My fiancee was recently diagnosed with an agressive form of bone cancer and I just don't know what to do or say to make him feel better when the prognosis is as bad as it is.I'm doing the very best I can to stay strong for him but I'm absolutely terrified.He's only 27 and I can't lose him.I've talked to his doctor about his upcoming treatment but was still to much in shock to absorb much.What can I expect the next few months to be like?What can I do to make this easier on him?
2007-01-26 00:03:05 · 8 answers · asked by Gina 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
There is nothing that you can do, except to be strong. Now is the time to find your courage because he will need to see it. I understand your shock and terror completely, but these feelings will not sustain the battle that is to come. He needs to be in fighting mode, determined to go after this cancer, positive that no matter what happens he will have the support and love of family and friends. From this day forth, be positive in front of him . . honest, of course, but positive.
Also, do research, read, and talk to as many people as possible about his disease. The more informed and educated you become the more realistic you will be towards his cancer. Even worse case scenarios can turn around. Just look at Lance Armstrong . . stage IV testicular cancer with mets to the brain. That was ten years ago. check out his website for inspiration:
http://www.livestrong.org/
Hang in there. Be strong. You will find your courage.
2007-01-26 01:44:19 · answer #1 · answered by Panda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can really do it be there for him. Nothing you can do will take it away. My Mom had breast cancer 10 years ago and it was the hardest thing we kids ever went through. But even harder on her. The treatments for cancer are harsh. It's the only way though. I don't really know about bone cancer though. Just the breast. And now lung cancer she has, so I'm learning about that now. We just found out. So just be there for him. He is going to need alot of help. Someone is going to have to care for him alot. May God Bless you both during all of this.
2007-01-26 08:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by Shari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for him. Let him no he can talk about it if he wants to. Show him love and support. He may be scared that you will leave him because of his illness. He will be very sick with the treatments. He will go through different stages. He may even take frustration out on you but try to remember this is a normal stage that people go through and dont take it to heart.
2007-01-26 08:35:55 · answer #3 · answered by kristy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can also be honest with him... and ask him what he wants from you... and respect that he may want space.
People deal with things in different ways and we have to respect that it's their battle, not ours. Some accept the prognosis and dutifully do what's expected of them and don't want to look elsewhere. Others research beyond what they know and seek answers that inspire them. Whatever path he chooses, support him and let him know.
There are ways our bodies can heal beyond medical explainations, so if ever you percieve that you're facing a "dead end", I encourage you to look beyond. There are many cancer survival miracles from the Gerson therapy - you might want to research that.
2007-01-29 00:11:00 · answer #4 · answered by Zia Grace 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can suggest that he try emu oil gel caps 3 times a day. Emu oil kills cancer cells and is safe to take. One should always consult their doctor before trying anything new.
2007-01-29 15:38:55 · answer #5 · answered by Bruce 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him hope. In 1990, I had Hodgkin's Lymphoma, stage 3-B, but I've survived. Best of luck
2007-01-26 12:40:43 · answer #6 · answered by Dorothy and Toto 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with him, pray with him and be very nice. Read about clay, clay baths, clay drinking with water...it really can help! May God give you the wisdom you need.
2007-01-26 10:59:33 · answer #7 · answered by MV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold his hand and be there to listen to him. Do not talk-really be there to listen to your fiancee. Pray to God for wisdom on how to help him.
2007-01-27 20:51:36 · answer #8 · answered by Learning is fun! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋