I have been dating a mortherl for 5-6 months now and she is moving in with me with her daughter? the daughter is 5 years old and they are moving to the east coast from the west coast. the daugher likes me and is affectionate with me but has not said I LOVE YOU to me yet, but I don't know if/when I should be telling her I LOVE HER? Do I wait for her to say it? Do I say it first?
2007-01-26 00:57:32 · 9 answers · asked by moondoggie1966141 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This isn't something that people "HAVE TO" say. Either you or they love someone and want to say it or they don't. It shouldn't be that much of a deal with you. Just treat the kid and her mother well and make her comfortable. That's the only thing that is required of you.
2007-01-26 01:02:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter, she's 5. She doesn't know about love really. Just be there for her and be a good role model, yadda yadda. It's more important that you're truer to her mother than the daughter. Man, be careful, you haven't dated her very long. This could all go wrong. Big move across country, a mother, a 5 year old, the east coast... man, loving her daughter is the least of your worries. You need to think about their acclimation to a new environment, to which you may have no control over. Anyway, good luck. As she grows up, say in another 5 years, then start looking at how to express your love as her new dad.
2007-01-26 09:08:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait for an opportune moment, maybe when your playing together or coloring in or some thing and just casually say "You know i love you and your mother" and gauge her reaction. I would also say something like " Dont ever ne afraid to tell some one that you love them". It will help build a bond and confidence in her. Aftrer all you are not trying to replace her father, but build your own relationship, let her know she can confide in you and that she can trust you. Kids are pretty up front. Best of Luck!!
2007-01-26 09:12:57 · answer #3 · answered by scorpiosa70 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to say it when you actually mean it! If you really do love this little girl then tell her~ but don't get upset if she doesn't say it back right away. She may still be working up to that. Just let her know you love her as often as possible and she will say it back when she is comfortable with it!
2007-01-26 09:08:00 · answer #4 · answered by JeffHardy4Eva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not use the term "I love you" casually with her. Only say it if you mean it like when she does something special for you or her mom.
2007-01-26 09:03:04 · answer #5 · answered by dreamgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
much too early. wait for a while longer. prob not til u and hte mother marry (if it comes to that point)
2007-01-26 09:02:10 · answer #6 · answered by jenivive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its better that u say b4.......may be even she is waiting for u to say....................so y bot u be the first one........every relationship is by expressing............bcoz u r elder to her not she so better say her.........or make her feel tht u like her by getting her smthing or by just praising her wenever she does something gud...hope u understand
2007-01-26 09:04:36 · answer #7 · answered by candela 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should say it when you feel it, when you feel ready. Don't force it or it will not seem genuine.
2007-01-26 09:02:45 · answer #8 · answered by hello 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hurry up n tell her right now.
2007-01-26 09:01:35 · answer #9 · answered by DJ101 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋