How much should i charge my Aunt for me to take care of her mother, my Grandmother?

Question

Heres the thing, shes in a nursing home, she'll be 91 this year, its costing her $4,000.00 a month! She begs( aunt Mary) her daughter, to take her back home every nite,(her house is paid for) she has sum memory loss, needs constant supervision, due to her being off balance when she walks, she has in the past fallen ALOT!!! Aunt Mary asked me to move in there with her an take care of her...I think I'll have the weekends off... Im just stuck on how much i should get paid!!! Please HELP!!!! Kelle*

Answer 1

Guys, she NEEDS to be paid for her services. If she takes care of her grandmother, then she will have no time for a job that does pay. With no money, how can she save money, buys things that she needs, have money for the weekends and so one. Taking care of her grandmother is wonderful, but it is not a great career investment. Eventually she will need to go to school or train in another field or buy her own house. She needs to be paid to do those things.

Answer 2

I am in agreement with some of the people here that say you should not charge because it is your grandmother. However, if I am reading between the lines accurately, there is an aunt that just doesn't want to take up the responsibility herself and she is wanting to pay someone that will do it cheaper than the nursing home is charging. This way the aunt wins two ways. Her mother is being cared for and she can accept credit for having her taken care of in many ways. I'm sure that she would be able to write off most of the expenses on her taxes among other things. You have to consider that she is asking you to be there 24 hours a day and be alert, mind you for at least 5 days a week. That's 120 hours per week. Personally, I would not accept the job but would offer to share my part of the responsibility in watching her a couple of times a week. Just think, if something were to happen to your grandmother while you were getting paid to watch her, who do you think will get blamed? You never mentioned your age or whether you would have to give up other employment opportunities to perform this job. It would be almost impossible to maintain much of a social life either. I think the entire family should share the responsibility of caring for grandma in her last days.

Answer 3

You will have no life being a caregiver. You said you think you get the week-ends off. I hope so.
If she is falling alot, she is probably going to continue this, also some of these patients develop Alzheimer's and start doing crazy things.....She is actually safer in the nursing home, unless you are a nurse.
If this is to be a full time around the clock job for you , you need to consider a few things.
Wages should be at least $10.00 per hour during the day and an overnight flat fee say $20-$30
weekend the rate should go up.
This is a job, you are not doing this as a favour, cause you have to have an income,. I know she is family but this is not sitting in for an hour here or there.
This woman needs a constant companion seeing your aunt can't do it. A companion or live in gets paid. It is as simple as that.
If week-ends are to be off you need to get a contract written up with the specifications including pay.
This is a huge undertaking. You will have to bathe her and do everything. Think this over carefully.....
She will be demanding of your every moment and will frustrate you completely.
You have alot of guts.....

Answer 4

She's family, so I wouldn't. However for those seeking to get paid for being honorable... you'll have to find out how much will it cost to board them, and if you really want to make money charge a daily, or weekly interest. Something you will benifit from...

I never would treat my family like I'm their personalized paid by them, caretaker. Do you ever wonder what people are going to ask for your life?? would it be high or low?

Sorry if this came out cruel, but I take care of elders as a 28 y/o.

Answer 5

If you are giving up a job to watch her then ask for the going rate for care givers. If you are not working then you should take care of your Grandmother for nothing but the pleasure of being there for her. Family is suppose to come together and help one another. What is being paid to the home right now has nothing to do with any arrangement you and your Aunt come to. Please don't get greedy and ask anything near that amount.

Answer 6

Ethically, I think you can help take care of your grandma free of cost but if your Aunt Mary has no problems in paying you, perhaps you can charge her half the amount of what she pays for the amount and time span of service and care that you will give your grandma currently. That should work for both of you well.

Answer 7

Would you be happy with 1/2 of that amount ? IF so then tell your aunt that she can pay you half to do a much more loving job of caring for grandma !!!

You can also add on to your home for a special room for her and it be tax deductible in most cases so check that out !!

Answer 8

well for the love of your grandmother free.staying at your ants house and food free.now if your ant is paying that much. take 1/3 of that. to 1/2 your grandmother must have loved at a time so you can return that love. i know we don't live in a free world if you ant is getting the money then you can.the love that you give your grandmother. in her last days can be ever lasting to you and her she may leave you with a lot more. thank you. have a BIG HUG. on me

Answer 9

You are getting paid. You get to live somewhere without paying rent or mortgage? If you have to pick her up and take her back everyday and this is a financial hardship on you then you can ask for some gas money. But I wouldn't expect much more than that.

Answer 10

enable your sister artwork for loose. yet once you check out what all of those companies value for such care, $one thousand a month is inexpensive!! My youngsters beneficial does no longer help me out for loose. all of us ought to make a living. Your aunt might of been helped by ability of her mom for the time of existence, yet she did no longer ask to be born and your grandma might desire to of advised her NO. by ability of having your guy or woman aunt artwork for her, she'd greater advantageous than probably get greater powerful care!! Your grandmother additionally ought to have assurance which would be paying a large style of the bill if no longer all. yet have your sister do it for loose then. yet i will already enable you comprehend, it gets previous and he or she'll finally end up wanting some thing for her time and potential