he is sick with cancer, often in and out of hospital, we are both 25 yrs old, i love him very much but i am start to feeling my life is too stressed to go on, i just want to have a normal life, is this too selfish? we been out for 18 months
2007-01-25 23:04:47 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is stressful & I'm sorry your both going through this.
If you love this man you shouldn't even need to ask this question,
You would stand by his side through it all.
This is a really sucky time in his life to be dumped, I know I wouldn't want to be in your shoes right now. or his!
If you do love this man, STAND by him help him through this.
You can't just walk away carefree & know he is going through this without you. YOU LOVE HIM!
What if it was a parent, sibling....Would you just walk away because it's easier?
2007-01-25 23:15:07 · answer #1 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I couldn't desert anyone going through this type of illness, whether it be "just a friend" or a significant other. If you can't be there for him when he's sick, then the relationship wasn't there to begin with. You say you love him very much - that includes in sickness and in health and the good with the bad and if the relationship isn't strong enough for that, it won't go anywhere should he be cured either. Do him a favor, if you want to bow out, do so gracefully and don't hurt him any more than necessary. It is understandable that you now want a normal life - this type of illness takes an enormous toll both physically and emotionally, so don't beat yourself down for that. At least you are truthful. My best wishes go to your boyfriend for a speedy, and full, recovery, and also to you, that you find the life you want.
2007-01-25 23:13:51 · answer #2 · answered by ginabgood1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its humorous because i'm a guy dealing with this very similar concern with a woman. And we had only had our first kiss the nighttime in the previous. lol. yet to respond to your question i imagine you'll waste helpful capacity through worrying about the reason. in the experience that your extremely over him, who cares? i recognize how complicated it is, even as someone breaks up with you for no reason, because you sense like you've been well worth sufficient to them for a proof. yet do not imagine about it, it is going to easily make you more desirable indignant. the perfect revenge must be having a valuable relationship with some different person.
2016-10-16 03:19:19 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all very well to say that you don't love him enough or that you should stay because it's the right thing, but that's not reality. He wouldn't want you to stay out of sympathy, but don't just desert him either. Like others have said, be a friend. Talk to him - it will be painful, but better in the long run. You haven't been going out for long, so it was a lot to take when you should have been having fun. Don't feel bad, it's very natural to feel the way you do, but try to support him.
2007-01-25 23:21:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a significant reason if you're not in love. What if you were married to him? would you be serving divorce papers to him as he lay sick, looking for some comfort? The reason I say this is one of my close friends just survived leukemia, and her boyfriend broke it off with her during her sickness. I think it made it worse for her because she needed someone like him to make her happy, and have a worthwhile life. Luck for her, all her friends were with her for the thick of it to help her through with not only the breakup, but her cancer.
I would never be able to break up with my boyfriend for a reason such as sickness, the idea makes ME sick. My worst fear would be him dying as I stand by his side, but that would push me to be with him as much as I could. Go over in your mind if you really love him or not. if you look deep, the answer may surprise you.
2007-01-25 23:23:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though the reason you wish to break up is the stress. Any reason is good enough to break up because continuing the relationship when you no longer feel the same about a person is only going to hurt them in the future. If you can not remain with him, then break it off quickly and gently. Understand that he will be hurt and that he is stressed too. Whatever you do, don't drag it out. It can only lead to more pain.
2007-01-25 23:16:55 · answer #6 · answered by fly guy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not IF you love him. I was married and had a great high paying job. I became Disabled in 2000 and my so called wife did not want to have anything to do with me because I could not work. I guess she loved the money more then me. Well I am happy to say that the Bee Atch is out of my life and we are divorced. I see someone every now and then that cares about me and not what I am. (disabled) Put yourself in his place and see how you would like it.
2007-01-25 23:15:16 · answer #7 · answered by Ex Head 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can I just say that he often feels that life is too stressed to go on. He just wants a normal life.
2007-01-25 23:14:26 · answer #8 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How are you going to feel about this in a few years? Is it going to be, "I broke up with that poor guy, and then he died?", or, "I broke up with him, and now he's healthy with a nice wife and they both think I'm a fink". Break up with him if you are not happy together. Maybe it'll get better if he gets healthy, then he'll always remember you went through this with him. If he's a jerk, you can break up with him and not feel bad about it, but don't just toss him aside because he's broken.
2007-01-25 23:17:18 · answer #9 · answered by kfarq2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I reckon he thinks that he doesn't spend enough time with you because of his sickness. He believes there is someone better out there willing to spend more time with you. He doesn't want to waste your time when you could be spending time with someone else.
Its only my opinion though.
2007-01-25 23:12:24 · answer #10 · answered by Hmmmmm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋