My boy is in the Canadian Air Force...he went away on course for 41/2 days he had two 12 hour on call shifts and the rest of the time was confirmed to be xbox 360 and drinking time. He called me twice on one night once sobre the other time drunk and has not phoned since last night they had a big party with free booze. I don't want to be a naggy girlfriend or not understanding of him but I think he should have tried phoning more than one day which was just to check up on me to see what I was doing. He left his cell phone home on purpose it was no accident. He is coming home today and I feel really hurt - should I ignore these feelings and be more understanding. We have been together for about 3 months and he says he loves me but I think actions speak louder than words. Please help!! :(
2007-01-25 22:54:36 · 4 answers · asked by valleygal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you talk openly to him what's your problem.
2007-01-25 23:02:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you will learn that guys don't think like we do. he may have felt that he called you once so you should be happy, you are sitting at home waiting for him to call and he probably got wrapped up with his friends. Only 3 months into the relationship is not long at all, I must warn you that early in the relationship if you get this upset and demanding you may make him feel pressured and your clingyness may actually push him away. back off and give him a little space after doing 2 12 hour shifts he may be tired.
2007-01-26 07:04:15 · answer #2 · answered by kissybertha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I know how you feel. I am one that likes to make my feelings known and discuss them right away, If I don't, it will just bother the heck out of me. But then again, saying nothing, acting as if it didn't bother you, makes them wonder what's going on. And could scare him into getting his act together or lead to one or the other of you walking away from the relationship. Either way, You nip it in the bud before it gets worse.
2007-01-26 07:04:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak your truth. Share the data, the feelings, the judgments. Then ask for what you want. Whatever that is.
I invite you to think about whether this is the right relationship for you. Are you getting what you want in a relationship?
These things are hard work. Good luck.
2007-01-26 07:03:54 · answer #4 · answered by andybirkhead 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋