I was with a guy for four years. To me it was the best relationship. We had loads in common and we enjoyed the same humour. Unfortunately we're not of the same culture and a year a go his family wanted him to marry a girl of the same culture. The way he ended things between us wasn't the best and left me unable to stay friends with him at all and left me wondering if he really did care for me. It's been over a year now, i know he's with someone else now but i still miss him so much....will i ever get over him
2007-01-25 22:49:28 · 23 answers · asked by Caz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love is for idiots and chicks.
2007-01-25 23:07:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do not say how far to go back to, but I remember a girl in school a long long time ago. My parents called it "Puppy Love" which I know now it was, BUT that LOVE is one of the STRONGEST there ever will be. Then there were two girls in my Senior Class in Senior High School that I have never forgot about. One of them, if we havent changed that much since then, I would drop everything just to spend a few minutes with her. I have never, and will never get over this girl. Even though we haven't seen or talked to ne another in over 30 years, I STILL think about her, and often wondered what it would have been like if we had got married and raised a family together. I STILL love her with all my heart as she was the best thing ever to happen to me just about.
2007-01-26 07:01:47 · answer #2 · answered by Ex Head 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this isn't something you can answer from a source due to the type of question it is. But I think the majority of answers will be, "yes you will eventually get over it" Anyway here is my opinion.
Everything over time gradually fades in significance. Forever is not a word that exist in my opinion. The most common response you will get it "deal with it" (I know that's harsh but there's really no good solution) I don't know the culture of the guy you speak of, but in most cases if he truly loved you it shouldn't be an issue. No matter what the family wanted. (Again please keep in mind that it depends on what culture he is)
The only advice I can give is, see him again. Your not going to get a happy fairytale ending, but if you were as close to him as you say, it's likely to have affected him deeply. My point however, is don't leave him in your past as someone you think would make an ideal partner. There's nothing worse then looking back at someone you think was perfect.
If unable, you really have no choice but to wait it out.
2007-01-26 07:02:44 · answer #3 · answered by Ashyuki 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your first love will always hold a place i your heart as it was the first. But you do get over a first love. You learn to except what has happened and move on. You are eventually able to look back and smile without feeling loss. It just takes some people longer than others, and it always depends on how deep the hurt lies.
Instead of trying to wonder why and holding on to the past. Get your self involved in new things and people. Try and remember good times and don't dwell on the bad.
Keep the past in the past and live for the future and the new loves to come that will sweep you off your feet and be 10x better than the first!
2007-01-26 07:02:16 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow - that's a tough one. I went through something similar. The answer is yes and no. Like you, I never had closure with a girl I dated because her father made us break up, so she was always there in the back of my mind. But I ran into her several years later after she divorced and I married. We became friends again, and we were able to finally put that whole thing behind us. So while she will always be my first love, that relationship has been resolved and I can put it behind me knowing that it wasn't meant for us to be together in that way. Good luck.
2007-01-26 06:56:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you will - well I hope you will for your sake. I think you might find he ended things in such a nasty way for your own benefit - this way he doesn't get to see you or how hurt you are from how things have worked out.
He's probably done the best thing for you - as he couldn't go against his family and cultural wishes - he has made it easier on you by walking away.
If I were you, I would pick yourself up, dust yourself off and just go and enjoy life for a bit. Time is great healer and you need to focus more on the fact that he did this to protect you.
good luck
x
2007-01-26 08:53:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many times
2007-01-27 12:33:19 · answer #7 · answered by Happy Hobbit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha...what a coincidence..my ex (my first love) and i were also four years and we broke up a year and six months ago. To be painfully honest, i am not still over him and i still love him this much. It pains me to see him with other girls but crying is my only option since i have no right. I'm only an ex girlfriend.
I think we'll get over them but it will take a really really long time, a lot of sacrifices, and a lot of wounds to heal. It wouldn't be easy, but eventually it will work.just pray hard and help yourself. Spend quality time with family and friends, throw away his mementos so that you wouldn't remember him, and i suggest you sever all your communication..
good luck with moving on.
2007-01-26 07:01:13 · answer #8 · answered by frisky_pink_bunny22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can really sympathise with you i was with my ex bf who was from a different culture to me for two years and we we SO in love but things change people change and it turned out we couldnt be together in the end. i still love him very much and not a day goes by when i dont think about him. i dont think i will ever forget what we had and some days i still hope he will come back. i dont think i will ever get over him unfortunately but i try not to dwell on it too much. if you ever need to talk please do not hesitate to contact me
2007-01-26 13:43:21 · answer #9 · answered by tania 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First Love... I remember it like it was yesterday... Feels good too!!
Anyway, I don't think you ever fully get over your first love. Of course, you'll move on and be really happy with the next person but when you think back on your first love you get a warm fuzzy feeling inside.. Even if you wouldn't touch them now!!
Accept it's over but never forget it! It's a wonderful feeling and even more so because he loved you back!
Time for you to move on with your life now
Good Luck...
2007-01-26 07:05:09 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get over your first love but there no need to forget him. As his life has been planned for him, then you must move on If he really loved you, he would have gone against his parent wishes, this he failed to do, plus he dumped you badly,so move on girl and make a fresh start
2007-01-30 06:32:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋