I'm kinda enduring an awkward situation at work. One of my closest guy friends works at the same place as I do and I began to develop feelings for him though he has a gf. I told him I liked him and I felt it was best that we ignore each other for awhile so I can get over him. Anyway he asked me if I wanted to hook up with him, i said i did, but then he said i should do it with another guy I like. Anyway during all of this, I got mad at him for jerking my feelings around and I ended up calling him a dog, but then I apologized. The thing is I said all of this via text. The next day I wrote him a letter saying how sorry I was for how I acted, and that it was better that we treat each other as professionals since he has a gf and I need to move on. The thing is that he ignored me. So far, we've been ignoring each other for the past 3 weeks and now it is awkward and i miss talking to him sometimes. Whenever we pass each other, he'll look away and pretend I don't exist.
2007-01-26 01:15:57 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He knows he hurt you and can't face you. He'd rather not say anything than put his foot in his mouth again and make you mad. Tell him you miss talking to him, ask him if the two of you can start over with a clean slate as friends. Take it slow and don't expect too much. Watch sending him letters and texts, if his gf sees them it can make things worse for your friendship. Good Luck! =)
2007-01-26 01:23:18 · answer #1 · answered by DB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahhh, best rule of advice - NEVER, EVER get involved with someone you work with - NO MATTER WHAT! It causes a multitude of problems, beyond what a normal relationship would have, because you see each other every day in the work place. This is why many companies have a no dating policy among co-workers - it has been proven this is a bad thing to do. With that said, get over him and it and move on - look outside the office for romance. Right now, everything that has happened, believe me has become wonderful gossip for all your co-workers, and everything you and he do, is being watched and judged. You may think that this has been kept private - but odds are it id fodder for all at the workplace. It's Friday night, get some of the girls together and go out for margarita's and see what you can find!
2007-01-26 01:26:05 · answer #2 · answered by buggsnme2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't have played with your feelings and you know that. Girls want to apologize even though they may mean what they say because we don't want to rock the boat. I would be nice and professional. He may even get a smile out of me but I would not confront him again. You've done all you can and the rest is up to him. If you mean anything to him he will come around and try to talk to you. If you confront him again you'll just push the situation further. Guys don't like to be pushed, they don't do very well and just get madder.
2007-01-26 01:31:53 · answer #3 · answered by nm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, personaly I would corner him. Not in a hostile way, but in a way where he HAS to listen to you. And then, be blunt. Tell him that he is being an a$$. Tell him you miss him, and that you thought he was alittle more mature than this. tell him that if he wants to be shallow and petty, fine, but that if he values your friendship whatsoever, he needs to get over himself.
The fact of the matter is, you were right. You trusted him. You told him how you felt, and he betrayed you by being a jerk and acting like a dog. You can, if you so chose, do better.
2007-01-26 01:27:25 · answer #4 · answered by Linka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his feelings are hurt to some degree but he's also milking the situation too!! I'm surprised he asked if you wanted to hook up with him and then pointed you in the direction of someone else!!! ouch !! how horrible of him...
anyway, play his little game...when you see him be first to act as if you didn't see him... he's using it to make you feel guilty ...act as if it doesn't bother you anymore ...that's the only thing he has on you right now is ...the fact that he knows you feel bad for calling him a dog and also cause he knows you like him and want to remain friends so he's using it to feed his ego...how pathetic...truly start to ignore him from now on his ego will be crushed and watch him tuck his tail and try to be your friend again
2007-01-26 01:24:38 · answer #5 · answered by Mary S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really have got to forget about him. He was flattered
by you but realised it was wrong. As you have said you are both professionals
so start acting like one. Just get the job done, accept he
has a girlfriend and forget about the letter. Perhaps if you
had said the same to him face to face he would not have
felt the need to ignore you.
2007-01-26 01:28:43 · answer #6 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave the whole thing alone for now and as C Ronaldo advises, be patient. Do you really want to hook up with someone like that? If he's playing these games already and you do eventually get together, I predict you'll be in for it...
2007-01-26 01:23:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one thing that you don’t want to do is to pursue a relationship with him as long as he’s already taken. If he will leave his present girlfriend for you, how can you trust him to not do the same to you. Don’t go there with anyone.
As for the rest of it, you just act like nothing happened. Treat him just like you would treat anyone else, and let him deal with his own issues. Let him be the one with the problem. The problem isn’t yours if you don’t take ownership of it.
2007-01-26 01:30:40 · answer #8 · answered by Caveman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just try to find another guy. If he is acting like that then he just wants to hurt your feelings and he don't want to accept the apology b/c he just kinda low down. I know it might have hurt his feelings when you called him that but now he knows how it feels to have someone playing with his feelings. Over time it will blow over unless he's the time that likes to hold grudges.
2007-01-26 01:25:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on.
If you have the pride and self-esteem that you should, you should ignore this guy. These are the worst of the worst guys to be with because they are jerks.
Go to some public event and meet a nice guy who won't treat you as bad.
2007-01-26 01:20:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋