My niece is due to start primary school in september yet she is still in nappies and refuses to go anywhere near a potty or toilet. I am asking for advice for my sister who doesn't know what to do.
She has tried many times to train her, using bribes, reward charts etc.
She puts her in normal knickers and her daughter just pees herself everywhere, doesn't seem to notice or care that she has done it. When she needs a poo she goes into a corner to hide.
She has asked the health visitor and doctor but they are not very helpful, just suggesting things she has already done.
THe longest she has done is 3 weeks of just peeing everywhere before she gave up and put the nappies backon.
We know the little girl is not incontinent as she can hold it in when people are around and go into a corner to do it. And she doesn't have special needs, she is very intelligent in most respects.
Is there anything we can do? Will she never use a potty?
By the way she is 31/2 when she starts school she will be 4.
2007-01-26 01:09:03 · 3 answers · asked by cigaro19 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You say that rewards have been tried?? I have a few suggestions to try I hope one of them works!! First take one full day where there is ONLY Mom and daughter at the house. NO television, NO radio, NO other people. Take a baby doll who pees and sit her on the potty. When the doll pees give her an M&M. Imediately sit daughter on potty and make her sit til she pees. When she does then gve her an M&M. Tell daughter she gets an M&M everytime she uses the potty. Do this for the entire day and put doll and daughter on the potty at regulsr intervals. Sounds like daughter knows where to go just doesn,t want to. If that doesn't work put her in panties make the potty available and each time she messes herself take something away, start with her favorites and tell her she can earn them back by useing the potty. I hope it helps!!
2007-01-26 01:58:50 · answer #1 · answered by SHERRI 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my older daughter. What we did with her was take her to the potty every 2 hours. We gave her lots of water so she'd have to go. We read books about going potty. One we had even had a flushing sound button on it. We showed her how her babie dolls liked going potty. We even let her go in with mom to see that there's nothing to be afraid of.
When she did pee, we'd celebrate. We'd tell her what a wonderful thing she'd done by peeing in the potty. You have to be consistant. Watch her, if she shows signs of getting ready to pee or hide to poo, rush her to the potty, let her sit there a few moments.
My oldest was 3 before she potty trained and had many accidents after. We also told her to go to school she needed to learn to use the potty. My daughter was excited about school so that helped to.
Once we had taken her to the potty and she started peeing in the toilet, we talked about all the pretty BIG GIRL panties she could get. We let HER pick out a set (she chose Dora) she liked but she wasn't allowed to wear them til she started peeing in the toilet all the time.
2007-01-26 02:04:57 · answer #2 · answered by Melanie A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im afraid its perseverance i had the same problem a few years ago i was determined to succeed it was a battle . she needs to stay in the house about a week let the child wear no pull ups and praise every time she goes on the potty or toilet its just routine she will get used to it.
2007-01-29 05:14:12 · answer #3 · answered by Jaz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋