Lost old man...?

Question

I posed a question yesterday in regards to relationship issues for a 53 year old man in love with a woman stuck in a house by her X-husbands money (an economic hostage) he is paying for the house payment, medical insurance and most other bills. She is unemployed and waiting on a partial disability settlement. She says that she is in love with me...but will stay in the house so she has a place to live. We are both in serious debt and frankly although I have all my love to give her and then some, but has most recently said that this had been a real reality check. My debt allows me nothing to offer her but my little 1 bedroom apartment.
I cannot move into her house while her X-Husband is paying the note and other bills, and if I were her I would not move in with me either. My delima is that we have known here 5 years and dating her 2 years. I am hopelessly in love with her yet after 2 yrs I still dont have her in my arms daily..nightly and forever. This all seems so hopless Pls help me!

Answer 1

get employed by the guy in the house, housekeeper or something

Answer 2

Please find yourself someone who is not a captive of money. This lady is using you for her "thrill ride" but obviously is not willing to sacrifice anything to be with you on a regular basis. That is not love. She wants her cake and wants to eat it too as they say. You are probably hopelessly in love because she is not available. We always want what we can't have. If she is so shallow as to think money, house etc. is more important that love and contentment with the right man, do you really want her in your life. Debt or no debt, money or no money, you deserve having someone love you for yourself. I know it sounds cruel but get on with your life. Good luck.

Answer 3

i agree with the first poster, maybe you should try to get closer to where she is, are you sure she is not making excuses?