Does anyone have a child that went to boot camp or youth challenge academy, if so how did it change your child

Question

I have a teen that may be going to a youth challange acd. She doesn't want to go, she's going because she basicly has to. She says that she doesn't want anyone to tell her what to do and yell at her and that is what they will do. She is lazy,a liar, sneaky, un responsable, no ambition, messy, steals, untrustworth and just plan doesn't care about anyone but her self and what she can get out of people. This experence will help if she would change the way she thinks, all i hear is this is the way I am and I don't plan on changing. This is her last chance to make a difference in her life, if not I will ask her to move out ( she is 17) she can't be trusted. I have every door with a lock, she has people at my house when I am not home, people I would not assosiate with.

Answer 1

The question is how much onus are ready to take of her being the way you just described to us in length, only then can you share the responsibility of her healing as it has to be a joint process to be ever worthwhile.

Otherwise blaming her entirely for the way she is, will not help her at all, as she will feel 'LABELLED FOR LIFE, as a challenged youth, and resent you for that, and feel pushed away.

Or you'd rather someone else surrogate for you at the boot cam. So before you give her the 'boot' think twice..

Seek family couselling and ask yourself, how all did you contributed to create such a twisted youth. In truth, all she needs is some loved, affection and above all loving attention, for her to start trusting and honouring herself again, the question is can you do that for her?