i found in my boyfriend's wallet the number of 10 prostitues and the location they were at (close to where we both lived together).when i confronted him he admitted thatb in sept last year he started thinking of sleeping with other women, but thought prostitues were a better solution as he didnt want to hurt me . i still love him but cant understand how he thought of doing that to me. he promises he didnt sleep with them... what should i do?? thanks
2007-01-25 23:28:00 · 81 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You've got to either
a - believe him and forgive him for having the numbers and forget about it - move on and look to the future. or
b - don't believe him and end the relationship.
Its a very personal choice, but judging by your language, it seems you are very hurt by this, and are unlikely to be able to forgive him. Unless you can forgive him completely, the relationship has no future - a relationship cannot work without complete trust.
Its a hard choice, and it really boils down to wether you believe him when he says he didn't sleep with them.
Good luck, hope you make the right descision for you.
2007-01-25 23:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-16 13:59:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
assalam o alikum
i dont know how u guys do these things. sleeping with other man/ woman? its all bad. if u like someone, get married, and then do what u want. this is the reason u guys (esp non-muslims) stuck in such kind of problem, this not only develop diseases (such as AIDS), but mental problems as well.
in our religion, it says its prohibit to have relation with any other man (no place for boy friend/ girl friend). our religion stress on marriage and then u can start ur relation (i.e. living together)
this is also the reason that divorce rate is high in west, more depression and loneliness there. some emptiness u will find in everyone life.
my suggestion is stop doing all this, chose a modest man and get married, instead of running after spoil boys. they just use u as tissue paper and throw when they feel bore.
protect yourself!!
my dua, Allah (God) guide us towards the right path, ameen
Allah hafiz
2007-01-25 23:44:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well he obviously is a bit thick isnt he, i mean he didnt want to hurt you... yeah maybe he wouldnt have got feelings for them but it sure would have still hurt you some boys are stupid and need to be learnt a lesson. if your certain that he didnt cheat on you then you stay and make him promise that hell never ever even consider doing this to you again. but on the other hand if he did sleep with someone and your certain of it then i think the best thing you can do is get rid of him, you can do better and you know it.
2007-01-29 06:41:51 · answer #4 · answered by ForbiddenParadise_xo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, these are not the actions of a man who loves you! You must have known something was wrong or what were you doing looking in his wallet? Get out now and find someone who you can trust and who respects you and who you can respect as well. This sort of behaviour will drain you of self confidence. If you don't havre a bottom line of what is acceptable or not, how much further would you let him go before enough is enough?
Hope that helps you.
2007-01-26 00:13:44 · answer #5 · answered by apricot tree 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
His actions could be very dangerous for the both of you. Not only would he be sneaking around you, but in the process, he could become a carrier of some dangerous, irritating, and/or deadly STDs. Prostitutes have been all over the block, and we mustn't forget HIV & AIDS. Guys like this don't easily change. If you love him, TALK to him about it. Why does he want to do this? Because if he is looking in other places to satisfy himself, that means his side of the relationship isn't enough.
My opinion of what your actions should be? Try talking, but if that doesn't help matters, start walking.
2007-01-25 23:38:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should leave that relationship. He will only change his ways when he feels he needs to. Right now he has created an excuse to justify his actions in his own mind. He feels that he has done nothing wrong and will not cease his actions. In addition to the emotional strain on you, there is the physical concern. He could bring numerous sexually transmitted diseases home to you. No amount of forgiveness will cure AIDS. Break off the relationship and find someone mature enough to take responsibility for his actions.
2007-01-25 23:35:18 · answer #7 · answered by fly guy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well on one hand he has been honest and told you why he had the list - but why would he consider sleeping with someone else anyway - I would ask him if he's happy in the relationship - because for him to consider going elsewhere - thats not right is it.
sit him down - tell him your concerns and see if you can work it out. I mean - if he didn't do anything and it was just a crazy man-ish idea - then there is room for forgiveness.
But if he's thinking of straying and his not happy with you - your best to part before you get hurt.
x
2007-01-26 00:44:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's old enough to make his own decisions and those are the ones he has made then maybe you should leave him. I know it will be hard but remember this, he knew that there's always a chance you might find out. If you found out (which you did) it would seriously hurt you (which you are). He knew this could all possible happen yet he still went through with it. Now he's possibly put your health at risk (STD's). I hope that helps you out in your decision making.
2007-01-26 02:26:30 · answer #9 · answered by DLG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They all deny sleeping with them, don't believe it. Get out of the relationship before he brings home a disease.
Find someone who will treat you with respect and not cheat on you. There are good men out there.
I know it won't be easy, but you are obviously very hurt and the best thing in this case, is to move on.
2007-01-25 23:40:27 · answer #10 · answered by kiera70 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋