then broke up with you? What other things are you doing that you don't mention here that he is "punishing you" for? It sounds like he has good reason for breaking up with you constantly and is finally fed up with giving you chance after chance to change, only to have you play your games with him again and again.
He doesn't want to be with you anymore and is trying to get on without you, but you won't let him. If you want to be mature, then leave him alone. You are turning into stalker material, if you aren't already one.
BTW I love how you try to make yourself be the victim in people's eyes by how you word your question. I'm amazed how many people don't learn to read between the lines to see this pattern and so often get fooled.
2007-01-26 01:48:48 · answer #1 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deja vu. Move on! If he breaks up with you once a month, don't answer his call when he calls you back. I've lived through the turmoil of a guy playing "mind games". I was much happier after I let him go for good. No sense in wasting time on someone who isn't willing to sit down and discuss the problem like and adult but decides to throw a tantrum like a 2 year old and run off.
AVOID HIM!
2007-01-26 09:45:30 · answer #2 · answered by CBM79 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that it definitely time to get over it and move on. You two have already broken up enough times, the chances of this working out in the end are quite slim.
You should stop following people...
2007-01-26 09:42:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a silly little control freak of a boy. Even if he does come crawling back this time i strongly advise you to be strong and say no to getting back together,
This cant go on forever with you breaking up for a week every month. Its going to really put a strain on whatever relationship you two have and that is not mentally healthy for either of you. Just let him go and play his silly little games on his own.
2007-01-26 09:43:30 · answer #4 · answered by Leiani 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, did you follow him? If so, you obviously don't trust him much, or his " other personality" if you catch my meaning. And I know how that is, a go through my boyfriends everything. =]. However, if he does this too you every month, i have no idea why you would want him back!!!!! Move on chica, and get him outta your life!
2007-01-26 09:44:41 · answer #5 · answered by Linka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. But put your foot down. The way he treats you IS NOT OKAY! My ex bf, used to do that to me, I am in the midst of getting him back, but we both know and undertand that when we do get back together, he needs to treat me differently. They're both controlling, and they've got us. Those f*ckers have us under some spell
2007-01-26 09:44:39 · answer #6 · answered by Mandy B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let him go! You said you want to be mature. Grow up and see that this will never work.
2007-01-26 09:45:14 · answer #7 · answered by DL 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yo yal r disfuctional. let that go. u got this dud e making u do crazy *** **** like follow him and cheack up on him, leave dude alone, stop wasting anymore time on this relationship. if dude really wanted to be with you he wouldnt be goin out with other ppl, duh! stop lookin for him to justify yals relationship and start standing up for urself and u decide for the both of u when to let him back in if u wish to do that. dont let him run the show, ur the woman and women run the relationship and we just let gys think they do!
2007-01-26 09:49:28 · answer #8 · answered by foxzie006 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, were following him & I lied about it? If no then he doesn't have the right to be angry at something he presumes to be true. Go and complain at his face. If you did, just say sorry and you'll trust him no matter how suspicious he acts. (Though if he acts suspicious, then act suspicious back.) Of course, say you love him.
2007-01-26 09:48:53 · answer #9 · answered by enz_91 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why would you allow someone to treat you like this he don't want you and you let him come back and give you more grief what is it about you that you allow this to happen? if you stopped taking him back when he calls you again and tell him you will not be treated like this then he will see you no longer will allow him to treat you like that then he might stop or he might move on personally i would want him to move on and let him do it to someone other then me..
2007-01-26 09:45:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋