my best friend refuses to get on with my new man even tho she has only meet him twice???

Question

she gets really moody when i say im going out with him and makes me feel really bad and says im putting him 1st but i go out with him like once a week and see her everday! what should i do??

Answer 1

she prolly knows him already-- but has never told you about it--- watch yourself ----- this guy may be going with her behind you back!

Answer 2

I've been in this exact position. I had a so called best friend. I was hanging out with her a whole lot before I met my now husband. She even encouraged us to start dating in the beginning. However, once we started getting serious, she got more and more jealous. He went on vacation to see some friends once, and she told me that she liked me better when he wasn't around, he made me a bad person, and things like that. I knew that was totally untrue. Then, she started seeing some guy online and blowing me off, kind of as a revenge thing. What it comes down to though, is that person is jealous. You need to tell her that if she was your best friend, she should make an effort to get to know your partner as well. And as a good friend to her, you can balance out the time accordingly. Because, you DON'T know what will happen with this guy. Though, if shes a friend she'll be there, regardless. Just let her know how you feel, and depending on her reaction, you'll know how good a friend she really is.

Answer 3

Uh-Oh! I know this senario only too well. I was the exact same as her towards my best friends girlfriend before. Wanna know why i was like that?......because i was obsessed with the friendship me and my friend had and didnt want it to be taken away by anyone. I ended up loosing my best friend over that.
It took me a long time to realise i was gealous and obsessed.
This is whats happening at the moment but dont say it to her ok.
It will hurt her. Just let her know that the friendship ye both have will always be the same and arrange for a girls night out sometime. Surprise her with a gift and maybe even arrange for youre new hubby to compliment on the friendship ye have together (in front of her).

Answer 4

Freinds always seem to get threatend when a new partner comes along. Just as partners are often threatened by best freinds! lol She is probably a little jealouse as she was the center of your world and now feels left out. Remember though it is easy to forget your freinds when a releationship starts, and it does effect your freinds! I know as my best mate (well ex best mate now) got back with her ex summer time and I have not heard from her since, she never has time for me or bothers to answer my calls or text messages, and it does hurt especially since I supported her through some really tough times! when It goes wrong for her again (I hope it doesnt) but know it will, I wont be there like I was last time. Your freind on the other had does need to know though you have your own life as well and she is being a little selfish, I never liked my mates Ex / Partner, but I never judged or got in way, she was happy and that was important. Two way street, there has to be give and take on both sides for things to work!

Answer 5

sound like shes jealous!
If you still see her everyday then you obviously havent ditched her for him so I fail to see why shes being a pain over it.! Maybe you should talk to her about why shes being like this - tell her that it upsets you because you feel you should be happiest now that you have a great guy in your life and her attitude is upsetting you and putting a damper on the whole thing. Maybe suggest a night out - you your boyfriend and get him to bring a few of his single mates - she might find a pair there for herself and focus her attention on a new man instead of bitching about yours!
xx

Answer 6

Sounds like she likes you to me. She thinks he's gonna take you away from her.... when she was so close to coming out!

Things you should look for: Is she homophobic? Does she make jokes about alternate sexuality? If she ever has met him, how did she act around him? Did they engage in any kind of conversation? If not, pay close attention to what it said when and if it does happen.

Also, watch "Chasing Amy" for further information. Not exactly the same situation but close. Pay close attention to the dialogue of Banky when concerning Alyssa. Sound familiar?

Answer 7

mt sister had a problem like that and i am gonna tell you what i told her-you can still go out with your man but also of your best friend feels out in the dumps take some time and spend with her now in your case your friend needs to back up some b/c if you see her evryday then she is being kind of selfish. If she has a boyfriend have her and her boyfriend go out with you and yours it might work....Good Luck!!!

Answer 8

have you tried talking abt it with her? If not, do that first. But if she insists on being like that, then she IS being selfish. If she insists on keepin up the act, then there is very lil you can do abt it. Usually i would say that friendship comes b4 a relationship. But if she is acting this way without a good reason, then maybe it's best that you find your self some new friends.

Answer 9

I think your friend is really jealous. I would stop telling her about your relationships until she can handle her jealousy. It's not fair to you. Soon enough she will find a man of her own and not be so concerned about how often you see your man because she will be seeing one too. Hang in there!

Answer 10

Im sorry to be so blunt but tell her to get i life it sounds like she is just jealous because she is not the center of you attention. Good luck babes xxxxx

Answer 11

sounds like shes jealous that you've got yourself a man. tell her shes still important to you but you need to have a relationship too. arrange to go out certain nights with your mate and other nights with your fella so both are not left out.