I'm 15 years old . I'm always thinking of death because I realized that it chooses people randomly. Whenever they tell me that somebody died I become very scared , I get a shortness of breath and a pounding heart . And whenever the telephone rings I directly think that somebody calls to tell us that there is someone who died. Morover whenever I have any feeling I think that I'm dying or my death is comming soon. can I get over all that?
2007-01-25 23:40:50 · 8 answers · asked by Dejla 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
OK so i had the same problem except i was a bit younger than you were. What you have to do is distract yourself until the thought goes away for good. You're doing homework in the quiet? Turn on the music so the telephone wont surprise you. When you're a kid the only thing you are REALLY afraid of is death, not heights or the dark. Those things are minor. Soon enough you'll learn to accept the fact that everyoen dies. Everyone. When i got sick at that time, i thought i had cancer or something like that, it scared me but i got over it. Since my parents divorced i always thought somthing would happen to my dad. At my dads i thought something would happen to my mom. Nothing happened. I was frightened of alot of things but soon enough the fear goes away. All fears do. Have you ever noticed that when grown ups see scary movies they are never afraid to go to bed at night because there is no fear of getting killed by some maniac killer in the movie? Sure theyre stil scared of somethings but they arent afraid of death and soon neither will you because the realization of the fact that death happens to everyone, happens just like the realization of nothing in life is for free. Good Luck
2007-01-25 23:59:42 · answer #1 · answered by maddy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how that would be scary. I am wondering if you have had people close to you pass away recently? I am 37 years old, and when I was younger I had a fear of dying also. Mostly I think it was because I did not know what was going to happen to my body and spirit when I died. Was that it? Just over, kaput? But as I have gotten older and experienced loved ones dying, I know that death is not the end. I can feel the presence of them, and know that they are watching over me. So when I pass on, I know that my spirit will still be out there. I don't know if you are religious or not, but if so, take comfort in it. Talk to your religious leader about this. They would love to hear from you.
Another thing. You always hear people saying that they didn't tell a person who passed away how much they loved them. Don't make that mistake. Make sure that you always tell people how much they mean to you. Live every day like there may be no tomorrow. That is a positive thing. Enjoy every day, love every person, and LIVE!
2007-01-26 07:54:13 · answer #2 · answered by msjody 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it is natural (or, at least, it's common) to get a bit spooked about death at your age - I did too.
Make sure that you are doing lots of good things in your life that you enjoy and that you talk to plenty of people your own age and older. If you can't talk to your parents, find other adults you can talk to about this problem.
Get lots of exercise because I believe it has a calming effect on most of us and lack of it is so common in the lifestyles we adopt these days.
Eat a good wholesome diet with lots of fresh fruit and veg. Fresh, raw food helps you to feel lively and positive. Eat oats - you are less likely to be jumpy. They have a calming effect on some people - I think it's the maganese in them.
Avoid junk food - especially heavy duty sugar and fats because it gradually makes you feel really bad and lowers your energy levels. It's hard to feel positive when youi feel heavy and listless.
If you don't feel better very soon get professional help.
Good luck!
2007-01-26 08:05:23 · answer #3 · answered by Leaf 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to share these feelings with someone. They are manifestations of other things that are bothering you (that you are quite likely not aware of) and some expert guidance will help you sort things out and feel better. I am in the UK so cannot advise you in the US as to exactly what route you need to take to get support, but if you are at school a counsellor would be a good place to start.
2007-01-26 07:53:16 · answer #4 · answered by Spook 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is going to sound harsh but we're all going to die none of us know when but you've just got to get on with it your not going to live any sort of life if you keep fearing that you or someone else is going to die. you really need to talk to someone. obviously you have experienced a few death and possibly some one close and i'm sorry for this as no one your age should have to experience this so you really need to talk to counsellor as they will be able to help you get over this. try not to worry and live your life and have fun.
2007-01-26 07:52:44 · answer #5 · answered by Shannyn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my dear your getting into psychiatric problem. you have to give auto suggestions to your mind that death is a natural process like changing clothes. But the inner stuff `Atman' migrates to another body. so do not worry about any thing. tell your mind that it has to be very strong on all these phobias or else it will land into a mental hospital. please consult a psychiatrist.
2007-01-26 07:50:35 · answer #6 · answered by simha1950 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah u will eventually, ull just accept death as not something to be feared but an enevatability. it just shows you just live ur life to the full
i whent through something similar when i was young, i had dreams i was trapped inside a coffin. but i eventualy accepted death shouldnt rule my life
2007-01-26 07:48:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to get in touch with God, read the Bible
and Pray. it will solve your problem.
2007-01-26 08:46:16 · answer #8 · answered by snowflake 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋