He can't move on because he can't get over the pain of a marriage that ended years ago. He says he loves me but..
I love him so much, but I don't think I can live in a shadow or be in a relationship that won't be more than it is now. I don't know what to do.
2007-01-25 22:37:25 · 7 answers · asked by JustMe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he insist on living in the past, then he will never be truly committed to you. He needs to choose whether he wants to move forward with you or to continue pining for what was. If he still can not move on, then you should. You should never have to settle for being second best in his life.
2007-01-25 22:44:07 · answer #1 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's too busy suffering about his failed marriage to fully engage with you. You are right, you can't live in the shadow of this misery. Do you spend a lot of time comforting him? He may be hooked on having people feel sorry for him. The last thing you want is to ba an old lady holding his hand while he cries about the one who got away...
2007-01-25 22:45:09 · answer #2 · answered by kfarq2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's not willing to give up his independance since he's finally gotten it back. I don't blame him one bit. He may love you, but he also loves himself and still has the need for that healing that comes from independance and not being tied into a relationship that you're trying to push on him. Lighten up and enjoy your life and enjoy your time with him. It will happen if you quit being selfish and self-centered about it. A bad marriage is a scarring and traumatic event. And pushing on him, will remind him of what he had, not what he can have!
2007-01-25 22:45:07 · answer #3 · answered by brainiac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could try counsleing for both of you liek a marriage counselor they do relationships not juts married people.. i guaranteee it wil work pay about 90 an hr make 2 sessions it is worth that much aint it to know or see. you can spend that on 2 hotel nights so....you cant go forth unless he gets counsleing and you need it too to be with him to know whats up the counselor will tell ya what is needed.
2007-01-25 22:42:37 · answer #4 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is he with you ?it's quite obvious he is still in love with the ex wife move on three in a relationship doesnot work.
2007-01-25 22:58:32 · answer #5 · answered by flossypants 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you should not date such guy, that will bring too many problems. They are not looking for a girlffriend or wife but for somenew mother, someone who pampers them and whom they can tell how bad the world is, especially THEIR world. If he can't let lose, you should.
2007-01-25 22:43:27 · answer #6 · answered by male4girlz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a break from him for awhile, people don't know what they have until they lose it.
2007-01-25 22:42:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋