members spoke openly about how she worried about her son and him not being married yet. She also expressed her concern that if and when it does happen, how a 'wrench' it'd be. Then another male member turned round and said to me, "Yes, it's the same with you. When your daughter marries, it'll be the same way - they'll be difficulty with separation". I didn't even ask his opinion about my personal affairs, as we're there to discuss the bible, unless anyone discusses their problems. Now it's made me think about what he said and I feel quite perturbed by it. What's it got to do with him?
2007-01-26 00:47:58 · 20 answers · asked by Say It Like You Mean It 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
THE LAND OF THE "KNOW ALLS" Oh dear the usual bloody rubbish -- Interfering , Thoughtless Comments , Nosey Parkers -- Pushing their uncalled for Opinions down everyones throats --- The usual "Holy" Jo,s in full swing --- Veiled Spite, Personal Remarks and Snide Criticism
2007-01-26 02:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much to do with him at all I suppose.
He may well have been speaking with the best of intentions, believing he was empathising with you.
Speaking as a father who has 2 daughters that have left home, it IS a wrench - seeing your kids growing up and leaving the nest. It's only natural to be a little concerned about them.
No need to be perturbed by it though. At best he meant well, at worst he was a bit presumptious about your feelings.
With grace you can forgive; and in a way it is a good thing to maybe be aware of and prepared for.
Think positively and follow Jesus' example. God bless.
2007-01-26 10:31:37 · answer #2 · answered by Pete J 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Has this maybe brought up an issue you would rather not face, and you would like to shoot the messenger? Whether he was right to bring it up or not, are you comfortable with the thought of your daughter leaving? It can be very hard, and a little jolt like this may help you prepare. Just forget about the guy who said it, and find out why it pushed your indignation button. Work to find some peace on it.
2007-01-26 09:55:13 · answer #3 · answered by meerkat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go to bible study each week, then I presume you are a Christian.
If this is so then you are part of the family of God and these are your brothers and sisters in Christ speaking to you , they feel they have the right to do this, and if you complain then there is something wrong with your faith, after all how do you know that God wasn't using them to highlight something in your life that you haven't faced up to, or are hiding from. One day your daughter may leave. (Now it's made me think about what he said and I feel quite perturbed by it.)
The problem is that these brethren of yours do not take your sensitivities into account but will bluntly throw up all kind of unwanted comments, observations and advice and call it their Christian duty.
I know you feel offended that these relative strangers feel they have the right to openly discuss your personal issues, but you by becoming part of the family of God have given them permission to do this.
If you do not like it then you will have to seriously think about your religion.
If you do complain you will be seen as the problem, and will experience true Christian charity.
2007-01-26 09:01:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Classic 'know it all' types. They are speaking from their own perspective. No one knows what will happen and they are not exactly building up your confidence. In fact some people like to take the wind out of our sails, this can be hurtful, maybe they did not mean it to be hurtful. I would say they are insensitive to others feels.Take no notice, look on this as a distraction.
PS Similar thing happened to me, I was saying that I prayed a lot about a problem in my family, then another person said I was imposing MY will on God.
2007-01-26 10:09:24 · answer #5 · answered by Plato 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1 Peter 4:15......However, let none of YOU suffer as a murderer or a thief or an evildoer or as a busybody in other people’s matters.
Gossip can lead to slander, becoming disastrous to the slanderer. The wisdom of the words at Ecclesiastes 10:12-14 is very evident: “The lips of the stupid one swallow him up. The start of the words of his mouth is foolishness, and the end afterward of his mouth is calamitous madness. And the foolish one speaks many words.”
2007-01-26 08:59:13 · answer #6 · answered by papa G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I can see your upset, I'm sorry to hear this.
I would not give it another thought. I doubt the person who said it is!
Perhaps this person was trying to make the person who spoke openly about her son feel better by adding you to the mix.
Let it go as I doubt there was any malicious intent. However, if it continues you should pull the person aside and speak to them directly and share your feelings.
Good luck
2007-01-26 09:07:49 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between close relationship and healthy (godly) relationship. If you live with your daughter as father and daughter and that only, then U hv nothing to worry about what others say.
Many times people feel guilty of something n find it difficult to deal with it so the throw it on others and make others guilty.
In psychology it is called 'projection' of self on others.
2007-01-26 09:00:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anuj P1952 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Human error exists everywhere. It is best just to keep yourself on track and lovingly overlook the distractions. Sounds like the other person was trying to smooth things over but maybe just made it seem worse to you. Forgive others as you would have God forgive you and you will do fine. The Bible says there is no one who does not sin with his tongue and if there was, this one would be a perfect man. Since Christ, there hasn't been one of those.
2007-01-26 10:10:42 · answer #9 · answered by Sparkle1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well statistcally speaking if your daughter is over the age of 30 she only has a 10% chance of ever getting married, so dont worry.
2007-01-26 08:55:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋