Has anyone ever experienced this? My daughter absolutely hates to be laughed at. I mean, all the time, even if something is funny. She gets really upset and angry. She is always very self conscious when someone laughs. I can not count how many times she asks why are you laughing? Or if someone laughs at something cute she has done while out in the public, she will ask me "why is this person laughing at me?" Is this normal? I'm really concerned that she has or is going to have some sort of complex. She's only 4 - you would think a child likes it when you laugh. Anyone else have a child that absolutely hates it when people laugh?
2007-01-26 00:59:05 · 8 answers · asked by Ohsooocute 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
hey don't worry it is all perfectly normal....they just don't get the joke part of life yet ...the cognitive development at this age is normal to always be asking "why"......don't worry just keep reassuring her that it is good to laugh do something funny to make her laugh then explain she wasnt laughing at you to upset you but because you did something funny, explain it is good to be able to laugh at yourself....goodluck and the more you stress the more it becomes an issue..
2007-01-26 03:13:04 · answer #1 · answered by cherry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was sensitive to being laughed at when I was little. Your daughter seems more so than I was- all I remember was I thought it was embarassing and I had done something dumb, and I did not like all the attention on me.
You may want to talk with her to find out if there was a specific instance where someone laughed at her and hurt her feelings making her hyper sensitive. (Or maybe she saw someone else getting laughed at- on tv even- and found it embarassing or hurtful-) I was also very sensitive to others' embarassing situations as a child- I kind of still am.
In any case, you could try talking to her about the different reasons people laugh- what makes her laugh? What does she think is funny? Tell her sometimes when people laugh, it is not always a nice thing, (and give examples) but lots of time it is. Explain that some people even have jobs (comedians) to make people laugh- that it can be a good thing. And that lots of grown ups laugh when they think something is cute, or just when they're happy. Make sure she knows that just because people are laughing when she's around, does not mean they are laughing at her.
I would also make sure she's not sensitive about something about herself (freckles, glasses, something-) or that someone has not ebarassed her in some way.
The best way to help her is to be sensitive to it and try to help her. I had one insensitive parent with a "suck-it-up" mentality that never took my feelings seriously and it just made things worse.
2007-01-26 09:35:55 · answer #2 · answered by Holly N 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to find out what makes her laugh and then ask her about what it was that made her laugh and help her understand why she laughs so that she can apply that to why other people might laugh.
Give her several examples where people are laughing for a good reason.
Maybe teach her to tell some cute jokes so that she can practice making people laugh and become more comfortable with it.
I don’t know how else to help you because I’ve never experienced this before.
2007-01-26 09:48:02 · answer #3 · answered by babypocket2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal my daughter is 4 too and she hates this. JUst try to explain to her that you are with laughing at her youre laughing with her explain to her what was funny and get her to find the humor in it.
2007-01-26 09:05:02 · answer #4 · answered by do you know me? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, talk about too young for having a complex. Is she mature for her age? Very smart? I would call and child psychiatrist and get an opinion, she should not be like this. Don't waste any time or you could be looking at long term problems.
2007-01-26 09:06:29 · answer #5 · answered by Angie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think is an issue that you should address asap, you don't want her growing up feeling bad about herself, talk to her let her know shes a wonderful special girl and if u must get counseling for her so you can find out why she feels that way.
2007-01-26 09:44:18 · answer #6 · answered by nyrican 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes just four i dont think its yet time to worry.
But i think you should get the thing into her mind that learning to adjust and react appropriately to the actions of the people around you is a very important thing she will have to learn to cohabit succesfully.
2007-01-26 09:41:18 · answer #7 · answered by Lord Of Lust 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,my little sister is now 5,and when she was four,she would scream if something was even funny on tv or something.So,yeah,I guess it is normal.
2007-01-26 09:45:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋