This man who I work with (different depts) has asked me to have dinner with him via e mail, he said he would buy. The problem is I'm not at all interested in a romantic relationship. I am 30, he is 50. This all started because we had read the same book and discussed it. We began talking occasionally and one time ate together in the work cafeteria. That is it! I simply thought we had similar interests in books, business, etc. How do I nicely reply to this man's e mail.
2007-01-26 01:34:57 · 15 answers · asked by laughalot 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him the truth and tell him what you have told us.
You would like to be his friend but you are not interested in dating.
He will appreciate your honesty instead of "beating around the bush".
2007-01-26 01:41:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really is no easy and nice way to reject someone. It is going to hurt no matter what. The best way to do so is say something on the line of, "You are really nice, kind, and polite and I am sure there is a woman lucky enough to eventually have you, but I don't see you anything more than just a friend."
If he eventually have a problem with that then he is the one with the issues and not you. You have the right to date and reject anyone you see fit and so does he. Make sure you notify your supervisor where you work just in case he decides to harrass and case problems in the workplace.
2007-01-26 09:46:05 · answer #2 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that while you enjoy discussing books and similar interests while at work you don't think you'd feel comfortable meeting after work since you only see him as a friend.
2007-01-26 09:45:54 · answer #3 · answered by lunasage 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him directly.... but nicely... that you just dont want a relationship with him... dont give him false hopes because then it'll just hurt him even more when he finds out form someone else that you dont like him like that.... He's going to feel upset about the rejection no mattet what, but short and brutal is the best was to go when you turn him down....
2007-01-26 09:42:54 · answer #4 · answered by Tina 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully with the truth that usually works, perhaps it's not always the best way at the time but in the long run it's really the only way.
all the best
Regards
Gary
2007-01-26 09:42:44 · answer #5 · answered by aerobatic22405 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can agree to the dinner but state right out that you are not interested in romance so you will pay your own bill. He may just want someone to talk to and not interested in more also but by paying your own bill you are emphasizing that it is a friendship dinner and not a date.
2007-01-26 09:44:40 · answer #6 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
honesty is the best policy...it hurts though(the man) but in the end he'd understand you dont want to be with him like that. instead of going round in circles and the guy thinks u is when u is not....capich
2007-01-26 09:44:56 · answer #7 · answered by warrin_wrlds 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just let him know you like him as a person or friend but nothing else and that you have other interests in life
2007-01-26 09:41:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
say something like , " do you think i would give up a day for my FRIEND? ofcourse not! would it be alright if i bring my husband along as well?he really likes that place" lol. well he might get the hint, even if you don't have a husband. hope this helps!
2007-01-26 09:40:30 · answer #9 · answered by annabanana 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is no easy way to do this. I guess just tell him you are going steady with someone.
2007-01-26 09:47:41 · answer #10 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋